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#1 Sandra

Posted 25 August 2011 - 04:09 PM

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#2 greenthumbs

Posted 28 August 2011 - 09:22 AM

GOLD!!!!!!!! eexcite.gif

Hooray - 1st time placing!

Goodmorning all

How amazing that we're now in the 'parent group' instead of the due in group.

My little Henry Quinn was born 22/8/11 at 5.23pm. Weighing 3.132kg (just under 7pound) and measuring 50cm he arrived after a 15+ hour labour in which he needed a little help at the end via forceps. We are all doing wonderfully and settling in nicely together biggrin.gif

I'm sure everyone is doing fantastically and it will be great to say g'day over time.

Hopefully everyone will be joining us soon - there are a couple still waiting - hopefully patiently original.gif thoughts are with them, don't forget to drop back to due in group to check on the progress.

Have a lovely day everyone!


#3 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 28 August 2011 - 10:21 AM


Great to join the parents group and not be pregnant any more!

Teddy joined us on his GF birthday, the 10th August thus usurping big brother in the succession stakes laughing2.gif

He was born via emergency c/s after a failed vbac attempt and about 16 hours of labour.

He is currently on the breast a lot which I'm hopeful is the first growth spurt! He was 54cm and 4.76kg at birth and hit 5kg at his 2 week check up on Friday! He's a lot bigger than his brother was!

Aside from the usual post-pregnancy body/hormonal changes all is going well. Tomorrow will be my first day home alone with both kids - eek! Looking forward to seeing more people join - I can't believe there's only a few left, there might not be any September babies! Remarkable original.gif

#4 Mummy fab

Posted 30 August 2011 - 05:45 PM


I thought i would join the parents group and will try and keep up as much as possible.

Tyra joined us on the 23rd August via c/section, 45cm and weighed 6lb 14oz.  She is my third daughter and joins big sisters Aliyah and Jayda.

She is amazing and im just totally over the moon happy at the moment.  Its a different feeling to when i had my other girls, i obviously loved them the same but i think i feel more relaxed this time, more content with life and just in a happier place which is making this time all the more special IYKWIM.  I really just spend alot of time staring at her and not wanting her to grow up lol.

I look forward to getting to know you all.


#5 crazy*cat*lady

Posted 03 September 2011 - 10:48 AM

( x ) ( . ) Boobie prize for me!  (the x is the cracks wink.gif )

Miss Barry  aka Eleanor Ruth was born at 41w via a scheduled c/s (on the 15th) despite going into labour just before hand - things weren't progressing well so we decided to go in for the scheduled c/s.  

Miss Squid (Claire - 2.5) is enjoying being a big sister, but between the two of them they are keeping me busy!

I'm in Brisbane and looking forward to getting to know you all original.gif

Oh, and I'm Renée original.gif

Edited by crazy*cat*lady, 03 September 2011 - 11:06 AM.

#6 crazy*cat*lady

Posted 03 September 2011 - 11:03 AM

I thought I might start a list for the group (based on who posts... let me know if you want any details added

babyboy.gif babygirl.gif   bbabyflip.gif    August 2011 Babies    bbabyflip.gif     babygirl.gif babyboy.gif

31st July

Lachlan - nic188

10th August

Teddy - jen42

15th August

Eleanor Ruth - crazy*cat*lady - Brisbane QLD

22nd August

Henry Quinn - greenthumbs

23rd August

Tyra - aliyah's mum

Edited by crazy*cat*lady, 03 September 2011 - 04:48 PM.

#7 nic188

Posted 03 September 2011 - 12:40 PM

I don't know whether I technically can join here even though i went through with the August DIG as Lachlan was born 31st July but was due in August. I just feel like i know most of the girls so would love to continue with you all.

Jen did you get anymore ideas on the breastfeeding and increasing the time between feeds. We have the same problem some days.


#8 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 03 September 2011 - 01:30 PM

Nic - my last PG followed the DIG so we had bubs around 3 months apart but were all due in June.

As for BF - no new ideas, hes growing like a weed and wees and poos plenty so I think it's a matter of working on putting up with some (extra) crying. As with DS it is my fault we're at this point because I use the boob as comfort/a dummy anytime I can't cope with the shouting - overnight I don't even try anything else, boob, bed, sleeeeep! I also let him sleep on the boob and he's already very hard to transfer to bed so I need to stop all these bad habits and be a bit tougher while he's still at moulding age! Having said that he has had 4 x BF in the last 2 hours, the first genuine, the second arguably the second half of lunch, the rest just to get him to sleep! I'm so weak!

