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#76 Kay1

Posted 20 May 2010 - 10:04 AM

You'd better rest up and get better so you can go out for a girls' night! Do you really have to ask your Dh to 'watch' the kids so you can go out though unsure.gif Sorry, it just seems a little strange to me. As far as I'm concerned if DH is here I am free to go out.

Hmm, had an early start this morning for therapy but that was cancelled (I think we made the therapist sick last week blush.gif) so we drove Dh to the station and then Nate insisted on going to preschool early so I am way ahead today. original.gif Leo and I just had some good play time and now he's watching a show while I have a coffee. All good.

Oh and I've got Nate making his own brekky in the mornings - sweeeeet. biggrin.gif

#77 ~~Lynny~~

Posted 20 May 2010 - 10:36 AM

Do you really have to ask your Dh to 'watch' the kids so you can go out though

laughing2.gif  no, sorry should've worded it better... I didnt have anything planned for tomorrow night - I would've been happy with take aways and a quiet night in but DH said "Why dont you and *** go out for a meal or a movie and I'll watch the kids".  He's always more than happy to watch them for me but for some reason I never really go out without them huh.gif  And I'm still making friends in the area etc so I've never had the whole "who's going out tonight, who's staying with the kids" conversation with him before blush.gif

BBL - kids are throttling each other  rolleyes.gif

#78 Kay1

Posted 20 May 2010 - 12:10 PM

Ahhh, I see original.gif Well have a good time, it sounds like fun.

#79 mirandarine

Posted 20 May 2010 - 07:44 PM

Enjoy your night out then Lynny and Hapy birthday for tomorrow original.gif

Kay- re breakfast; I have both of my girls requesting ( and eating!) All Brain for breakfast, because, naturally, it makes your smarter!

#80 Starbuck

Posted 20 May 2010 - 08:10 PM

Miranda That is priceless.  biggrin.gif

Kay I am so pleased you had a breakthrough with Leo and were ahead today

Mardi Wow, that sounds tough with your friend. It is something I think about, remember what and who you have and love and hold them close. Teaching is such a tough job, with so many people undervaluing what you do and the huge amount that goes by unnoticed and underappreciated by so many. Considering you have our children in your hands, 18,000 hours all up (and yes, I did just do that on a calculator it could be way off!!!), and that's if you don't count early daycare just preschool.

T Have you guys started getting over the sickness?

Lynny Happy Birthday. xx I hope you have a lovely night out with your friend.

Well, I am exhausted after a couple of days doctoring in Sydney. I really want to say a huge THANKS to Mel for having me stay there. And for driving me to Strathfield this morning which saved heaps of stairs and walking and time. And for chatting to me last night when you may well have wanted to do something else.
Eddie is such a little cutie, I kept forgetting he is so little since he is tottering around. And I had a wonderful game with Nick and Ernie, so funny to see other kids having very similar sibling interactions as my two. Though I think my two fight way more!
But again, Thanks so much Mel!!!

#81 Kay1

Posted 20 May 2010 - 11:13 PM

Glad you had a good trip to Sydney Kirsten. original.gif

Cute Miranda! original.gif

Must be off to bed. Very tired. Good day though - so nice to have a happy Leo. He's still a little terror but at least the incessant screaming seems to have stopped. We are off to have our Swine flu shots tomorrow so that should be fun. NOT!

#82 ~*Sharon*~

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:41 AM

Being super slack here.  DH is home for the week, so I am running around getting everything done I have not been able to do for the last 5 weeks.

Have I mentioned Toby has his cast off? YAY!  He broke it. lol.  So they took it off on Saturday.  He is still not walking yet, but he will take weigh on it, so just a matter of time for him to get his confidence back.

We have picked a school for Hannah.  The one we originally had as our top pick would not even let us look through the school because we live about a block too far over, so we are out of their catchment.  We could go on a wait list, but honestly, I have no interest in going on a wait list for a school I have not even seen.  

