Hi baby-blue eyes
My hubby works in the Pilbara and we live in Vic. He does 9days on 5 days off. Our children are Boy 5.5 years and Girl 3.5 years. Everyone has an opinion on FIFO families. All my friends say how quick the time goes, how great it would be to have time out (ha this is funny
), and all the things you mentioned. They forget you have the kids on your own and are doing everything yourself, working, managing the house, spending time with the kids, etc
. Don't get me wrong FIFO is working for us and we have our routines etc and the kids love the 5 full days with dad every 2nd weekend, it is better time with him than when he worked 5 days a week (longer hours). I also work 3 days per week in a business we are partners in, so that also keeps me and the kids busy.You always have your bad days but need to work out if you have more bad days than good and ask yourself if FIFO is really working for you and your family. The answer for us is YES so we will keep going and working towards our goal. If the answer for you is NO than i would sit down with hubby and duscuss the options availabe so you and the kids are happy. Have you made a plan on how long you would like to keep doing FIFO work? Does your hubby know how you and the kids feel about it all this time? Is moving back an option for you?
I'm probably not much help for you but thought asking the above questions might sort out a few things for you and also to let you know we are all in the same boat and i'm here for a chat if you feel like venting.
I find when hubby is away and friends invite us out to a function etc, I feel awkward going on my own and don't want people to think i'm out having a great time while hubby is away working. I dont want people to think i'm mopping around but i don't want them to think i'm having a blast not having him around. IFYWIM
Things that help us are getting the kids to talk and skype with dad every day and he talks to them just before bed time. We count down the days until he is home, email pics and any special things to dad to make him feel apart of the family and to give him the heads up before he talks to the kids and he can ask them about it before the have to tell him. I scan awards, pictures, anything really. We try and plan a special family day when he is home, go to the movies or an outing and dinner as well as just quiet time at home.
Anyway these are some of the things we do, they work for us and I hope you are feeling a little less frustrated and knowthat we all know how you feel.
Take care and hope to hear from you soon.
This post has been edited by jomumof2: 17/07/2011, 10:08 PM