I posted here a while ago. My next door neighbor suddenly stopped talking to me or acknowledging me or my husband and children about two years ago. We were only at a hello level anyway, nothing happened that either of us can think of except that we, extremely politely, asked that they stop having their dog p*ss in front of our house as it was killing the grass my husband planted. They have an enormous dog and zero yard, it lives entirely inside, so they have to bring it out to the nature strip. Our sons (at same school) did not hit it off, and so as to avoid any tension with someone so close by, I’ve requested they be placed in separate classes for the last couple of years. All fine. She also asked for a play date but my son did not want to go. So we didn’t, but I made a polite excuse. She also treats our lovely neighbour on the other side the exact same way.
Anyway, her husband is friendly (even chatty) so I just put it down to her problem and left it. I cannot stress the fact that we’ve had no interaction (for years!) and the fact there was no serious incident enough before I move to the next part.
Our children are at school together. They don’t interact, are in different classes, so it’s not that. For various reasons, I’ve not been involved with the school drop off or anything like that at all for well over 18 months. I went in the other night for parent teacher night and she was there. She was sitting with some parents I recognised in a group of 4. So I waved and said hello. She ignored me, completely. It was obvious to everyone and so awkward. The others gave me sort of tight strained smiles. I don’t know these women either beyond who their kids are and their names. But we used to say hello at parties etc and make chit chat. It was a group snubbing, that caught me completely off guard.
I am genuinely friendly with some other Mums (occasionally socialise with them etc). One of them told me that the neighbor woman had been gossiping about me and had, without knowing she was talking to my friend, said I was “weird”.
WHAT THE ACTUAL? I do not know this person. She doesn’t know me! We are all nearly 40! This is like a high school mean girls situation where she’s said nasty things and these grown women are listening?!
It’s just so strange. I wouldn’t let it bother me, but my son is at school with these people’s kids. It could impact him socially. I have no idea what she’s been saying. And what are they modeling here?
I can’t approach her to discuss anything because if she sees me leaving the house etc, she literally hides behind her letterbox rather than wave. And what would I say? Why have you been saying mean things about me? It’s just so crazy. We do not interact, ever. How would she even know if I’m weird at all? I am, but I’m also nice?
Can I ignore this ridiculousness or do I need to address it? Don’t people have better things to do with their time? I’m 40! Good lord.
Edited by livelifelovehappy, 23 February 2020 - 10:39 PM.