I feel so bad because Oliver is wonderful despite missing out on heaps of mummy tine, but if I don't bf all the time Teddy goes mental and there is nothing like the guilt-inducing cries of a newborn! I must be stronger laughing2.gif

#9 Mummy fab

Posted 04 September 2011 - 03:59 PM

Hi all,

how is everyone going?

Today was my partners first day back at work so just me and the three girls at home alone.

At first i thought i may have a nervous breakdown as the day didnt start well with Tyra being quite needy and the older girls pushing all my buttons but i decided to just try and soldier on and try and get some stuff done and so far its turned out to be a great day.

Housework and washing is done, have taken some meat out for tea (which DF can cook on the BBQ tonight) and now its time to sit down for a while.

Breastfeeding is going ok so far, i wasnt able to continue breastfeeding with aliyah and jayda past 2-3 weeks so im hoping things continue going well. Tyra seems to be able to latch on much better.

Anywho best be off, hope everyone is having a great fathers day!


#10 greenthumbs

Posted 04 September 2011 - 06:49 PM

Hi everyone!

Henry and I are doing well. It's DP's first day back at work tomorrow so that will be interesting. My mum actually arrives tomorrow afternoon to stay for the week. As I have a history of depression, I think she's concerned about me coping and getting into a routine during the week.

I'll actually be flat out tomorrow as it's DP's birthday so I have to cook dinner for his family and arrange his gift. Plus get my mums room ready and we've got our first ABA group meeting tomorrow morning. I'm really looking forward to this as it'll be nice to meet some other local mum's. We are still having a few latching issues so hope to get some good advice about that too.

Henry will be 2 wks tomorrow and we sometimes feel he's been here forever, but other times can't believe he's here at all! He's not in any kind of routine but I figure that's normal. We're just feeding, changing, sleeping whenever the need takes us biggrin.gif

Hope everyone is doing fabulously!

#11 danielles

Posted 13 September 2011 - 10:24 AM

Hi everyone!

I hope you don't mind me joining :-) my baby boy Finn was born on the 15th of August by c-section. I had hoped to vbac but it didn't happen naturally and because of previous c section I couldn't be induced.
My other little boy Noah is 2 and a bit!

Finn is settling in pretty well and I'm adjusting to being a mummy of two!

Look forward to getting to know you all.

Danielle :-)

Edited by danielles, 13 September 2011 - 10:25 AM.

#12 IVF Baby

Posted 14 September 2011 - 03:52 PM

Can't believe I am in a parents group.  Have logged on for the first time in weeks.

Joshua is now over 4 weeks old and putting on weight like a trooper.  Each day is a new discovery.  Yesterday, projectile vomitting - how glam!

After an emergency C section and two weeks of battling with breastfeeding, he is now a formula baby and whilst a lazy eater and a bit of a cheewer, he is eating well.  My boobs have recovered and so has my tummy and I am so please to be only half a kilo off my pre baby weight.

I am so looking forward to his next milestones, the smiles, him focusing on us but concious of the fact that this means he is growing so fast.

Burping and settling post feed seem to be my major issues and well as the question of any possibility of getting into a routine at this age?  Or an I just dreaming and it's way too early.  Any advice would be welcomed.  I am trying to put him in his cot for only his night time sleeps to help him distinguish between morning and night.  I hope this is right.

Being a first time mum, you really just do what works and try not to get too overtired in the process.

Best wishes to all for long sleeps and settled bubs

#13 cassi8

Posted 16 September 2011 - 12:05 AM

unsure.gif Can I still chat here? Its not my fault he had to be very  forcefully evicted 11  days over! laughing2.gif

IVF - As silly as it sounds, you just have to go with your gut. Patterns will start emerging soon in behavior and you will notice the routine forming. I was hopeless at settling first time around, it would seem all that practise has done me some good wink.gif

Well, Liam is just over a week old. He is much better at feeding now and not tearing me apart every feed anymore which is nice. We are getting some nice long sleeps out of him, just not when I would prefer them to be ddoh.gif
I had a bit of a meltdown earlier, pain from the c-sect, sleep deprivation and frustration showing a bit but doing ok now after a little bit of rest. I'd be interested to know how other c-sects are going and what the pain is like post 2 weeks, right now its just feeling like it will never end and I can never remember when I need to take my meds ddoh.gif

#14 IVF Baby

Posted 18 September 2011 - 07:38 PM

My c section pain and "area soreness" really only started to ease up at the beginning of week 4.  The area looks great, the wound, but still feels kind of numb to a degree and I am really hesitant to rub any kind of cream on it or anything.  I guess I am still getting used to it on my body.

