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#1 Mummy Duck

Posted 17 November 2011 - 07:16 PM

Hi Im 39yo and almost 8 weeks pregnant. Was hoping to share the journey with some other mums on EB/EK.

I cant seem to keep track of the DIGs as they get so many people.

Any older mums about?

#2 Bibendum

Posted 17 November 2011 - 07:23 PM

I'm 42 and in my 4th week now - a bit nervous, as I've had a series of chemical pregnancies, two in the past two months...  This is the first that's made it far enough to get past my period due date - good results from a blood test now, so hopefully this one will stick...
So happy to share the ride - and hope I can do it all the way this time :-)




#3 Mummy Duck

Posted 17 November 2011 - 07:32 PM

Oh Hi Bibendmum best of luck and I hope we can both make it together.

I can totally relate. I fell pregnant in June and miscarried at 11 weeks and then fell the following month after a D&C.

I also had a mc the cycle before I had bd.

So Im praying to take this ride to the end.

Do you have any other children? I have a bs13yo and bd almost 2yo.

Are you taking asprin or any other meds that are given to mums with early loss issues?


#4 nellr

Posted 17 November 2011 - 07:36 PM

hey guys, just wanted to say hi and wish you well... i'm 40 and 38 weeks pregnant (so a bit too 'far gone' to hang out with you lol).

Enjoy the ride, i have found this pregnancy soooo much easier than my last, and that was five years ago. Hope you have the same experience!

Good luck!

#5 Bibendum

Posted 17 November 2011 - 07:58 PM

I have a seven-year-old son from a previous relationship.  I met my husband when I was 38 - he's younger, and I had thought he must not want kids if he were willing to go out with me ;-p (my confidence wasn't the best after my ex...).  It turned out that children were really important to him - but that he was willing not to, if it meant he could be with me...  So more time passed while we tried to get ourselves on the same side of the planet...  Then we started trying in July 2010 - but both of us with horrific work schedules that always seemed to put us in different places at the "right" time...  We've obviously managed it a bt better in the last few months... ;-P. Including this past month, when I had the world's most horrific cold the whole time we were trying... ;-P.

I was waiting for an appointment with a specialist to discuss the recurrent chemical pregnancies when I discovered I was pregnant again...  So our first appointment was a bit different than planned, since I was already pregnant...

At the moment I'm not taking anything - we're still waiting on the outcomes of a large number of tests she ran on Wednesday.  But HCG is 211, and progesterone is 83...  So I'm hopeful...  But scared.

I keep taking HPTs and trying to work out if the line is getting any fainter... ;-P.  And every time I go to the toilet, I'm a bit surprised not to find blood...  (I don't actually feel as morbid as this sounds writing it out - I feel more surreal, as if I'm not entirely sure this is happening...  And I think I'm trying to sit on an underlying euphoria and not get my hopes up too high...)

Very sorry to hear of your losses... :-(.  Here's hoping for both of us...

Nellr - thanks for the well wishes - I've been wondering whether this pregnancy would be easier or harder than my last one... I hope the birth is as much easier for you as the pregnancy has been!

Edited by Bibendum, 17 November 2011 - 08:00 PM.


#6 DrDC

Posted 17 November 2011 - 08:13 PM

I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant and will turn 42 the week he/she is due. This is my 4th child but my eldest (14yo) I required 2 years of fertility treatment to fall , my 2nd is adopted and is now 8 years old. I have a 4 year old "surprise baby" (no treatment - long given up expecting)....and this one.....the "oh my goodness, I thought I was menopausal" child!
Unlike my pregnancy 4 years ago, which was a breeze, though ended in a c/s for foetal distress, this one has been challenging. I have been MUCH tireder (but then I do work 4 days/week and have 3 active boys!); and physically I have had a number more issues than previously. I'm on thyroid medication and on Saturday I have to do a glucose tolerance test because my glucose challenge came up 0.1 higher than normal range (poop!)
BUT now I'm past the petrified stage, I'm starting to get excited (hubby still struggling though - he likes his sleep and we've only just started getting it again...me, I think sleep is over-rated!). I'm hoping for a VBAC but am comfortable with whatever happens. I'm doing calmbirth classes for the first time (I have a friend who teaches them and I definitely need some calm in my life!)
I'm not sure how to stay in touch using this forum, but I'm happy to share with you as we go along!

