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Posted 25 August 2008 - 05:41 PM
I'd be saying no just on the fact its something you call your daughter, its a personal thing between you and her and now your MIL decides she wants in? no thanks!
Posted 25 August 2008 - 06:30 PM
Bu (pronounced boo) is an Indonesian word short for Ibu. Ibu is used for formality eg. for a teacher instead of miss mrs etc. Bu is affectionate/informal - aunty, mum, nana etc.
Edited by ~maryanne~, 25 August 2008 - 06:33 PM.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:00 PM
FIL wanted dd to call him by his first name, even though he is "Poppa" to his other grandchildren. Stoopid SIL who lives with FIL wanted to be called Noni, apparently every child she has met has called her this as it is far too hard to say Fiona and she didn't want to be called "Aunty" anything.
I said "sure, whatever you'd like", while thinking "not gonna happen". FIL is now grampa and SIL is Fi-Fi - pmsl.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:05 PM
Although it sounds slightly stupid, I'd do as she's asked. In my view, it would be a bit petty not to.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:10 PM
I called my grandmother Boo - it was one of those mispronunication things when I was about 18 months and it stuck! So I think it's a cute name, but that's cos it's incredibly special to me. I honestly don't think I'd get upset about what my Mum or MIL wanted to be called - it jsut so happens that MIL was already Nan and my Mum wanted to be Granny.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:13 PM
I don't think it's that bad
My DD when she was born had
A Lola and a Pop (In laws)
A Lola and a Lolo (great in laws)
A Grandma and a Pop (great in laws)
A Granny and a Grumpy (Great grand parents)
A Nana and a Nopa (my parents)
A Nana and a Grandpa (great grand parents)
I think she got confused lol
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:15 PM
Sorry, I haven't read all the replies but perhaps someone should remind this grandmother that consistency is a very important thing when raising children and she can't even get it right with her name!
I don't think it is an appropriate name but I would probably focus more on the constant changing than the actual choice of name.
Forgot to add; MissDemeanor, My Dad is Grumpy now that everyone can say the "r" sound.
Edited by whateverworks, 25 August 2008 - 07:17 PM.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:19 PM
Whatever floats her boat really. Saying that my DD calls my dad Manny obviously because it rhymes with granny and he is a man duh!!!
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:26 PM
Whatever floats her boat really
Why don't you just leave it up to your MIL and your daughter? I don't see why you'd want to get involved. It's much simpler to let them sort it out.
Agree with these! Not sure what the big deal is?
Posted 25 August 2008 - 07:51 PM
I just dont get what the big deal is with having to have different names for various grandparents.
My kids have 7 grandparents and when we refer to them it's Nanny P.... or Nanny L..... or Grandad H or Grandad J etc.
For crying out loud they are grandparents and proud!
and... just for the record..... if your DD somehow did come up with the name Boo or any other cutesy name on her own then that is a completely different story! But MIL requesting it.....
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:03 PM
so the other women here don't have an issue with the fact this is your nickname for your daughter??
sorry i find that really rude she has chosen something so special between you and your little girl.
both my husband and I have personal nicks for the kids, for example my youngest is mr squeakypants or cheekychops and if my mother in law requested to have that as her nickname i'd think she was a bit odd and i'd find it rather rude.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:13 PM
My MIL has insisted on DD using her first name, instead of 'grandma' or any of those.
I think it is wierd, and so do the rest of her family - her kids and her sisters etc. At first they would all say 'go to grandma' etc, but she must have drummed it into them, cos noone does it now.
She said is it because her family don't stand on ceremony, and they don't call anyone 'aunty joan' etc either.
I never thought 'nana' etc was that ceremonial - more a term of affection, but anyway...
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:14 PM
We started out on DH's side with Nana & Papa which was fine. My parents are Nanny & Poppy. We also had a Gamma (great grandma (Il's side) and a Ninni (parents side). So that was all good as no double up or name confusion.
Now MIL wants to be called Nani (said like Nanny) also but wants to spell it differently - like that makes a diiference to a 13 month old! LOL
I understand your problem and really what kind of a name is Boo. I would just keep saying 'hello; whatever her name use to be' and bub will then recognise and call her that when the time comes. At least thats what I am doing here!
