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Posted 30 April 2009 - 08:41 AM
New thread time ladies.
Posted 30 April 2009 - 08:45 PM
Boo! I'm still around! Busy with and 3 big boys...
No time in the day for me, I feel like a referee at home. Trying hard to make Sasha more confident being the big brother so that he can give the positive attention Valentino needs. He looks up to him so much and is often shot down when he tries to be like him. Raf is copying all the bad habits that Valentino learns from school so that has been .
Leo is keeping up with his brothers on the loudness scale.
I have stoped swimming during the term as we have soccer training on Wed., Thurs and 2 games on Saturday. They did a intense 5 day swim lessons in the holidays and Valentino can now swim alone!
My goal for the year is to give them more confidence, shout less and to have 4 happy boys!
Edited by map70, 30 April 2009 - 08:56 PM.
Posted 08 May 2009 - 07:40 PM
Just got made redundant. I had a choice, go full time or leave. Wasnt quite the outcome I was expecting in the new restructure, but I got a good payout, so I wont have to get another job until Christmas.
I have 8 weeks notice period which I have to work out, but I am allowed to go for interviews during that time.
Bugger of a time to be looking for part time work, but I think I am going to have a change of tack and maybe start my own consulting business. Need to work a few things out with my accountant, but I want to work less and get paid more (doesnt everyone!) so I think that I could potentially do that if I worked for myself.
I was a bit shocked and upset when it happened but after a day or two of calling all my networks and speaking to an outplacement consultant about my CV, I dont think I will have too much trouble finding anything to do.
If I cant get paid work I will do some pro bono work for not for profit companies until something paid comes up.
A girlfriend has a consulting business of her own and she is going to let me work under her company if I need to so that I dont have the expense of setting up my own straight away.
That's my big news, cant think of anything else at the moment!
Posted 11 May 2009 - 02:30 PM
Oh Ma Gosh Len! That's huge news. Am so sorry to hear of that. But glad to hear that your payout was OK & that you have options.
Take some time out to work out your priorities life/work & what you really WANT to do. Hope it all works out well.
Posted 20 May 2009 - 05:33 PM
I am not sure if any of you got to see the 50 page WDYT thread on Same sex marriage yesterday, but it got pretty nasty with some of the religious zealots on here saying some pretty horrible things and likewise some equally horrible things being said back in retaliation.
I got completely fired up about this, as I just cant believe that religious arguments are allowing legalised discrimination. And having to read some of those religious arguments on EB made me so angry that I felt like I had to do something about it.
As there was so much support for the SS couples on EB, a new thread has been started where we can show our support for SS couples and actually do something about it. Around 50 EBers have made submissions in the past 24 hours to the Human Rights Consultation at the Attorney General's department.
I dont know if you have any views on the matter but if you are supportive and want to help here is the link to the second thread (the first one was shut down and deleted):
This has been keeping me distracted from work. Still havent found out my leaving date yet we are negotiating extending it a bit longer.
Posted 21 May 2009 - 10:59 AM
Len - I went and had a read, and ended up making a submission. Well done on raising the profile of the issue. And good luck on the work front - thinking of you!
Be back soon,
Posted 27 May 2009 - 09:14 PM
Where is everyone?
update on my work situation. None of the team ended up applying for any of the new jobs in the team. One resigned, and two went to other areas. So I am the only one left! Managed to negotiate to stay until August so that I reach the date that my long service leave is due. Another 6 weeks pay on top of the money I was already offered and with a delayed end date, should see me through to maybe March or April next year.
I am pretty confident I will find something to do by then!
I was invited to be a guest speaker at my school today to the year 11s and 12s. They wanted people to talk about their careers in law. When I was asked I told the organiser that I didnt have anything complimentary to say about it, that I hated the study and working as a lawyer, but they still wanted me to speak. I gave it warts and all, and I could see some of the parents in the audience werent very happy about it.
Despite being sacked, I am still reeking havoc at work. I am presenting a paper tomorrow to the Executive suggesting we slash the staff in a business unit by half. Now the shoe is on the other foot I feel a bit bad about it, but I cant do much about it now. They will all be joining me in the dole queue.