I didn't get much rest post op, had to be up and looking after a baby.  I was up the next day and walking about, didn't drive till week 3, but had to keep the house running and look after Joshi.  So, don't feel I got the time to rest like I probably should have.  I am interested to see what my OB says about the wound, am seeing her for the six week post appointment next week.  

QUOTE (cassi8 @ 16/09/2011, 12:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
unsure.gif Can I still chat here? Its not my fault he had to be very  forcefully evicted 11  days over! laughing2.gif

IVF - As silly as it sounds, you just have to go with your gut. Patterns will start emerging soon in behavior and you will notice the routine forming. I was hopeless at settling first time around, it would seem all that practise has done me some good wink.gif

Well, Liam is just over a week old. He is much better at feeding now and not tearing me apart every feed anymore which is nice. We are getting some nice long sleeps out of him, just not when I would prefer them to be ddoh.gif
I had a bit of a meltdown earlier, pain from the c-sect, sleep deprivation and frustration showing a bit but doing ok now after a little bit of rest. I'd be interested to know how other c-sects are going and what the pain is like post 2 weeks, right now its just feeling like it will never end and I can never remember when I need to take my meds ddoh.gif

#15 cassi8

Posted 19 September 2011 - 06:13 PM

Thank you, it seems to be slowly improving now thankfully! my scar is fine, just inside that really hurts. I hope your appt goes well.

#16 courtney-b

Posted 21 September 2011 - 12:46 PM

I was feeling fine internally after about 5 days, but I hear everyone is different. However, I got this excruciating pain on the skin about two inches around the scar site for at least the first two weeks. Only hot heatpacks provided any relief, not pain meds. I had an emergency appointment with my Ob who said he had never heard of anything like that and was also turned away from a&e. I thought I was crazy and had many a meltdown as I felt like everyone thought it was in my head as there was no redness or anything, and no infection as I had already finished my course of antibiotics. I found one woman describe exactly the same thing on a US mothers forum but had no explanation of what it was. This was enough to make me realise I wasn't insane! However, I had a midwife appointment at 3 wks and she said it was quite common and that it was the nerve endings trying to find new pathways around the scar. I feel absolutely 100% now four weeks in which is a real relief.

Hugo sleeps beautifully at night, from about 9/9:30 until 330/4 and then resettles after a feed until about 6/630 when his brother starts tearing around. Unfortunately he wont let me put him down during the day at all which is quite difficult when you are trying to keep up with a toddler. But, you can't have everything and I am happy to carry him around in my hugabub until he is ready to be put down.

Hope you are all doing well. How are you feeling now Cassi?

#17 cassi8

Posted 21 September 2011 - 03:33 PM

gosh Courtney, how awful! I haven't taken the voltaren today, 2 weeks to the day so will just take panadol. I have noticed a gross lump in my belly button so will be off to the GP for that, looks like an infection of some sort. I have a super clingy bub today and DH back at work today so I am exhausted because all he wants to do is feed.  wacko.gif

#18 greenthumbs

Posted 22 September 2011 - 10:39 PM

QUOTE (cassi8 @ 16/09/2011, 12:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I was hopeless at settling first time around, it would seem all that practise has done me some good wink.gif

Any tips on settling Cassi8? (hope you're feeling better today too)

Henry is all over the place with sleeping, not that I can expect much else at four and a half weeks I guess.
I feel we're doing really well, but I'm finding the lack of sleep tough (and I know I have a very good bub and I actually get 5-6 or so hours sleep a day - broken sleep that is).

DP is great with him and is so proud of him. Loves showing him off, whenever we go somewhere he is the one to carry him. Henry gave him huge smiles this morning too which was absolutely gorgeous biggrin.gif

I'm finally starting to feel normal physically. Although I can still feel stitches sad.gif so much for dissolvable. Have managed to go for a couple of walks so far. Unfortunately Henry does not like the pram which is a bugger. He didn't like his baths at first either but seems ok in them now so perhaps he'll come around to the pram.

