[runnybabbit]

DH might earn the salary but we are a couple and together we are responsible for finances, running a household and raising our son. It is "our" money and I feel no guilt spending money on what we need or DH.

I don't need to jusitfy it. It's OUR money. Yes, DH goes to work to earn it. I stay home and support him and his family. That's the way we've chosen to do this.

This is how we roll. DH is hopeless with checking that he even gets paid. I'm the one who organises the banking each fortnight, makes sure his work has reimbursed him the correct amounts for things like petrol if he's filled up the work car, pay off our credit cards (we pay them off in full each fortnight), etc. I'm a lot more likely to question him about a weird CC purchase than he me.

[LynnyP]

We have never given any consideration to who earns the money at any stage in our relationship. I have had six years as a non income earner (no government money either so nothing in my name). He was not earning for a few years due to illness. I have earned more, he has earned more, we have earned about the same. I have felt comfortable as I have felt that we have always adjusted our various labour inputs to be as equal as we can at any time.