#7 MrsWidget

Posted 17 November 2011 - 08:17 PM

Hi I'm interested in joining too. I'm 41 and 11 weeks pregnant.

Hi I'm interested in joining too. I'm 41 and 11 weeks pregnant.

#8 Mummy Duck

Posted 17 November 2011 - 09:34 PM

Thanks for the wishes Nellr and please keep us posted on the last few weeks and birth. How excititng!

Bib I would ask your doc about what meds you can take just in case. Im on asprin due to mc's and my doctors attitude was that it cant hurt so worth a try.

Dr DC your over the hump and on the home straight. This pregnancy is also a suprise baby as my last child was 9 cycles of fertiltiy/IVF treatments

Mrs M how lovely to have another mum to join us.

Im struggling with morning sickness the last few days. Its really giving me a hard time. Im only eating soup at the moment and having some success at keeping that down. Lucky for bub Im no string bean so neither of us will starve to death original.gif This is my 5th pregnancy and Im hoping to make it my 3rd take home baby. Looking forward to getting past this first trimester. I cant wait for that damn scan.

#9 Bibendum

Posted 17 November 2011 - 10:09 PM

QUOTE (DrDC @ 17/11/2011, 09:13 PM)
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on Saturday I have to do a glucose tolerance test because my glucose challenge came up 0.1 higher than normal range (poop!)


I had this exact same result in my last pregnancy - failed the screening gets by a hair, had to take the diagnostic test, failed that by a similar margin, and so got diagnosed with gestational diabetes.  Fortunately with the tests so near the cutoff, I never actually had trouble with blood glucose, without even modifying my diet (mind you, my diet that pregnancy was pretty restricted because so many thing made me nauseous - but, if I could manage to keep it down, it never seemed to give me high blood sugars... ;-P).  By the end, they decided that the situation wasn't serious enough to require much additional monitoring, and let me go back to working just with my midwife, which was what I wanted at the time.


All of which is by way of saying that if you do "fail" the GTT as well, but only by a bit, hopefully you won't find it too difficult to manage.  This should be even more the case now than it was eight years ago when I went through it, as they've lowered the numbers considered diagnostic - which means that falling just in the wrong side of the cutoff might be easier to manage with just diet and exercise than it might have been in the past.


I'm expecting, though, to fail this test again - and presumably to be asked to take it early, since I had the diagnosis last time.  I weigh less now than I did then, by a fair amount, but my hairline fail last time would be well over the limits now...  So I'm sort of expecting it to happen...


QUOTE (MrsWidget @ 17/11/2011, 09:17 PM)
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Hi I'm interested in joining too.
Welcome :-)

QUOTE (Mummy Duck @ 17/11/2011, 10:34 PM)
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Bib I would ask your doc about what meds you can take just in case. Im on asprin due to mc's and my doctors attitude was that it cant hurt

Im struggling with morning sickness the last few days. Its really giving me a hard time. Im only eating soup at the moment and having some success at keeping that down. Lucky for bub Im no string bean so neither of us will starve to death original.gif This is my 5th pregnancy and Im hoping to make it my 3rd take home baby. Looking forward to getting past this first trimester. I cant wait for that damn scan.


Yeah, I had actually wondered about this - just accidentally, since I was miserable with a terrible cold for weeks earlier in the month, I was taking aspirin for that...  I think in higher doses, though, than what is normally recommended for fertility purposes...  

