Posted 16 May 2012 - 10:15 PM
I believe that this is a topic which should not fade away.
We were fortunate enough to be egg donor recipients and had a successful pregnancy and a wonderful little 2 year old to prove it now. As we had 3 remaining frozen embryos we then had that decision to make.
Unfortuntely I had a hysterectomy 12 months following her birth and we decided together that we were happy with our one special little girl and did not consider going down the surrogate road.
I kept thinking about my little babies (which is what they were for me) and how they too deserved a chance at life and how they could bring joy to another couple.
I also reflected on how we had become parents together thanks to the selfless generosity of our egg donor. Who went 2 cycles to help us. And never once complained, even though she had her own children to care for.
We decided to Pay it forward and on-donate our embryos. Once the decision was made I went back to the online forum we found our egg donor on and went in search of suitable recipients. It didn't take long. And last September they also had a beautiful baby girl. Yes, we all keep in contact and our egg donor also donated to another couple after us and they also have a lovely little girl.
This was all done in Queensland and my understanding is there are different laws in different states. We live in Melbourne and travelled up to Qld for the treatment after our first attempt in Melbourne.
Yes, I wondered how I woulf feel when I met that little baby, as I like most every mum very very bonded to my babies. But funny to say when I met their baby ( as she is their baby) I was surprised to find it was the same as when a friend has a new baby. Lovely yes.... but none of that magnetism you feel towards your own baby. We are both so happy that she is a joy to her parents and I have no doubt how much they love her...
So anyway that is how what we decided to do when the time to make a decision came. And we are all happy with the outcome. And yes..... prepared for all the questions from these children when they grow up.