We are technically still choosing between two, because DH has not completely given up on the second one... I actually got a better feel for the one we are likely to enroll her in, but the one DH likes has better extra-curricular options.  The problem is that Hannah's best friend from 2 doors down is going to go there too (the second school), and because it is a REALLY small school, they would end up in the same class (there is only one prep class) and it could cause socialisation issues, blah blah blah.  If it was the only school that we were happy with, then I would overlook that, but because they had that school "picked" before it even came under consideration for us (it was only after the neighbour mentioned that they were looking at it that DH decided to check it out) they have first dibs. lol.  I also like the prep teachers at the first school better (it is also a very small school with 2 prep/1 classes and 130 students all up) and given Hannah's auditory processing issues, having a good prep teacher means a lot to me.

Blah blah blah, rambling here.  Going to bed now - I need to be up to get Hannah to the drs in the morning.  Poor kid - I spent the day telling DH that she was bunging it on when she was complaining about a sore throat, because she wanted a throat lozenge... then the poor kid fell asleep on the bean bag at 6, and when I moved her to bed I realised she had a burning fever.  Oops!

#83 Starbuck

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:18 PM

Sharon Why can't the two girls go to the same school?

We had a meeting with Centrelink today which was LONG. We had to go back to the end of 2006 and go through DH's pay fortnight by fortnight. I had to do puzzles in a magazine to control my anxiety while DH went through it, and I was brought to the conversation when there were specific bits of info they needed. The lady was great though and told us how to appeal things and that there is a compensation department. We will be definately putting in an official complaint, asking for a letter of apology (to counteract the letter telling me 'that they are not prosecuting me for my misleading them, but it is a serious offence, blah blah blah.") We will also ask for compensation, for both the financial difficulty we were put in and my medical issues caused by their letter/mistake. So later on when it has all been worked out and we are notified, Kay or T, I will get one of you (if the offer is still there) to help draft the letter. I also want to draft a letter to our MP about the process and how it is bad in principle, not just for me personally.
The ironic thing was there was a sign right near where we were sitting (I should have taken a photo, cause I am having trouble remembering the exact wording)
The sign was about what consumers should be able to expect from Centrelink. The costmer service charter.
Apparently, it should be easy for us to access their services;
we should be treated with respect; and some other things which are just a pile of crap in reality.

Anyways, I have to go, we have been slowed and I am very tired.

#84 Kay1

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:38 PM

I'm glad the meeting went well Kirsten. What a lot of unnecessary stress. I'm still more than happy to help you out with a letter.

Ah, just back from the GP to get our swine flu jabs. I wanted Nate to have the single dose one so he had to have two jabs, poor boy. He was brave though.

Eeek just got chased out of the park by a huge storm and I'm scared being on the puter so off I go!!

#85 bellemae

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:45 PM

Pretty sure I'm officially losing the plot now! Meant to be finishing off my last two assignments. LOTS of work to do. Neighbours (as in we share a wall with them) have guys here today building a stupid METAL front fence! So they're camped outside our garage door (which happens to be our office) using power tools to cut metal, the noise is DRILLING into my brain!!!! I can't think! mad.gif They're gonna be there all day sad.gif AND if the power tools weren't bad enough, they've put the radio on on their car stereo on some painfully bad music! ARGH!!!!

#86 bellemae

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:46 PM

cry1.gif rant.gif   Now they're smoking and it's all wafting into our garage sad.gif

#87 Titania

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:49 PM

Oh that's crappy Belle. sad.gif

Go and shout at them - let off some steam.  That's the last thing you need.

#88 bellemae

Posted 21 May 2010 - 12:59 PM

LOL, I'd LOVE to go shout at them...but they're just doing their job...and I have to live with these neighbours right next door, they really want this job done, so, in the interest of happy neighbourly relations, I'm keeping my mouth shut - It's VERY hard!

#89 bellemae

Posted 21 May 2010 - 01:20 PM

YAY YAY YAY - It's raining - they can't work in the rain  ddance.gif

#90 Titania

Posted 21 May 2010 - 01:49 PM

LOL. Yeah, but the smoking and the music.