Better get the kids to bed they are suspiciously quiet.
Posted 04 June 2009 - 12:46 PM
It looks like I am the only one in this chat room!
Is it the first sign of madness when you talk to yourself?
Progress at work. I am staying until September which works out well as I will pass an anniversary date to get my LSL. So my payout should now take me up to early April.
We are celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary tomorrow and at the last minute decided to go on a trip together. This will be our first together without the kids. DH has a business trip to china and is flying through Singapore, so I am flying up to singapore to meet him. My parents are moving in to look ater G&T. They are still trying to sell their house and dont want the kids messing it up!
Yay!! so excited I can hardly contain myself. I have a huge presentation to put together today and I am finding it hard to stay motivated.
Edited by Gin and Tonic, 04 June 2009 - 12:53 PM.
Posted 05 June 2009 - 12:06 PM
Wow Len - you've been going through a lot on the workfront! Good on you with sticking with it, and great that you'll get your long service leave and everything else to see you through to April next year. And that's huge about your trip with DH! WOW! I love Singapore. I've been there at least 8 times, although not recently, and it's such a neat place. And you can do both the total indulgence/no kid/eat yummy food and stay at a nice hotel thang, AND have a cultural experience too. ENJOY! I'd love to do something like that with my DH but we're just not there yet with Harry only being 15 months old. Soon, though, soon! :-)
My work is going well... I'm still at 80% or 4days a week.... oops. Have to run. Harry just started throwing up - stomach bug going around. D'oh! Will be back.
Posted 07 June 2009 - 10:00 PM
This is the one thread that notoriously drops off my tracking when things are busy at work. Especially when a new one starts
Len- you sound so positive going into unemployment soon.
I've been down quite a bit lately. And keeping busy with stuff at work so I don't have to think about much else.
Trying to work out how much expenses would be for me, to work out if I can get a house loan is proving difficult as I don't have the figures to work with from a household in Sydney with only 2 occupants. I had worked out stuff when my brother was going to go in with me, but since threw them out when he decided not to and mum said I could move in up here till needed.
Ray is being his usually aloof, painful self. Pestering me about what he does with my ancient piano (after I organised for the Salvos to pick it up and other stuff, and they then turned it down..of course while he was overseas for work in NZ). I figure I tried my best for it (which I should have had to do), its his problem now.
Starting to look at dating again, which makes my situation painfully apparent in my eyes. Not many guys want to date someone who has a kid with another guy (no matter how much of a jerk they are) or with a chronic disease. So far not a lot happening. 3 e-mails from one guy and 1 from another. I guess the being told by males my whole adult life how attractive I am doesn't counteract the kid and illness.
Aleisha has settled down quite a bit, not so many teary nights now, though she is always worst the night she gets back from Ray's.
My mum has clued into what Ray has been doing affair-wise, asking me a few questions today. We didn't talk too long about it (she asked if he was dating ___ putting things together from Aleisha always mentioning she is there when its his weekend), but I was shocked mum picked up on it, and you could see her opinion of him dropping even further than it had been.
Posted 16 June 2009 - 12:21 PM
Hi guys remember me
Has been a while since I've popped in again LOL. Life is so busy!
Savanna: wow just realised after reading your post that you & Ray have split. Scary going back on the dating scene I bet!
Bon is going great, not long till our 02 bubs are turning 7! eeeek. Loves grade 1, doing really well with reading, I think he even amazes himself at how much he can actually read!
Thought I'd post a pic of him; this was him on first day of school this year.
Anyways just wanted to say a quick hi hope everyone is doing well!
Posted 17 June 2009 - 08:25 PM
Welcome back Net! I didnt know you had a girl -it must have been years since you last popped in.
I am back from my trip to Singapore. We had such a great time. We were upgraded in the hotel to the fancy schmancy wing with complimentary cocktails in the lobby lounge, all day snacks, breakfast buffet, butler service....it was all so amazing, I am going to find it hard to go back to slumming it in a regular room next time we travel. They even went to the trouble of putting rose petals in the shape of a heart on our bed when we arrived and gave us a cake to celebrate our anniversary.
