QUOTE (lucky 2 @ 30/01/2012, 11:05 AM)
Hugging is not a job requirement and isn't appropriate unless it is initiated by the woman.
There are many things which are not job requirements but it doesn't mean you shouldn't do them.
I don't know about you lucky 2 but after all these years it is not hard to 'read' your patients and sense what type of midwife they want you to be for them.
I can tell those who want no touch, no emotion, strictly business type of care but I can also tell which of those want you to show some connection to them in the way of touch, hugs and verbal encouragement.
I would never force myself onto someone who did not give me the right signals.
As for waiting until a hug is initiated? No way. A hug from me is a spontaneous act and I have never felt I have hugged the wrong people.
It is sad to think that some people don't realise the power of physical touch as recognition that you 'get' what they are going through.
QUOTE (pukeko~ponga~tree @ 03/02/2012, 02:13 PM)
I wish to god the midwife i had while i birthed my stillborn daughter had the experience and knowledge ( maybe intuition?) to give me some physical contact. I really could have used it.
This makes me so sad and ashamed.
I have spent 6 hours sitting beside the bed of a lovely lady who had just had a SB at term. Her DH had to go home to care for their other children and she had nobody else. How does someone sit alone in a single room after such a loss without support?
I held her hand until she went to sleep.....I would have hoped that someone would have done that for me.