Heh, I know I wouldn't really yell at them, but I would say something very sweetly and politely. original.gif

#91 bellemae

Posted 21 May 2010 - 01:54 PM

I know it's a reasonable thing to ask...but I'm so under slept, and stressed, I don't think I'm capable of coming across sweet and polite. Even if I used the right words, I'm sure the tone would portray just how cranky I am.

#92 Titania

Posted 21 May 2010 - 02:28 PM


Ear plugs, headphones? sad.gif

Rescue remedy? Vodka?

#93 ~*Sharon*~

Posted 21 May 2010 - 02:44 PM

I love it when it rains on the people next door when they are working.  Similar thing - welding, soldering, drilling, etc.  Right under my study window, and ALWAYS on a Monday/Tuesday (which are my main work days) because they are the days that their business is closed! (they run a hair dressing salon from home).

Kirsten - mostly because we are concerned about their ability to socialise and form friendships with others.  Hannah's friend is a boy, and quite sporty, where Hannah is not into sports, but at kinder the two will often not socialise as much with others because they are wanting to play together.  In a small group like kinder (and where a kids best friend is the person they are sitting next to on any given day) that is not such a big deal, but at school they need to be able to form friendships with kids with similar interests, rather than relying on each other all the time.  Because the school is so small (they are expecting an intake of about 12 - 15 preps) there is not enough ability to split them up to avoid the issues.

If they were both girls, both had the same interests, etc, then it would not be as much of an issue, but both his mum and mine are noticing that it is limiting their willingness to socialise with others as much as they usually would at kinder, so separate schools seems to make more sense.

I also spoke to Hannah's kinder teacher this morning about the style of learning at each of the schools, and the one that her friend is going to is probably not as suited to her.

#94 Titania

Posted 21 May 2010 - 03:35 PM

Kirsten - tell me about the Centrelink issues - I have had so many problems with them lately - GAAAAH! NOTHING to compare to yours though - so you must have been ready to spit the dummy. I have had to write them a couple of letters lately (they lost my two profit and loss statements and I, not having taken copies -d'oh- had to do them all over again).
Totally happy to help with any letter writing - as you and Kay see fit (maybe she wants to write it and I'll edit it or similar :-)  ).

Sharon - one thing to consider is that kids grow, change and form friendships in their own time. Hannah will at some point, branch out and make other friends regardless of her friend going to the school - in that environment they are so adaptable, and kids just change as they grow older. Another thing to consider is how comfortable and perhaps more self-confident Hannah might be if she goes to school with her friend. Just some thoughts.

If it was me, and L had the opportunity to go to school with his best friend (a girl) - I would be thrilled (except if it wasn't the school up the road LOL). But all kids are diferent and only you can know their personalities.

#95 ~*Sharon*~

Posted 21 May 2010 - 03:50 PM

T - the issue is that the two kids have been known to play together at the exclusion of all others at kinder, and both have a habit of hanging around waiting for the other to complete a task rather than going to find their own thing to do, etc.  They have actually needed to intervene and separate the two at kinder, as they were shutting out other friends and playing just with each other rather than socialising with other kids.

Both kids will be absolutely fine going to separate schools and making new friends, and they will still be spending heaps of time together outside of school, given they are our neighbours.  But the other mum and I both feel that they will do better establishing themselves and their personal interests and friendships if they are not at the same school.

#96 Starbuck

Posted 21 May 2010 - 03:55 PM

Oh Dear. Poor Alyssia just got slightly electricuted. Her bedroom light is blown and her curtains are closed so she got her lamp and carried it to her cupboard to find clothes to wear. Somehow she got a couple of electric shocks. She was very shaken. I am not sure if from the shock itself or the shock of the shock.

Belle Grrrr at the people next door. They always do it at such inconvenient times and they always have bad music!!! (Just like our neighbours across the road, we could probably handle hearing their music so loud if it wasn't atrocious.)
Good luck with your assignments.

