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#1 hills mum bec

Posted 14 May 2020 - 11:57 AM

DD15 is about to get braces.  DH made the appointment yesterday and when we got the SMS confirmation we realised that it is DD's 16th birthday on that day.  She wants to sit for her learners licence on her 16th birthday which was not going to happen being a school day and we live quite a distance from the licence office but now with the orthodontist appointment she will have the day off so it is feasible that she could sit the test in the morning before her appointment as they are not far from each other.  DD says she isn't fussed if we reschedule the appointment or leave it on her birthday but she is also the most easygoing person you have ever met and I often tell her she needs to be more assertive and speak up if she doesn't like something.  She won't.  Should I change the appointment?

#2 Riotproof

Posted 14 May 2020 - 11:59 AM

Nope. She’s telling you it’s fine. Believe her.

Hope she gets her Ls.

#3 SeaPrincess

Posted 14 May 2020 - 11:59 AM

I wouldn’t, but when I tried to change a similar appointment with our orthodontist, the next available appointment was 3 months away.

#4 Mooples

Posted 14 May 2020 - 12:02 PM

Originally when I read orthodontist appointment I thought no but given she will now get the day off, assumably one of you will be with her so could go for a nice lunch somewhere then potentially getting her L’s that sounds like a pretty cool birthday.

Only thing to be weary of is in case she doesn’t pass, will it dampen her mood for the rest of her birthday? A friend of mine failed her driving test on her 18th birthday and she then didn’t want to do anything else to celebrate on the day.

#5 Julie3Girls

Posted 14 May 2020 - 12:05 PM

When are you celebrating her birthday?
From my experience, I wouldn’t want to have my child getting their braces in their birthday - kind of wipes out birthday dinner.
That said, orthodontist appts can be really hard to change, so it might easier to make sure you have celebrated already.  Added bonus is being able to go for her Ls on the day as well - might balance out the braces going on.

#6 melanieb530

Posted 14 May 2020 - 12:34 PM

I’d organise to do both together and take the whole day off school and have a birthday dinner a day or two beforehand as it won’t be so good to eat the first few days.

#7 born.a.girl

Posted 14 May 2020 - 12:36 PM

 melanieb530, on 14 May 2020 - 12:34 PM, said:

I’d organise to do both together and take the whole day off school and have a birthday dinner a day or two beforehand as it won’t be so good to eat the first few days.


I was thinking about the eating the night of the birthday, too. Can't remember how long before the discomfort set in, whether it was hours or days, but the initial discomfort can be significant.

#8 lizzybirdsworth

Posted 14 May 2020 - 12:38 PM

I would try swap if it is possible. As nice as it would be to spend the day together, getting fitted for braces and the after pain can be quite uncomfortable and miserable for some. I know I was. If it was just an adjustment or general appointment then I would keep it.

#9 CallMeFeral

Posted 14 May 2020 - 01:09 PM

Much like what pp has said.

If it's a pre appointment just getting a mold done or something, then it should be fine to leave it as is.

But if it's the day of literally getting the braces on, that can be pretty unpleasant and it wouldn't be unusual for the rest of the day to be pretty miserable, and possibly unable to eat. So if it's that appointment, I'd shift it.

#10 seayork2002

Posted 14 May 2020 - 01:10 PM

View PostRiotproof, on 14 May 2020 - 11:59 AM, said:

Nope. She’s telling you it’s fine. Believe her.

Hope she gets her Ls.

This, if I tell some one 'it is ok' 'it's fine' 'I am happy with it' etc.

it is and I want to believed it drives me mad when people question it

#11 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 14 May 2020 - 01:27 PM

View PostCallMeFeral, on 14 May 2020 - 01:09 PM, said:

Much like what pp has said.

If it's a pre appointment just getting a mold done or something, then it should be fine to leave it as is.

But if it's the day of literally getting the braces on, that can be pretty unpleasant and it wouldn't be unusual for the rest of the day to be pretty miserable, and possibly unable to eat. So if it's that appointment, I'd shift it.

Agree, if it’s the actual braces day, postpone it. She won’t even be able to eat cake for a few days after, and she won’t have realised that when she said she didn’t mind.

#12 -Belinda-

Posted 14 May 2020 - 01:50 PM

Not sure what state you are in, but Vicroads are currently not doing L plate tests so it might not be possible anyway.

#13 hills mum bec

Posted 14 May 2020 - 01:53 PM

View Post-Belinda-, on 14 May 2020 - 01:50 PM, said:

Not sure what state you are in, but Vicroads are currently not doing L plate tests so it might not be possible anyway.

We are in SA and they have just restarted the L plate tests this week.  Still can't have driving lessons with an instructor.

#14 Julie3Girls

Posted 14 May 2020 - 03:40 PM

View Post-Belinda-, on 14 May 2020 - 01:50 PM, said:

Not sure what state you are in, but Vicroads are currently not doing L plate tests so it might not be possible anyway.
NSW never stopped the L plate knowledge test - it’s just a computer test. Our local one simply made it one person at a time (side room with 3 computers normally)
Driving tests were stopped.

#15 Aughra

Posted 14 May 2020 - 03:56 PM

I don’t know what getting braces is like these days, but when I got mine 20 years ago it was horrible (physically and mentally).  It’s not a great way to celebrate a birthday.

Hopefully it’s a much easier process now.

#16 Freddie'sMum

Posted 14 May 2020 - 04:00 PM

I would -

a.  Keep the appt
b.  Do the driver's test at a later date
c.  Do a special birthday dinner and cake - the night before the appt.

#17 Dianalynch

Posted 14 May 2020 - 04:24 PM

It can be kind of nice to be at school on your birthday, friends make a fuss...I’d just check she’s cool with missing that and happy with the appt / learner’s test instead.

#18 zande

Posted 14 May 2020 - 06:31 PM

The eating part of the birthday will be difficult for that day and a few after. Both my DDs have had braces fitted - one only a month ago - and the first few days, including the first night, were jelly, custards, a heap of soft foods. Depends what a birthday dinner looks like in your family, but we always do a special dinner, so no, I wouldn’t have made ortho appts on my girls’ bdays.

Edited by zande, 14 May 2020 - 06:31 PM.


#19 can'tstayaway

Posted 15 May 2020 - 08:21 PM

My DS got his Learners a few weeks ago. It’s an online test that he could complete ahead of time. On the day, it was just a matter of taking in identification documents and to have the photo taken.

My kids have Invisalign braces. The first day wasn’t a big deal. They pop them off to eat so it wasn’t a big deal. DH had old school braces and the memory of it was still so traumatic that he was in tears the day DS got his braces. He couldn’t believe how much of a non-issue the kids are finding the Invisalign.

I’d keep the appointment.




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