I should maybe have mentioned that I was also diagnosed a few months back with a severe vitamin D deficiency, and have been taking supplements for that, as well as the standard folate...  My regular doctor doesn't seem to think this would have any effect on my ability to hold onto a pregnancy - but it's a pervasive hormone used for so many biological processes, and she commented when the test results came back that they were the lowest she'd ever seen, so it's hard to think it wouldn't have had some effect...

On the morning sickness front, it hasn't hit here, yet, other than a few seconds once a day.  But it didn't hit me last time around until week seven or eight either - and then stayed the whole rest of the pregnancy...  About the only thing I could consistently eat was a particular kind of soup, occasionally supplemented with peanuts and pink lady apples... ;-P.  I'm hoping if nausea hits this time, it admits a more varied diet... ;-P

DrDC - best of luck with the VBAC and the calmbirth classes...



#10 ka7

Posted 17 November 2011 - 10:42 PM

Hi ladies

I think I'll jump on your wagon too.   I am 39 and 15weeks preg with number 4.
This is my 4th IVF pregnancy due to 'unexplained infertility'.
I have been so lucky with my IVF treatment having success with 1x egg collection resulting in 11 grade 1 & 2 embryos.  The first transfer resulted in my eldest and 2 frozen emby transfers resulting in successful pregnancies although we had an embryo succumb during thawing both times.  

I am not totally addicted to EB and probably will not post/check in every day but look forward to sharing this pregnancy with you. original.gif


#11 Mummy Duck

Posted 18 November 2011 - 05:29 AM

QUOTE (Bibendum @ 17/11/2011, 10:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yeah, I had actually wondered about this - just accidentally, since I was miserable with a terrible cold for weeks earlier in the month, I was taking aspirin for that...  I think in higher doses, though, than what is normally recommended for fertility purposes...  

I should maybe have mentioned that I was also diagnosed a few months back with a severe vitamin D deficiency, and have been taking supplements for that, as well as the standard folate...  My regular doctor doesn't seem to think this would have any effect on my ability to hold onto a pregnancy - but it's a pervasive hormone used for so many biological processes, and she commented when the test results came back that they were the lowest she'd ever seen, so it's hard to think it wouldn't have had some effect...

Im on asprin, vitamin D, normal preg vitamins and progesterone pessaries. I had a blood test come back low for Antithrombin 3 and then another come back in range but just below.

Im now following the exact same protocol that worked for bd asprin and progesterone following a mc/d&c. Im willing to try anything at this stage and maybe its just placebo but I need something to have some faith in.

Sadly previous miscarriages have really taken all the charm out of being pregnant. I am pregnant in theory but havnt allowed myself to believe this will be a take home baby till we get much further along. Im really sad about feeling this way but its the way it is at the moment.

Welcome ka7 Im on Eb depending on my work load and morning sickness status.

How lovely to see so many of us in similar circumstances.  original.gif



#12 Bibendum

Posted 18 November 2011 - 08:05 AM

QUOTE (Mummy Duck @ 18/11/2011, 06:29 AM)
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Im willing to try anything at this stage and maybe its just placebo but I need something to have some faith in.

Sadly previous miscarriages have really taken all the charm out of being pregnant. I am pregnant in theory but havnt allowed myself to believe this will be a take home baby till we get much further along. Im really sad about feeling this way but its the way it is at the moment.

Welcome ka7


It's really true, about taking the charm out of being pregnant... My last pregnancy eight years ago, I got pregnant instantly - I wasn't even really "ready" - it was first cycle off the pill, and I had thought surely I wouldn't be fertile yet...  And, the gestational diabetes result aside, I really wasn't worried or anxious during the pregnancy, I worked right up until four days before I went into labour, and really just didn't stress about it...