I'm finding my memory and focus is completely gone at the moment. And I feel so awful that all I seem to talk about is our little man. I'm trying so hard to come up with other topics of conversation as I don't want to bore anyone, but it's bl**dy hard! Although I do feel pleased that DP and I haven't discussed his poo too much yet biggrin.gif

Anyone else finding it hard getting to sleep even though you're exhausted? Perhaps I'm on edge waiting for Henry to wake.

I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying their little ones original.gif

#19 IVF Baby

Posted 23 September 2011 - 09:47 AM

I am not finding it difficult getting to sleep, the moment my head hits the pillow, I am out.  It's getting enough sleep that is the problem.

Joshi goes down around 6-7 and sleeps 5 hours and then, after a feed that usually takes around an hour to an hour and a half he only goes 2-3 hours for the next two sleeps.  This means I am in bed very early and lights out in order to get any sleep myself at all.

Feeds are taking an hour to an hour and a half because he is a bit of a chucker, so we have to feed him sitting up and keep him sitting up for a minimum of half an hour post feed.

As for day sleeps, it's hard to get him to stay down for longer then an hour.  This morning, I got half an hour, after him being awake for 2 and a half hours, which just gave me enough time to change the bed linen and do a load of washing.  Then, I end up with him in the baby bjorn, when of course he goes straight to sleep.  Grrr

I have been on google and yes, this sleep pattern is all normal, just a phase and my god, I can't wait for it to end.  So frustrating.

Someone with more then one child, feel free to tell me when this is going to get better.

I don't think I will even be able to get out of my pj's today.

#20 cassi8

Posted 23 September 2011 - 01:05 PM

IVF, I haven't been out of my PJs in 2 days and counting, good thing I am not going out and getting smelly. L has been feeding like a mad child, very exhausting! He is sleeping well today though so might actually get a shower and a change at some point, once I catch up with food intake  rolleyes.gif It does get better, they develop better patterns and become a bit more predictable and do eventually sleep at night for longer.

It takes me an hour to feed then half hour to settle properly, so I get maybe 2 hours sleep between feeds at night. Last night I climbed into bed at around 11 woke at 3 and 6 for feeds. The sleep deprivation gets to me as well, I need 8 hours to be in a decent mood and getting 6 and under is killing me, especially seeing as though I can't nap during the day until DS1 is sleeping and then I have to hope that DS2 goes down at the same time!

Greenthumbs, wrap firm, hold firm, rock and pat works for us. I will work on self settle later on. I am oh so fortunate to have one with a very sensitive startle reflex so getting him to stay asleep when I put him down is a challenge but slowly working it out.

I got to smack on 2 weeks and no pain  huh.gif gone overnight.. maybe the stitches have gone. I do have a weird infection in my belly button but will get it checked out. Gotta go, the boy is hungry..

#21 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 23 September 2011 - 01:58 PM

Hi all,

Cassie I'm very happy to see you here with your late bub original.gif

IVF - my advice to FTM is to listen to the MCHN! Mine is awesome though, I completely ignored her about putting DS down awake so he would go to sleep in his cot - he was just so cute and what else did I have to do with my time?!! So we ended up with a sleep specialist because the poor mite couldn't leave my arms without putting up a huge fuss! So this poor boy has no chance, second time Mum and not taking any rubbish!

Anyway, Teddy is sleeping well ag night (2 feeds at the usual times) - the 5 hour sleep is getting gradually longer so hopefully he'll continue his text book baby-ing and drop one feed by 12 weeks. He has one good day nap for 2-3 hours around lunch time but has a terrible morning period which is a bit tough on DS1. The afternoons he's generally OK until around 5.30 which gives us half an hour of shouting until DH gets home to take over for a bit.

Settling - mine have both responded very well to being face down (I do it in my arms), Teddy really likes quite loud shushing and Oliver liked singing. Both have been very happy in the baby bjorn and walking, which is good for post-pregnancy fitness at least biggrin.gif

C/s - mine was internally sore longer than externally but I can't remember when it all went away. I had my 6 week check up this week and all isfine. I'm pretty sure at this point we're not having any more laughing2.gif but we're also not using any contraception except tiredness!

Hope everyone else continues well.

