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Posted 02 May 2012 - 06:26 PM
My nearly 5yo DS has been tt since just over 2yo and insisted on wiping his own bum from a very early stage. Hes always been a private pooer, in fact when I was tt him, he refused to poo in the potty when I was in the same room with him.
There was no problems (except the occasionaly smudgie on the wall/toilet seat/undies) but in the last few months he seems to be having some difficulty.
He would come close to you and you could smell poo on him. For a while we thought he was too busy playing and wasnt getting to the toilet in time and some poo was popping out. There were no nuggets in his undies, just a big smudgie. He would also get a sore bottom and sore nurrys due to the poo being in close contact with the skin.
We now think its him no wiping his bum properly and is just smearing it everywhere.
So my question is - which way do you teach your boys to wipe, hand down the front and wipe from bum to nurrys or hand down the back and wipe from bum upwards?
DH does the front way and Im the back way - DS cant seem to get either right!
Any other tips on helping him with his poo problem?
Posted 02 May 2012 - 06:46 PM
I actually teach mine to wipe while they're still on the toilet - that way there's maximum access, if you know what I mean. I tell them to look at the paper and keep wiping till it comes out clean.
Having said that, my 6yo often doesn't wipe at all
and I'm still wiping my 4yo's bum for him - by the sounds of it I should be grateful he lets me!!
ETA: they wipe your way (ie. down the back and wipe upwards)
Edited by mumandboys, 02 May 2012 - 06:47 PM.
Posted 02 May 2012 - 06:53 PM
We are down the back and wipe backwards. I also tell mine to wipe until the paper comes back clear.
That being said, if at home DS1 (6yrs) calls on me to wipe his bum and DS2 I am currently wiping for (other issues with sore bum atm).
Posted 02 May 2012 - 07:51 PM
Nurry - testicles
Thanks for replies so far.
He just doesnt seem to be able to grasp the 'wipe to get it off' concept, he just wipes and smears.
What gets me though is that he used to do it fine but its just the last few months that this problem has crept up. Could it be more of an emotional problem ie not enough attention or similar? DH & I have been busy moving house and he is the poor middle child?
Posted 02 May 2012 - 08:31 PM
Umm.. never in my life have I ever heard of anyone, including males who wipes like your husband.
I have never even read about it until your post.
I find it rather revolting and dragging Pooh towards your testicles instead of upwards to open space just makes me feel a little nauseous
Posted 02 May 2012 - 08:39 PM
Get him some wet wipes. Make sure he washes his hands properly too as if his wiping is inadequate his hand washing probably is too.
Posted 02 May 2012 - 09:16 PM
DD has insisted on wiping for some months and at first when she got off I would ask her to let me check it was clean - and she'd bend over.
Imagine my joy to be woken at my sister's house (I was on a mattress on the floor) by DD saying mum is it clean? I opened my eyes to the site of her bending over with her butt about 3 inches from my face!!
But on topic - I taught her to go in from behind and wipe backwards and while teach DS the same as that is what DH and I both do (well I assume DH does because I consider that is the right way).
Posted 02 May 2012 - 09:20 PM
Kleenex flushable wipes are the answer!
ETA I just asked DH and he said that its not normal to wipe poop towards the important area.
Edited by kriattica, 02 May 2012 - 09:22 PM.
Posted 03 May 2012 - 02:08 PM
I thought it was general knowledge that you wipe away from your privates?
I know your DS prefers privacy when doing his business, but I think you owe it to him to supervise and teach him properly how to wipe his bottom (especially including washing his hands properly with lots of soap). And when he's mastered it, he can go back to doing it privately.
I imagine if he's smelling like this at school, other kids will distance themselves, and it would be horrible for him to be teased. His teacher probably doesn't appreciate it either.
And like someone else said, maybe he's standing up whilst trying to wipe (an impossible task), and missing the real mess which is clenched inside his buttcheeks
Also, could it be a change in diet? Could something he is eating be creating messier pooh?
FYI I still wipe my nearly 5 yr old, but my 7 yr old has been doing her own for a long time.
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