This time, everything feels very tentative, and I'm wondering when I'll start to feel confident in the pregnancy.  I'm really ambivalent about when to tell people.  I'll actually be on research leave for six months, starting in December - arranged before I knew I'd be pregnant - and our family are all overseas, so I don't actually even have to worry about when I'll start showing.  We haven't even told anyone we were trying, because I wasn't sure how things would go, and my husband tends to be a bit private...  I was okay with this when we started, but it's been a bit hard not to talk to anyone about the process...  So I'm sort of sitting on myself wanting to blurt things out, even though we're so early, just because this is the most success we've had to this point...

My fertility specialists gave me a prescription for the progesterone pessaries "just in case", but asked me to wait on my blood test results before taking them - and then progesterone came back strong this time, although it may have been an issue in the earlier chemicals...  So for the moment I'm just holding tight for the next blood test next week and taking my vitamins.  And trying to be as unstressed as I possibly can, as intense stress at work seemed to time pretty precisely with my period starting the following day, in our chemicals...  So my work pace has slowed to a glacial level - although fortunately I've done so much over-the-top work in the past couple of years that no one seems to be minding...

#13 Lineth

Posted 19 November 2011 - 04:23 PM

Hi everyone,

I'd like to join in, too.  I'm 39 y.o. and 10 wks pregnant.  This is my 6th pregnancy but am hoping will be our first baby.

First time was a blighted ovum discovered at the nuchal scan.  Second was promising - saw a heartbeat at 8 wks, but another missed m/c and testing revealed Downs.  Had loads of blood tests which didn't reveal much.  After an operation to remove adhesions following the two D&Cs, fell again, but only a faint line and early natural m/c.

By this time, hubby in particular (who is now 47) was getting very impatient, so we tried IVF - even though our problem seemed to be carrying rather than conceiving.  Luckily produced 3 A-grade embys, fell pregnant, but had another early m/c.  Had been using progesterone pessaries and Clexane, just in case, but neither seemed to help unfortunately.

After our 5th m/c, about 4 mths ago, I got angry.  I ranted on about refusing to have another m/c!  You know that song 'I am strong, I am invincible, I am woman'?  That was my mantra (yep, was going a little crazy).  Anyway, went back to the drawing board, reviewed all tests done so far and other actions taken (mind body - I'd covered the lot) and started to re-do some blood tests to check hormone levels.  Meantime, no TTC.  'I will not fall pregnant until I know what the hell is going on here!'

Anyway, one moment of passion, which we almost resisted because it was during my fertile time, and hey presto!  Was so shocked, but was wonderful to be surprised.  The way it happened, the ms I've had since wk4, and seeing the heartbeat at the 8wk scan, have been very encouraging and reassuring, however am now hanging for the 12wks to come around and see that everything is still ok.

Am feeling really good about this one.  I figure it's got to stick eventually!  And hope the same goes for all of you.  I look forward to chatting.

#14 Bibendum

Posted 20 November 2011 - 09:54 AM

Hi Lineth - so sorry for your losses - here's hoping this one sticks for both of us!  We were just about to begin IVF - although, like you, our problem seems to be keeping a pregnancy, rather than getting pregnant - when this one came along...  Congratulations on seeing the heartbeat! And all the best for that 12-week milestone!

#15 Kemma

Posted 20 November 2011 - 10:35 AM

Hi all!

I'm Kym and I'm 38, will be just 39 when this baby is born.
We have an 18mo daughter who is divine.
I'm 12 weeks today so technically thru the most likely time to mc but tomorrow I'm having the 12w scan & cvs.

I didn't have anything more than the nt test and morph scan with our daughter but for some reason (probably age related paranoia!) I'm going straight to the cvs.
In all honesty I think reading so many heartbreaking stories on sites such as this may have contributed to it..

Anyway I've had pretty much the same issues so far as the first time. Mild nausea, extreme tiredness. With my girl.  I had hideous, almost crippling, hip pain starting around 22 weeks. That is one thing I'm praying doesn't happen this time. and I had 1 week of bed rest due to high blood pressure the week before she was born.

