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Asking for a plant back?
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Posted 21 June 2012 - 04:49 AM
Background story - owned a house, moved cities and rented the house out for 2.5 years then sold it last year.
When my first born came home from hospital MIL bought us a plant to celebrate the arrival of DD. we planted it in the ground (as opposed to a pot) as we thought we weren't ever moving.
Fast forward nearly 4 years and we don't live their anymore but the plant is still in the front garden. Would it be weird to ask the new owners if I could have the plant? I would most definitely offer a replacement (within reasonable value).
I have tried to find the same/similar flower but I can't remember the name.
Also I had a rose bush in the backyard that was given to us on our first wedding anniversary that I would love to have back. Would that be asking too much?
Posted 21 June 2012 - 05:34 AM
You can only ask. They might be thinking of relandscaping anyway.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 05:55 AM
I think thats weird...why didn t you take the plants before you moved out?
Posted 21 June 2012 - 06:09 AM
I also think its weird.
They can't mean that much to you if you left them for so long.
You can always ask though
Posted 21 June 2012 - 06:13 AM
Id explain that you have been feeling bad for leaving these plants, and offer to have a qualified landscaper replace them with a mature equivalent (or something else if they'd rather). I would agree to that, but I wouldn't want just anyone messing up my garden.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 06:34 AM
If they meant so much why didn't you take them when you moved or put the house on the market? That would be my thought and I would probably say no now.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 07:04 AM
I think it is a little strange, at least now you can always head back and see it in the front yard...
Posted 21 June 2012 - 07:11 AM
You haven't lived with that plant for 4 years and you can't remember the name of that plant? Can't mean that much to you!
Move on I say. Find some thing else you like.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 07:28 AM
I would think that maybe you couldn't take it with you when you first moved?
I think rather than a confrontation at the door, a nice letter in the post box explaining about the plants significance to you, and the reason why you could not take it at the time you moved, would be the best way to approach it. Make clear your offer to replace or pay for the plant, and leave plenty of contact details.
Another alternative if possible would to be to request a cutting from the plant that you can strike and regrow into a new plant.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 07:38 AM
You can ask, but I wouldn't be surprised if the answer is no. However, I agree with a PP who suggested that you also try asking for a cutting. You might have more success that way (leave it as an alternative perhaps) as they may be reluctant to remove a well established plant that they like.
I also think a polite handwritten note might be a good idea. You can give details of why, they have time to think it over and respond. Leave all your contact details in the letter (phone, email, etc).
I too think it's strange that you are coming back to this 4 years later (why didn't you remove the plants at the time if they meant that much to you?), but hey, stranger things happen. In the scheme of oddness, it's only a little odd, not major odd.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:12 AM
No harm in asking. Especially if you offer replacements (maybe of their choice, if they are interested?)
Maybe a picture of your DD or something that makes it personal. Maybe weirder, but try what you can.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:18 AM
I also think you've left it too long. They've been there 18 months now - it's THEIR home and THEIR garden.
Best you could expect is a cutting.
As others have said, it can't have been too special to have left it all this time.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:27 AM
you can ask but I wouldn't let you dig any established plants out of my garden - I would think you quite rude and entitled just for asking to be honest.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:29 AM
Don't just knock on the door and put them on the spot- that would definitely be weird, I wouldn't respond well to that at all. You could leave a note, I think if I were the receiver though I wouldn't be bothering to contact you even if I didn't mind. I agree you've left it too late. A cutting (should be possible from the rose at least) would be no issue if it were me, for that I wouldn't care if you just knocked on the door.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:32 AM
It is a bit odd. I think asking for a cutting would be less odd.
After my grandfather died, I went back to his old house (he had sold it a few years earlier) and asked if I could cut some roses from his favourite bush for his funeral and they were more than happy to oblige, but I can't imagine asking for the whole plant.
ETA - maybe you could ask if you could photograph it and/or take a clipping as you are trying to find another one because of the significance. They might just offer it to you.
Edited by *CalamityJane*, 21 June 2012 - 09:34 AM.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:32 AM
Yes, I think it's strange. Chances are the plant wont survive if you ripped the roots out and tried to replant anyway.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:32 AM
There's no harm in asking if it means that much to you. They may surprise you and say yes.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:42 AM
Within a week or so of moving in to our first home the previous owners contacted us via the agent to ask if they can take the rose bush from the front yard. It was planted as a memorial to their niece and in the rush and stress of moving (he was quite sick) they had forgotten to take it.
As I am not a gardener of any kind I was more than happy for them to take it. They came during the day when I was home and bought a box of choccies and told me how grateful they were.
If it was after four years though I would be a little perplexed though and not sure how I'd feel about it. As I'm not a gardener and I'm a softie I probably would let you take it but if I was a green thumb and had nurtured it and cared for it for 4 years I'd be pretty annoyed and probably suggest you take a cutting and try and get a replacement one or propagate one.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 10:09 AM
Sorry double post
Edited by iheartu, 21 June 2012 - 10:12 AM.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 10:46 AM
I'd be letting it go.
Can you take a photo of the plant and post it here? We might be able to help you identify and source another one...
Posted 21 June 2012 - 12:40 PM
Sorry op but that's a bit weird. Ask for a cutting, but no more. It will make the owners very umcomfortable and is an invasion of privacy.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 02:42 PM
The ship has sailed on that plant. They have been there for over 12 months - they don't want to be bothered by the previous owners.
Posted 21 June 2012 - 02:56 PM
I think its weird and would think if they meant so much to you, you would have taken them or a cutting when you moved
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