It has been nearly 20 years since I was last in Singapore (as a scungy student backpacker) so this experience was a bit different! We ate our way around the restaurants and I went crazy in the shopping malls, although it isnt easy buying clothes in a country where "large" is a size 8. I felt like a heffer everytime I wanted to try something on. I tried an extra large belt on in one store and it didnt even go half way around me. What the?
So I stuck to the American stores and got some great bargains with the sales on. I also bought the kids all their summer clothes for next year.
We visited a few friends who live up there and DH ended up bringing one of their kids back with him to visit his grandparents in perth for a holiday. It was his first experience travelling with a child without me and he realised how I feel when we travel with the kids. He said he didnt relax at all, worrying about how the boy was feeling, had he eaten enough, why wasnt he sleeping....welcome to my world!
On the job front, a friend has put an idea in my head for another career change into television. Not sure what that will entail so I am doing some research on it now. I am not sure that being addicted to TV qualifies you for a job in TV but I am going to explore it further.
Edited by Gin and Tonic, 17 June 2009 - 08:27 PM.
Posted 21 June 2009 - 06:25 PM
Welcome back Net!
Yes Ray and I have split again for good, though he is still causing dramas in my life. It's like he has nothing better to do than make my life miserable. Been venting in my diary a lot. It's bad when you flinch at any messages on your phone in case its one from him being a toad again.
And yes being on the dating scene again 10 years later is scary, not that I've got to the dating part. Haven't found any yet that its worth getting to the dating part with...and I'm probably a lot more pickier in my 30s than I was in my 20s (well look who I ended up with last time ) and thinking about a nearly 7 year old (acting like a teen already)
We're having Aleisha's brithday party up here at mum and dad's on the Sunday in 2 weeks time, so on her birthday and just happens to be my weekend with her as well. She's invited 15 kids, so I'm hoping a few can't make it as its a lot to fit inside when we have so much furniture squeezed in the back room.
Ray was invited to come, but I think won't turn up for the party as my best friend (who he hates for no real reason at all...except maybe they saw what he was like before I could realise) is going to be there with her 2 kids that Aleisha really wanted there.
We bought her birthday presents yesterday- new dressing gown and undies (which she's allowed to have now), some school hair clips and tights, and a set of many kids earrings and necklace with a dragonfly pendant on it.
Now I just have to make plans for the party food. She wants me to make a number 7 cake with fairies and snake lollies on it. The 7 isn't too hard, but the fairies could prove difficult. I may be spending the Saturday before cake decorating.
Posted 22 June 2009 - 11:41 AM
I"m back & i'm somewhat human again! Finally work has dried back up to my preferred dribbling in rate & I can focus my attention on other things. So far i've put a little time back into the house....still have bathrooms to clean, windows to clean.....its always there, & spent some time back in my boys class rooms. In Nate's class they are mimicking MasterChef primarily as 3 of the children's parents are Chef's & the teacher's love for the TV show. Today they watched a huge NZ Salmon be filleted. I then HAD to buy salmon on the way home for tea tonight. YUMMO!
Last week I bought myself a slow cooker. Cooked a delicious beef stew with dumplings, & today have a vege/minestrone soup on. My boys aren't huge on these types of dishes as yet, aren't keen on their food mixed together & saucy, but will continue to offer it & hope that eventually they'll try it. Mind you they eat all the ingredients, just not in a stew like mix IYKWIM.
It was Zane's birthday 2 Sat's ago. He's 7. SEVEN! How time flies. He had had the week & 1/2 leading up to it home sick with a nasty chest infection which after being on antibiotics, was well by his birthday, which lucky for him co-incided with a soccer carnival. He LOVES his soccer & for him playing 5 games was as good as having a party.
We didn't do a party for him this year (did a big one last year before we moved, with the science theme...Professor Jellybean! she was awesome) rather he had his 2 best mates over & played Wii & a few party games & had cake (a mini party) insted.