All going well this one will be born almost exactly 2 years after DD. Their due dates are 2y1d apart.
My daughter came at 38w naturally after a 9 hr very painful labour.
One of my goals is to be in a little bit more control during this labour. I was off the planet in pain last time due to an anterior lip. Ouch.

Like a couple of others said I haven't really let myself enjoy this pregnancy so far, let's hope we all do start to soon wink.gif
Look forward to sharing the journey together.
Kym

#16 k10

Posted 20 November 2011 - 04:58 PM

Hi All original.gif  I'm 39, 8 weeks pregnant with No 2 original.gif  My DS is 2 yrs 9 months.  Both are IVF bubs.  This pregnancy has been v different for me.  I've had some spotting but the 7-8 week scan showed everything was ok thank god.  A small bleed was visible so I've been resting up and there is no more lifting of DS for me which is hard sad.gif  Like us all I am very much looking forward to the 12 week scan and hope I can relax then and start to enjoy the pregnancy a bit more as I've been really worried so far.

#17 geckosrule

Posted 20 November 2011 - 05:14 PM

Hi, can I join too?

I'm 42 and just got my BFP after years of TTC.  This was the third and final IVF attempt and got my BFP on Saturday after BT.  I'm still not excited about it because I think I'm waiting for the bottom to fall out of it all.  I have to go for another BT on Wednesday and if that's positive then an ultrasound a fortnight later.  Maybe it just hasn't sunk in yet.  

I have been so tired for the last few days and my boobs have been really tender but feel normal today.

I'm terrified that something will go wrong...does everybody else feel the same way?

#18 k10

Posted 20 November 2011 - 07:01 PM

Hi geckosrule - congrats!!  I've been keeping an eye on a couple of the AC threads so have been watching your posts original.gif

I think what you are feeling is normal probably for any pregnancy and I think particularly when ivf is involved.  It's such a rollercoaster and doesnt stop with the BFP. How were your hcg and P4 levels on your BT??  Sounds like they are keeping an eye on you with the follow-up BT and ultrasound original.gif

#19 Bibendum

Posted 20 November 2011 - 07:54 PM

Welcome to everyone! :-)

QUOTE (Kemma @ 20/11/2011, 11:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I didn't have anything more than the nt test and morph scan with our daughter but for some reason (probably age related paranoia!) I'm going straight to the cvs.


I've been going back and forth on this myself...  Early on, we had both agreed that we would do amnio regardless, just due to the risks because of my age...  But after trying for so long, and having trouble getting one to stick, I've become ambivalent about it again...  I also just did the NT and morph scan last time...  I think my husband is still fairly keen to do an amnio...  We've agreed to talk about more - first we have to see if this one sticks long enough for the decision to be meaningful...


QUOTE (k10 @ 20/11/2011, 05:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Like us all I am very much looking forward to the 12 week scan and hope I can relax then and start to enjoy the pregnancy a bit more as I've been really worried so far.



QUOTE (geckosrule @ 20/11/2011, 06:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm still not excited about it because I think I'm waiting for the bottom to fall out of it all.  I have to go for another BT on Wednesday and if that's positive then an ultrasound a fortnight later.  Maybe it just hasn't sunk in yet.  
I'm terrified that something will go wrong...does everybody else feel the same way?


I'm finding this sort of panic/worry quite difficult this time around...  I really didn't worry at all in my first pregnancy eight years ago - I knew on some level that things might not work out, but I wasn't anxious about it at all.  But I've done far far too much reading this time around, and conception's been difficult enough, that it's a much more anxious process...

I've been wondering when I'll relax about it too...  I was wondering whether I'd continue to be sort of tense and disbelieving until things would be viable if I went into labour...

And I'm still really really early, so even the 12-week milestone is a ways off for me - but it's been good to be able to talk about the pregnancy, since we've not told anyone in real life - it's good to have it seem "real" in this one place, at least...