#22 greenthumbs

Posted 23 September 2011 - 06:10 PM

QUOTE (cassi8 @ 23/09/2011, 01:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Greenthumbs, wrap firm, hold firm, rock and pat works for us. I will work on self settle later on. I am oh so fortunate to have one with a very sensitive startle reflex so getting him to stay asleep when I put him down is a challenge but slowly working it out.

Henry's got a sensitive startle reflex too! Such a pain especially as he doesn't like his arms being in the wrap huh.gif

Feeling pretty good today, we spent the morning in bed together, napping, reading and feeding, rather than rushing to get up and do washing etc. I can see this becoming a habit biggrin.gif Lucky I've only got the one!

Hats off to those with more than one kiddly wink!

#23 LovetheSun

Posted 24 September 2011 - 05:14 PM

Hello, I've been wanting to come in a post here for ages.
Hugo is 4.5 weeks or officially a month old today. He's so lovely. We all adore him. In the last few days he's really woken up and become quite animated with smiles and chatting during his awake times.
Third time round is so much easier! Helps I'm breaking a lot of rules too - he sleeps in his swing during the day and with my at night. I'll deal with undoing whatever harm that's doing later. For now it's given me the space and time to ease DD2 into not having me at her beck and call all the time. I think he's actually a pretty good sleeper also which helps. I'm not saying that out loud though because my girls were terrible sleepers and I don't want to jinx myself!
He wakes between 6-7 thanks to DD2 being insanely loud. And is back down within 45 minutes, then sleeps on and off throughout the day, sometimes for a few hours, sometimes only an hour but back down within an hour. His tricky time is 5-7 when he wants to cluster feed before finally passing out.
He also sleeps very well from 7-12, so I crash pretty early too. I have no idea some nights when or how often he feeds during the nights, I generally just lie next to him and stick a boob in his mouth, swapping sides when I need! Other nights I sit up and try and get him to feed for longer and settle better but mostly I just enjoy staying asleep!!
DD2 is being SOOOOO difficult though. I really struggle some days to manage her and her tantrums. It breaks my heart. Thankfully she has happily become Daddy's girl and lets him do everything I used to do and what she never ever used to let him do. Has helped ease the pressure a bit. Unfortunately she refuses to sleep during the day anymore, unless I BF her too lying on the couch. She comfort fed throughout my pregnancy despite my milk drying up very early. Some days it works, other days I don't manage to have them both asleep at the same time.
Tues and Thurs she's in kindy so sleeps there. They are also the nights DH isn't home until 7. Most nights he gets home and we're all just holding it together (or not!) just counting down the seconds until he gets home! It's not so bad when DSD is here but on the few nights a month she spends with her maternal grandparents, I do struggle with Miss 7, Miss 2 and Mr just born! But I think it's just a matter of finding new routines with homework and having dinner ready during the day etc.
For PP who asked does it get easier, absolutely. And then they change AGAIN. Just be prepared for things constantly changing all the time. But it's so worth it.
I hope to be in here a bit more. I loved chatting to you all while we were waiting to deliver. We ended up with quite a few overdue in the end.
Ok, dinner time after a long day at the Justine Clarke concert and Museum after.

#24 redheeler

Posted 26 September 2011 - 01:29 AM

Hi everyone, I was in the July DIG but my DS was born 9 days overdue on the 2/8/11, so he's almost 8 weeks old now...wow how time flies when you're in a sleep deprived daze. Although I can't really blame DS for all the sleep deprivation as he is a good sleeper & I could sleep when he does but instead stay up late on the web..it's my quiet time to myself & I cherish it atm. I'm a first time mum from Adelaide & looking forward to getting to know you all biggrin.gif

Edited by redheeler, 16 December 2011 - 08:50 AM.

#25 IVF Baby

Posted 26 September 2011 - 09:21 AM

Morning ladies
I am on day 1 of "save our sleep" routine and just got the little guy to self settle.  
So he is 6 weeks old today and here is how we are doing
7pm sleep
10pm - dream feed , only 90mls.  He stayed asleep the whole time.
3pm - demand feed
5.45am - awake
7am - feed
8.30am - self settle sleep, 20 mins and then awake, protest cry for 10 minutes and then back asleep for 10 minutes.  

I think I might have this sleep battle on my hands this morning as when I picked him up he was quiet straight away, cheeky devil!

Has anyone else done this with other kids?  Any advice?

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