School holidays start this weekend & we're kicking it off by taking the boys to a NRL game on the Gold Coast & staying the weekend with my Dad.
My Dad is going really really well. He's just last week moved into the house He & mum were building. ITs very sad she never got to see it finished. The builders had started the early construction of the frame & windows before she went into hospital & never saw any further. & no doubt unpacking was difficult for him. But he's really looking forward to showing it to us & having us stay he night this weekend. Any ideas of a house warming gift??
Anyway, i have the boys toys to sort through & cull today so will leave it there for now.
Hope you are all well,
Edited by Nerual, 22 June 2009 - 11:42 AM.
Posted 24 June 2009 - 12:01 PM
Oh no, you reminded me birthdays are coming up! Ive got Valentino forst on the 7th then Sasha on the 30th, Aug 23 is Leo then Raf 7 Sep...and then DH and my 10th wed. ann.the next week and the week after is my birthday!!!
I think this is more of a diary entry but here it is anyway...
Here is an update on us since I never have time to keep up with everyone!
(Definatelly no time to read everything since I last visited! )
We have been busy with 4 boys as it must be expected.
The two older ones; Sasha and Valentino are in school and playing soccer. Raffael only has 1 day in pre-school and Leo -thank God- has no teeth yet and is not crawling! (sounds terrible but the longer it can be delayed this month the better-it will be any moment though-for both!)
We had a shocking month this June.
Looked like another busy month of parties, soccer, playdays and got myself organised so that the 2 school boys had eye & hearing tests organised (new 4 yr testing-so booked 6 yrs old too) and also our annual dentist appointment for them and me booked for end of 3rd week.
It all started Sunday 31st May:
Raf fell off my bed; trying to get to Leo's cot while watching kids videos and landed on the floor with his left arm in the cot bars.
Result: after sitting in emergency for half a day - very sore arm; possible fracture/dislocation, lots of x-rays and a trigger thumb later, we are still in and out of Dr.s offices!
June 2nd - Sash and Valya got eye tests.
They are slightly longsited, could use help from glasses, I was told.
Friday 5th- Valentino slipped on our wooden floor (socks on) and fell back straight on his head; had a fit, eyes rolling back, after what seemed a long time to DH, he stopped and was then sleepy, confused etc...which is when I rushed in after hearing DH repeatedlly telling him not to sleep, wake up etc. I'm glad I didn't see him having a fit!
We rushed to the emergency and after 4 hrs and some x-rays were back home again!
Raf specialist Dr that afternoon.
Thursday & Friday -More Drs visits for bad colds that Raf & Leo got & Valentino app.
Just getting better but a busy week with school stuff etc.
Thursday 18 - Almost 2 weeks after Valentinos fall, Im just about to feed Leo and get out the door to pick up Sasha & Valentino early to get to our dental appointment and...
The phone rings, its their school...
Valentino fell of the monkey bars he might have broken his arm and is looking very pale and wont talk.
Back to emergency (where they recognised him!) more x-rays , arm in cast...no soccer! (he LOVES soccer).
(He has to see orthopaedic specialist tomorrow ;Raf is going next week for thumb).
This week couldnt get worse, till Leo got sick again after visiting one of the Dr surgeries(he was almost back to normal). He has been very congested and has a bad cough (worse than before) and if he gets worse tonight I am sending DH to the Dr! Im sure they must think I am a hypochondriac or maybe I might get a visit from DOCS with all these breaks!
Speaking of which, Raf bumped his nose (Sunday)on the corner of the kitchen island bench and now its bruised and swollen! He is my clumsy one. I dont know how many times he has bumped his teeth and they have bled...none of the others ever did that. Maybe its the way he walks or just the fact he is a very active boy. I wonder what Leo will be like.
Sorry to waffle on and on....I love the boys but they worry me when these things happen, although I must admit we have had a very good run of no breaks/bumps till this month for any of them. 2 years ago within 4 months of each other #1 and #2 had surgery but it was for appendicitis (Sasha-then 4) and hernia (Valya-2).
