I have had a similar experience to you with my cycles in 2009, which after 3 cycles in a year, put me off IVF to try naturally. After an early mc towards the end of last year we thought we would try a new doctor this year who has a high success rate due to the fact that he does more tests to find the issues confronting couples. The new doctor has found I have the killer cells as well as blood clotting issues. There are problems on both sides for us, but I am happy knowing the issues are being addressed now.
I think we have just about everything covered this time. From going to a doctor who actually gives a hoot as to why we are not successful & trying to correct them to increase our chances. I am going to an acupuncturist and naturopath as well who are really working toward our objective.
I know people who have done IVF, that do not have the same pain or reaction after or during egg collection. Its very upsetting. I had a lot of pain particularly after egg collection. Nausea & vomiting after surgery.
A friend who had no success after 13 cycles had no pain. I do believe her husband & doctor did not do all that was possible to increase her chance of success.
Another friend has not addressed her health issues- no success there- no pain either.
One friend addressed her issues, needed a donor and presto success! There was some pain.
I am thinking for me no pain- no baby gain!
Girls I cannot emphasise enough that if you want a child you need to do everything in your power to find the best help possible. Do everything you can to improve your health yourself exersize, diet, supplements. I am lucky I have medical contacts who know people who can give me the best chance of conceiving too.
Study your family history to know how it affects you. Be prepared if you cannot conceive with your partner that donors may be an option. Adoption is great but not for everyone depending on your circumstances as with foster care.
I was feeling really low about myself just a week ago but now knowing the hurdles we have but the solutions available, I am optimistic that someday, somehow we will be parents.
Good luck Prue I will you all the best in the world.