#20 Pandorasbox

Posted 20 November 2011 - 10:17 PM

Hello! Thought I would join too - nearly at the end with my first at 38, so I plan to be here for a while as I'm just starting:-)

#21 Red Cabbage

Posted 20 November 2011 - 10:22 PM

Hi All, I'm 39 and looking forward to the end of this pregnancy  biggrin.gif

Congrats and good luck Geckosrule.



#22 Kemma

Posted 21 November 2011 - 04:35 PM

Hi again. wink.gif
I had the cvs today & it went really smoothly. We decided on the fish results too so by this time tomorrow we shd have the results for the 3 most common trisomies.
The baby looked great and had an awesome nuchal fold measurement of 1.8mm.
I've been feeling really headachey and nauseous the last couple of days again. So hard to deal with when you've got a really active toddler!
Not to worry. Hope everyone's well.
K

#23 Mummy Duck

Posted 25 November 2011 - 05:33 PM

Hi ladies Ive been on holidays so not around much.

How is everyone?

I was a bit worried about a few things and with my history my OB ordered a scan. Yay we got to see baby again and thank goodness baby is measuring spot on to the day and has a great heart beat. I was really worried after over doing it physically on holidays.

I cant wait for my next scan but lucky its only about 3 weeks away.

Kemma I dont know much about cvs what are fish results?

#24 Renzi

Posted 27 November 2011 - 02:13 PM

Hi all

I'm 39yo (40yo in a few weeks) and I'm pregnant with my first child. Totally unplanned and unexpected. Baby daddy and I broke up a few months ago so he's not really on board with the pregnancy so I'm also an older single mum-to-be. I'm hoping he'll come around, not to be together but at least have a relationship with our child.

I had my first scan on Friday and I saw my baby's little heartbeat, 171, good and strong. I was getting so worried as my early pregnancy symptoms had subsided in the last week. The technician said it was 1.8cm long and I was 8weeks and 1 day, due 5 July 2012. Technically, I'm 9 weeks going on LMP so I was a little bit confused. She was it was all good though except I have large fibroids.

I didn't even know what fibroids were. I've done some research and I've got my doc appt tomorrow so hopefully she can tell me more (I'm going share care with my GP and hospital). She's also monitoring my blood pressure as I was on tablets to lower my BP before I fell pregnant which I've stopped now. There's so much more that you have to be careful of when you're an older mum-to-be. I read these articles and don't even understand what half the tests are that I should be having. Looking stuff up on the internet really can do your head in but you want the knowledge. It's a double edged sword.

Good luck to all and looking forward to see how y'all travelling.



#25 Bibendum

Posted 28 November 2011 - 09:13 PM

Hey folks - just an update that we had reassuring results from our first ultrasound scan - although the technician was annoyed at my doctor for sending me for the scan so early, and had been worried we wouldn't see anything.  But we saw the gestational sac, yolk sac, fetal pole - and a heartbeat!!  The date based on the scan results is 5 weeks 3 days - which is one day earlier than what I would have guessed from our charting, and four days earlier than would have been expected from LMP (but I knew that one would be off, as my cycles are longer).  Since there's a one-week margin of error for ultrasound dating at this point, they don't modify the date based in the LMP if you're within a week of what it would predict - I told my doctor this would happen, since I knew within a couple of days when I ovulated, and since I got the positive test result so early - there wasn't going to be much margin to change the date...  But my doctor seemed weirdly insistent that I have a dating scan (she initially wanted me to go when my blood test result confirmed the pregnancy - this was three days after my period was due!  There would have been nothing to see!).  But the result is that the ultrasound tech has recommended that I come back in 2-3 weeks for a "proper" scan - well, that, and being very relieved at what we were able to see.  I went in fully prepared to see very little, and to come out uncertain...

Of course, my anxieties are already moving on to attach to the next milestone now... :-P

Hope all is well with everyone...







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