Less than a week to go and I still have Orth. Specialist app. for Valya, kindy play day, Yr2 dinner, wedding, and Raf's Orth. Specialist app.!
I feel like I'm running a business with all these appointments!!!
Anyway, if anything else happens this month I will be a nervous wreck!
Posted 24 June 2009 - 07:30 PM
Good heavens Marina! I'm surprised you haven't downed a few bottles of something after those last few weeks.
Patiently waiting here to see if Ray calls Aleisha tonight...or even decides to take her on the weekend like he's supposed to for that matter. Would much rather be in bed, as I'm aching (from last night's needle I think) and going to bed early sounds great. Plus Aleisha has a bit of a cough and is pleading to sleep in my bed tonight, so may let her for once. I'm not waiting up past 8 o'clock for him to call, seeing he knows that is her bedtime.
Did I mention we got a Wii and a Wii fit? I've lost 2 kgs in the last 3 weeks, so finding it quite good. Averaging about 4 times on it a week, which is a better exercise ratio than I was managing before.
Heading off to bed,
Posted 06 July 2009 - 08:09 PM
Thought I'd lost the thread again. But we just haven't been posting.
Aleisha had her birthday and party yesterday. Went pretty well, but I think I was over it before the kids were. But at least they were reasonably quiet.
Ray popped up with his parents earlier in the morning to give her his present (which wasn't worth the money seeing how crappy this camera has turned out to be...but leaving it as his problem...I have no problems with her using my decent camera) and his parents came up too. Mum invited them in, but I was too busy cooking stuff for the party, then say a brief hi while they had a cuppa. Ray kept going in and out waiting for his parents to hurry up who were having a nice chat to my parents.
Thankfully no pesky messages from him, which seem to be the bane of my weekends lately.
Some exciting news from my brother and girlfriend, who also came over for the party. They're expecting a baby in Feb. So I'll finally be a real aunty! Mum is estastic that she will getting another grandchild.
Posted 07 July 2009 - 10:04 AM
Firstly a huge Happy Birthday to all kids who will be turning 7 ! How scary is that ? Wish it would all slow down a bit.
Marina oh my god is all I can say to your post. Stay strong honey you are amazing.
DH is in Tokyo this week so he is missing Sami's birthday but he gets back on Saturday morning so will be back for the party which is the important thing to Sami. We are having a Disco..hee.hee... I think I am more excited then Sami. Been buying like crazy all this disco stuff and loving it !
We are all good. Sami is doing great at school and is such a lovely boy bless him. Adam is full of personality and keeps us laughing and loves to challenge me most of the time. I am doing goog. Loosing weight which is great. It's coming off slowly but at least it's coming off. I've been able to fit in to clothes I bought ages ago inthe hope of loosing so that is a great boost for me.
I'm going back to Ireland in 2 weeks for a week by myself. Doing a quick visit to see my Mam and Dad. Lost of friends parents have got sick and I just think god 2 years is too long now to leave not seeing them as they are getting on. DH will have the week off work and look after the boys. I'm really looking forward to the break and the me time. Hoping I will not worry too much about my boys back here.
OK off to tackle Sami's bedroom...oh I wish I had a magic wand.
Posted 07 July 2009 - 12:56 PM
Nice to finally see a flurry of activity here.
Marina you poor thing, what a month you have had!
Birthdays are in full swing in this house. T's is this week so we are having a spiderman party on Friday. G's is in a couple of weeks but we are having a cupcake decorating party next week. kids are on holidays for two weeks so it is just easier to organise it now rather than when they are back at school.
I am considering a weekend in Melbourne in a few weeks time for a friend's 40th. Not sure if I have enough FF points left after Singapore, but here's hoping!
On the job front, I finish up in the first week of September. I am following this TV idea a bit further and doing a TV production course on the weekend.
It is very hard being at work knowing I am leaving, but I have to keep my eye on the prize. If I last until September I will get an extra 6 weeks pay as I pass an anniversary date for my long service leave.