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:20 PM
My mil wanted us to use Mi Mi and Pop Pop. We stuck to our guns and only ever referred to them as Nana and Pop.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:22 PM
My DD calls (we call) my Mum and her partner Nanna and Pa (but often call Mum Nannoooo) and my Dad and his wife are Boppa and Nanna Pat.
My IL's she can call whatever she likes, as long as they never call us
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:26 PM
I think it is the child's right to call them what they wish which no doubt will be a derivative from their grandparental name, but Boo is just ridiculous IMO - what does this teach the child about their relation exactly?
DS will know my parents as 'Nan' and 'Granddad' and DH's parents as 'Grandma' and 'Poppy' even though MIL insists on being called 'Gaga' which is a name that stuck when their eldest grand-daughter mispronounced it as a toddler. I can't stand it so in discussion with DS she is referred to as 'Grandma' and when the time comes he will call her what he wishes.
My aunt is affectionately known as 'Mum' by her two grandsons (who live overseas) and of course their mum is 'Mummy' so each (child) to their own.
My parents are much more sens(ETA????)ible of course.
Edited by Neenee, 25 August 2008 - 08:29 PM.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:32 PM
It reminds me of American R+B songs
If you are stuck for ideas, maybe you could suggest what I used to call my grandparents when I was a little tacker - Dumpy (him) and Dummy (her)
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:40 PM
My grandma decided she wanted her great-grandchildren to call her Bubba. No idea why - she just decided it one day and her oldest great grandchild was 15 at the time! Anyway we all thought it was a bit weird but went with it and now the whole family and half of her friends call her Bubba.
If it is a special name for your daughter than I think that's off that she wants to be called that name and wonder why? Is she trying to take this special name, that's not nice. Other than that reason, personally, it wouldn't matter to me what a grandma/pa wanted to be called, its their choice really. Same as I choose to have my kids call me 'Mummy' not my first name or mother etc
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:48 PM
My MIL gets called "mumma" it takes all my strength to convince myself that DD (20 months) can't say G'ma rather than her replacing me for MIL as Mumma. (she calls me mummy now)MIL looks after her FT.
My parents are Bronna and G'pa
My own Gmother is Mama because the first cousin couldn't say G'ma and it stuck through the years. Mama hates it but that's her name.
I don't think it matters too much but I can tell you if Brooke starts calling MIL "Mummy" i will take serious action. Might even quit work!
Edited by FiFiLicious, 25 August 2008 - 08:49 PM.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 08:56 PM
I don't see what the problem is. I don't think it necessary to call grandparents traditional names. Why should you dictate what her name is?
Posted 25 August 2008 - 09:24 PM
We have a few Nans etc so we needed seperate names for our own sanity!
My dad ~ Poppy.
My Mum + hubby ~ Nan + Tony.
MIL + partner ~ Grammy + Ian. Grammy was chosen by MIL. I had no issue. DS tends to still use Nanny; but does know who Grammy is.
FiL + wife ~ Grumps + Paddy. Paddy is a NN that FIL has for his wife.
My grandparents ~ Nan + Pop.
DH's maternal grandparents ~ Nanny + Poppy. Poppy deceased.
DH's paternal grandparents ~ Nana + farna(sp?).
I don't get 'Boo' at all.
DS has named SIL 'Moo'. This came about as her name is Emily, which to my toddler is Em Moo Me, and eventually that was shortened to Moo.
Posted 25 August 2008 - 09:29 PM
does she know for sure that you call your DD 'boo' all the time as a nickname?
Honestly i think it should be the grandparents choice what they are called, not dictated to them.
I also think you're within your right to tell her you think its a silly name or that you'd prefer her not to as you use it all the time as a name for DD. But really when it comes down to it the final decision is up to 'boo'
Posted 25 August 2008 - 09:34 PM
My MIL has two primary school aged grandkids and they call her 'Goo' - she prefers it.
My youngest two will obviously call her Goo also.
Each to their own. It doesn't really bother me.
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