QUOTE (silentmoooose @ 28/08/2011, 04:58 PM)
Either-or. I hadn't assumed it was your personal stance anyway.
I think they're pretty dang close, actually. Or if not the same, that doesn't make one okay. Like kicking me in the head and setting me on fire are pretty different but I don't have to sign up for one because its not the same as the other.
Its additionally shaded, IMO, by the fact that the US doesn't even have the de facto relationship protections Australia does - we're really NOT just talking about a piece of paper, there, but a ream of privileges and rights that you don't get if you're not married.
However, many people I knew felt they were distinguishing between a behavior/lifestyle vs. just one set of rules for everyone. Marriage is between a man and a woman but it doesn't matter the background of the man or the woman as long as that's what you are.
Just like its not discrimination to say you have to be a certain minimum age or pass a blood test for diseases, they don't feel its discrimination to have one set of guidelines.