Posted 18 July 2009 - 05:42 PM
My child free week this week (as of last night)...gosh I miss her when she's not here
But filling up my week with things to do. Going out for drink and dancing tonight, and then trip to Hunter Valley on Tuesday for 2 nights.
anyhow must dash as have to do all the preparation work for going out...shaving, make-up, trying to find a small enough handbag
PS - Happy birthday to all those from first half of July.
Posted 23 July 2009 - 06:37 PM
I'm back from our trip to the Hunter!
It was devine and we've vowed to go back with that group of girls again! So much fun just doing a girly holiday...wine tour, everyone helping out with dinner/washing up, chick flicks and great gossip and heaps of laughs (especially with one keeping up a track of our holiday by mobile facebooking status updates LOL).
I bought 3 bottles of dessert wines (I only like sweet), a butterscotch schnappes, white port, some olive oil and dukka (sp?), and some hibisicus flower to go in a sparkling wine that open up when you pour the drink in. Oh and some cheese spread stuff.
I don't think I've had so much fun in years, so it was terrific not having to worry about Aleisha the whole time I was there and just being able to relax and talk about relationships, work, anything!
-On another note, I changed GPs to one in the area, to the female one my mum sees. But as she was busy and I needed an ashtma script I saw a different one on Monday to start with. Male, handsome and unbelievable distracting when I'm trying to give my medical history and not read too much into anything.
But I find it hopeful that I'm finally seeing guys around who I do think would be my type and get flustered about.
Should hear from Aleisha tonight, and am hoping to tell Ray that I want her back on Saturday evening. She needs the day to get back into routine for up here, having been away 8 days by then, before she's struck with me heading to work, but her having to stay home with Grandad for another day before she gets back to school. One full day with me, should help make that a lot easier on all of us, and he'll have had his half of the holidays by then. So hoping I can stand up to him tonight when she calls, and say that's what will happen, even if it means I go collect her from his place (none of this going to his parents house which is even further away).
Hope you are all well!
Edited by ~brighteyes~, 23 July 2009 - 06:47 PM.
Posted 30 July 2009 - 01:36 PM
as you all have seen from FB I am off to Melbourne tomorrow for a 40th birthday. This is the friend who lost his wife to PND 18 months ago, so I am really looking forward to having a celebration with him. And I cant wait to see his kids again. His baby has just turned two. He obviously will never remember staying with us, but it is something that my kids learnt a lot from and he will always be very special to me and to them. G&T are a bit miffed they arent going with me to see him.
5 weeks to go with work. I am starting to fire up again on the job hunt. I have a few casual interviews set up next week with consulting firms, but in my heart I do really want to work for myself. There has been a bit of talk about maybe a consulting piece for me to do for my current boss for another team she has reporting to her. That would be ideal to get my first consulting job before I set up my business. But I dont want to get ahead of myself yet, as it all could come to nothing.
The TV idea is still bubbling away too. I did a two day production course a few weeks ago and it was fantastic. I loved it and I think I have all the right skills for it with my business and legal background to run the business affairs of a production.
better get back to work. I have so much to finish before I leave!
Posted 01 August 2009 - 11:36 AM
We've had a great week since picking up Aleisha last Sunday. Not as many tantrums (practically none) and seems even more settled than she was last term.
We went on a bushwalk down to our sometimes filled creek nearby...Aleisha has never been, and we used to always ago as kids. Gives her a few more things to do when bored.
Tomorrow we're going with my parents for a whale watch tour in Sydney.
Posted 05 August 2009 - 03:28 PM
I am back from Melbourne. The party was great and I got to catch up with my friend's kids. We had lunch just before I went to the airport. The baby is now 2 and he is gorgeous. My friend is doing an amazing job raising them on his own. The baby said something that really baffled me and I want to see what you think... He was a bit sick and grizzly and was calling for his dad and he called him "mummy".
This is a 2year old that has never really known his mum. He obviously has photos of his mum around the house, and he has a nanny, but his mum has never been there to comfort him since he was about 3 months old. He was obviously calling for his dad because he needed a cuddle, but where would "mummy" have come from? He cant possibly remember his relationship with her could he?
Interested in what you guys think.
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