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#26 NotBitzerMaloney

Posted 20 November 2012 - 09:14 PM

The original post is from a year and a half ago.
Resurrected.
Hence "Zombie"

#27 Linda6

Posted 20 November 2012 - 09:16 PM

Sorry that's my fault it was linked in a blog article that I read on EB TODAY so I didn't think to check dates.

#28 BetteBoop

Posted 20 November 2012 - 09:21 PM

QUOTE (Linda6 @ 20/11/2012, 09:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry that's my fault it was linked in a blog article that I read on EB TODAY so I didn't think to check dates.


It's not a problem Linda. It's just a tiny joke because the OP has probably had 3 more babies since this thread was started so she really doesn't care about answers now.

Given it's an issue that means a bit to you right now you could start a new thread on the same topic.

There are undoubtedly other mums on EB going through something similar.


#29 Linda6

Posted 20 November 2012 - 09:25 PM

It's ok. I've got it off my chest now. Will have to be more careful when viewing from my phone. The blog was the first article so I didn't even think it would be old.
Thanks for pointing out the age of the thread

#30 F.E.B.E

Posted 20 November 2012 - 09:28 PM

Linda6 - your post had a really valid point to make so perhaps consider reposting it in Pregnancy tips, questions and information,  Plus size living or the Venting forum.

#31 earthmagickmama

Posted 19 January 2013 - 09:18 PM

Anon, if you are in the Melbourne area, please contact me. I have some people you would like to meet! We are a great group of ladies who can share our experiences of being Plus Size Mums, and all of the discrimination and hardship that can go with it. And we absolutely will share our joys with you, too!

#32 Jls33

Posted 07 March 2013 - 06:45 PM

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Anon, if you are in the Melbourne area, please contact me. I have some people you would like to meet! We are a great group of ladies who can share our experiences of being Plus Size Mums, and all of the discrimination and hardship that can go with it. And we absolutely will share our joys with you, too!


Hi, I am in Melbourne, plus sized with my third due in October. Had pretty good experience with my first 2 births but having a 7 year gap since last pregnancy I would love to be in touch with some other plus size mums! Had an 8 week dating scan which was great and about to have 1st hosp appt in a few weeks and feeling a bit nervous! Would love to discuss and share stories original.gif


#33 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 07 March 2013 - 07:00 PM

Look Anon, I am obese (BMI wise) and was for both kids. I am also fit healthy and under 40, BMI hovering around 30.

I am with the medical profession.

Like it or not you are at higher risk, your baby is at higher risk and you could well need specialist care.

You are not being discriminated against, this isn't "we would deliver your baby except we don't like the colour of your skin" - this is "we could deliver your baby except we don't have the ability to do a c/s, deal with blood sugar levels falling in a baby (which is highly dangerous) or otherwise car for you properly.

What would you think if you said "yeah, but" and they let you on and something happened to you or your baby because they did not have the medical equipment required to treat you?

Look, you're unexpectedly pregnant and extremely happy about it - keep that feeling and don't worry too much about the next few months of care - honestly, they are a blip in the big picture of becoming a parent.

All the best.

#34 Nofliesonme

Posted 08 March 2013 - 06:03 AM

OP for the person who the post is about. Imagine what it's like when they say your High Risk because
A your obese and B your aboriginal.........

That's a real corker that one.....

#35 Caribou

Posted 08 March 2013 - 06:36 AM

Isn't this a 2011 thread?

#36 sally_cinnamon

Posted 29 July 2013 - 05:09 PM

View PostAunt Annie, on 13 April 2011 - 12:08 PM, said:

Anon, I would be interested to know how fit you (are as opposed to how fat you are, which is a controversial and often useless form of measurement).  

My best GF is grossly obese in medical terms, but as a diabetic she keeps her blood sugars under control using daily strenuous exercise (long bike rides, walking, swimming), and so is extremely fit.  She had no problems with either of her two boys' births (I oughta know, I was there data:image/gif;base64,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 ) which happened in hospital birthing suites rather than the sterile surrounds of a labour ward. (This was in Melbourne- don't know where you are.)

So if you are very fit and your other medical signs outside your raw weight are good, keep pushing for equity.

I very much doubt anyone that is grossly obese is also extremely fit. Perhaps fitter than most people who are of a similar size, but extremely fit suggests someone who does Ironman events or Olympic distance tris..

#37 MrsLexiK

Posted 29 July 2013 - 05:37 PM

View Postsally_cinnamon, on 29 July 2013 - 05:09 PM, said:



I very much doubt anyone that is grossly obese is also extremely fit. Perhaps fitter than most people who are of a similar size, but extremely fit suggests someone who does Ironman events or Olympic distance tris..


Old thread but my PT is classified as obese by BMI I can assure you he is not obese but extremely fit!

#38 GillyBean15

Posted 10 August 2013 - 02:14 AM

Let them say what they want about you because you have a little miracle inside of you and no one can take that away from you. You are healthy for who you are and you shouldn't try and compare yourself to what you are not. Stand tall and be all that you are. Never think anyone is better then you because of size. I am really small and have the same problem where ppl say im too short and tiny to have a baby and they are just wrong! Don't stress over things you cant change, accept them and embrace them. Once you embrace yourself and love yourself for who you are, their words wont hurt. promise :)

#39 Imaginary friend

Posted 10 August 2013 - 02:41 AM

View PostGillyBean15, on 10 August 2013 - 02:14 AM, said:

Let them say what they want about you because you have a little miracle inside of you and ............

This thread is from 2011 - I highly doubt OP still has the little miracle inside her LOL.




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