Fair enough Sharon. I was just confused as we are trying to find kids who will be in Kindy with Ro so she can make friends with them this year. I can see your reasoning though.

Speaking of enrollments, I have done stuff for Rosie for next year, trying to get aide, gathering info etc and haven't actually started the enrollment process. I will have to actually get the forms to fill them in soon, or they will be applying for funding for a student who isn't actually enrolled.

#97 Titania

Posted 21 May 2010 - 04:14 PM

On a totally separate note... G appears to be both; a ballerina and; a computer genius (he found classic radio and went prancing about on tippy toes, pirouetting and pointing his legs in the air with some obscure level of grace, and can completely operate the Tux Paint program on my old lap top - and create works of indecipherable art).

blink.gif huh.gif roll2.gif

#98 Kay1

Posted 21 May 2010 - 04:37 PM

Sharon - I can see your reasoning, particularly in such a small school, however we have a very similar situation with Nate and his best friend. The teachers at preschool have commented that they have to separate them at times because Nate is SO reliant on her, he only wants to do things she is doing etc. She is very social so while she adores Nate she also has lots of other friends. I still see her as a positive for Nate when considering schools though. Mainly because she IS so social that I'm sure she'll be a good 'mentor' for him in a way.

Funnily enough I was telling Nate about the two schools and that Mummy and Daddy had to decide between a smaller or a bigger school and he said "Well I don't like lots of people so I want to go to the small school". He maintained that view even when I told him that's not where his friend was going. I am leaning towards the closer school though - I am just thinking of the 9 years of two times car trips every day vs a short walk. Not sure all the advantages of the smaller school are worth it tbh!!

#99 ~*Sharon*~

Posted 21 May 2010 - 05:41 PM

Kay - with Hannah and J, both are very social independently, just not when they are together.  I think if they were socialising with others as well I would not be concerned.  Also the issue with having different interests - I would hate to see in 2 years time J getting bored with hanging out with Hannah and wanting to go and play football or something, but then Hannah being left without having made other close friends with other kids, or vica versa.  I think while their friendship has been great the last couple of years in the smaller environment of kinder, they will do better if that co-dependance is broken in school.  

And neither kid is going to be any worse for it... both will just accept if they are told that J is starting a different school to Hannah, and they will still have plenty of play time out of school, that that is just the way it is.  They are a bit odd, in that if the other child is there, that kid becomes the centre of their world, but they don't really notice if the other child is not around! lol.

Kay - do you know what the other mum thinks of the situation?  I think Nate is much more conscious of his environment than Hannah, and from what I have read would deal better with the consistency.  Hannah is off with the fairys most of the time. lol.  She would not care where she was.

I was talking to her kinder teacher today, and she was talking about some issues Hannah has with sitting still and attention span (which I had not really been aware of in the kinder environment) and she was talking about Hannah at times will just be off with the fairies, or fidgeting and shifting constantly (during story time, or doing set activities).  I asked her if she was going to be OK in school and she said "Oh yes, she is a really bright kid, and I am sure she would cope fine..." so it is a bit tricky with Hannah, as she is socially ready for kinder, and definitely ready to be there, but she is going to struggle with some areas.

Sorry - completely self involved post.  I am leaving in an hour and a half for a kid free weekend, completely not packed, and so I am going to go and do it... but accidentally got stuck waffling here instead (again!)

Edited by ~*Sharon*~, 21 May 2010 - 05:50 PM.

#100 Kay1

Posted 21 May 2010 - 05:49 PM

I think that's pretty normal Sharon. Nate is the same way with A. original.gif I am pretty sure that he will gradually drift towards the boys at school, he seems to have a nice little crowd going now, he's one of two boys and there are about 4 girls. If you ask him who his friends are though he says just A and the others are "not my friend" LOL.

Ha ha too funny T!!

Belle - I hope you got your work done and the workers nicked off. glare.gif

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