Tammy, Sarzy and Jillian – Cute pics! And Tammy – I was going to say that my favorite is Tia in the stripy hat – but Sarzy beat me to it
Belinda – I actually love planning weddings! Not that I’m married mind you (been bridesmaid 6 times, even getting my license to be a celebrant and DP still hasn’t asked me! I’ve threatened to conduct the ceremony one night while he’s sleeping). DP managed a top wedding venue/catering place in Sydney for 5 years – won all the awards, so if you have a specific question ...feel free to PM me
Have you girls sent your thank you cards off yet for baby gifts? I had a cute pic printed out and stuck card on the back (with matching envelope) Quite proud of myself that I've signed off on that.
On another note...I had my own Princess of Darkness last night. Oh My God, Frances was terribly unsettled from 12.30 - 2.30am, then fed and fussed on the boob all night. She didn't sleep for longer than an hour at a time. I gave her a bath at 11am and she's now been sleeping for 3.5 hours.
She really seemed distressed - and I know that she is ok to settle herself, so I was sure it wasn't grumpyness or over tiredness. I went searching for some info online and I'm pretty sure she had heartburn. Here's a snippet from an interview with Tracy Hogg the Baby Whisperer (sorry for the length, just ignore if it doesn't interest you!:
T: Right. What you’ll find for a newborn is that they don’t do that, because they’re nasal breathers. What you’ll see for a newborn is that they’ll shut off very quickly. And you think, there, I’ve done it, he’s asleep. But a couple of minutes later, they’ll start up again.
Let’s talk about newborns: It takes a newborn 20 minutes to go from consciousness to being deeply asleep. A lot of moms, when still teaching sleep, that is when they’ll leave the room at 10 minutes, and then the baby starts to fuss and wake up and then they’ll have to go back in and spend another 20 minutes getting them to go to sleep again. The essence there is to stay the whole 20 minutes, because then you’ll get a baby who’s going to sleep a whole hour and a half to two hours. Really, this is by you just standing there 20 minutes.
Now, eventually, over 3 or 4 days you won’t have to stand there that length of time because they’ll start to learn the skill of going to sleep – but in the beginning it’s well worth that 20 minutes of your time to watch your baby go through those three definite stages. It’s usually after about 10 minutes that they drop into the second stage, and that’s when they’ll wake themselves up.
Q: Now this is assuming that you’re putting them down at stage 1, basically, that you’ve made it to that point.
T: Right. Usually an infant up to 3 months – well actually, if you like, 8 weeks, doesn’t generally cry because they’re being put down, it’s because they’re overtired. And also it could be because they’ve got a little bit of heartburn. That’s why I ask parents, always from day one, have a slight elevation on your mattress. Because their digestive system is very immature, and they tend to get heartburn, which if it’s not – I always go with prevention rather than cure, that’s why I elevate all mattresses for all newborns, full stop – but if it starts to get really bad, with putting a newborn down you really have to see if this is the problem. I was just talking the other day with a dad who said we’ve been resorting to accidental parenting because we can’t put him down, and clearly with all the signs he gave me, the baby’s got esophageal reflux. They took him to the doctor, who sent them to a gastroenterologist, and the baby’s got very severe reflux.
Q: Can we list here what those signs are?
T: Some of the signs are: Explosive poops. Fussing and bobbing on and off the breast, and crying. And the cry is clearly uncomfortable, and on and off all day. They’ll make a wincing noise when they swallow. They clearly bring the legs up, but it’s more things like bobbing on and off – they don’t necessarily have to spit up. That’s a common misunderstanding; sometimes people think it has to be as extensive as projectile vomiting. But that’s not the case. Heartburn, you know yourself if you’ve got heartburn you don’t spit up. If it comes into the upper part of the esophagus, then you’ll see spitting up. But normally, it’s the lower part, just above the sphincter to the stomach where they’ll feel the burning sensation.
Now these babies like to feed a lot, because when they’re swallowing, it eases the pain. So they tend to want to feed regularly ever hour or hour and a half, and then they fall asleep. This is how parents get confused, because they’re giving the appearance of hunger, and then fighting on the breast after a couple of sips, or even with a bottle, they’ll fight, because they can’t swallow fast enough. That’s why I’ll use the Haberman feeder, because conventional bottles flow too quickly.