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Ali

[amoral lemur]

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[dogged]

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[amoral lemur]

name='cardamom' date='22/05/2012, 10:45 AM' post='14596408']
That's wonderful AL, it sounds like you've done a great job ensuring they have a happy, healthy relationship with their bodies I'm so acutely aware of the importance of how we talk/act about food, weight etc. with children. I was overweight as a child, and received so many conflicting messages from the adults around me (not that it was their fault, I'm sure it wasn't deliberate). These comments and ideas have really stuck with me - food being "good" and "bad", using food as a reward, the need to look good for people around you (I can vividly recall my Nan telling me, as an 8 year old, that I should wear more black because it is slimming, and suck in my stomach to look nicer. Now, would you like some more dessert, dear? )

I think we share the same parents

I went out for dinner with my DP last night and had delicious tapas, which I'm sure weren't especially healthy. But, I had a bit of everything, then stopped when I was full, even though there was still food on the plate. Very unusual for me.

A small but significent step in the right direction.

name='dogged' date='22/05/2012, 07:00 PM' post='14597973']
cardamom you seem to be in a great space right now. Hope zumba was fun! I have not been for ages either - but hope to get there again soon.
AL I envy you your healthy children - like many ASD children DS is a resistant eater and it's really difficult to get a good balanced diet into him. He's a bit pudgy, and the meds he's on increase the appetite

That's really tough. I know I am blessed and sometimes I feel guilty about it.

Because today was a fun day. All of my childcare for the next 4-6 weeks has just gone pear-shaped and I am left with a new job (yay) and no child care (boohoo). So I am activating plan B. Now, I just have to work out what plan B is.
But you know what? It didn't even cross my mind to search for the answer in a block of chocolate. Now that's progress.

That's a huge mind shift. Congrats on the new job.

But I am sore!! from yesterday's PT session. I had hoped to do some cardio today but I had to finish some work from home, because I left early to pick up DS because I had no childcare...and it has all gone bellyup. I think I will try to at least do a little bit of resistance work and some stairs in a little while. One of the advantages of living in a house with lots of stairs... I don't need a stepper machine!

For some-one who doesn't exercise a lot you sure do a lot of exercise!

The next two days are going to be difficult as we have Education Week open nights at both my school and the children's school and I have a school excursion. They'll be rushed and chaotic days - I need to be really careful about being organised. Because many of us are staying after school to prepare my school are ordering pizza - should I eat it or not? Is this what I need to learn? I need to learn to eat, enjoy, and stop when I'm full. Usually I would eat up to five slices of pizza. I'm not sure - perhaps I'm too early into this journey to do that and I should take my own dinner.

Is it possible to fill up on something like vegetable soup before you eat and then eat no more than two slices? That way you have best of both worlds.

Alright ladies, I hope you're proud of yourselves, because tomorrow I have.. drumroll please.. my first PT session

hehehehe So proud of you. Enjoy the feeling of achievement......afterwards. You will surprise yourself.

[cardamom]

DAMMIT! I was too slow. I guess I'll take BRONZE, even though that technically belongs to AL!

I'm actually quite looking forward to PT tomorrow, have my outfit all laid out (I'm so lame!) and my scary form asking for my weight ready to go. It was nice being able to write down a number that I'm not completely and utterly horrified by. I mean, it's definitely not great, but certainly better than 20kg ago.

ETA - Sorry to hear you had a similar experience as a child AL. Those thoughts/beliefs are really pervasive, aren't they? I actually think the biggest one for me was being chastised for overeating. "God, don't you ever stop eating?" "You've had enough, you'll blow up if you carry on like that!" (while still having unrestrained access to a pantry full of lollies, chocolates and Pringles...) etc. I think it taught me that eating was something to be ashamed of, and eating lots of food was "naughty", which has contributed to my habit of secretly binge eating when I'm alone. Anyway, no point dwelling on the past - onwards and upwards!

Thanks for the encouragement about personal training by the way, I definitely wouldn't have tried it if you hadn't made it seem so un-scary. I had visions of someone screaming at me and poking my belly flab!

This post has been edited by cardamom: 22/05/2012, 10:20 PM

[amoral lemur]

I think I love my personal trainer because he never asked how much I weigh. (I finally confessed to him)

This post has been edited by amoral lemur: 22/05/2012, 10:18 PM

[cardamom]

Can I ask AL, was it a relief to tell him?

The only people in real life who know my weight are the lady who weighs me at Weight Watchers and my doctor. The thought of my DP finding out (I once thought he had accidentally seen my weight on the screen of the WW e-tools thing) fills me with physical dread. Isn't that bizarre? It's not like knowing my weight would suddenly make him think I'm hideous and want to leave me. I guess to me it just feels like concrete proof that I am, in fact, clinically obese, and I would be afraid that he would pity me.

God, I can't shut up tonight, can I? I'll stop now.

OH, wait! I did Body Attack tonight because Zumba was cancelled. I'd always been afraid to try it because a (slim!) friend told me it was really, really hard - I managed it fine, and really enjoyed it! Hurrah!

[Alacritous~Andy]

Turn my back for ten seconds, and you greedy b**ches start a new thread AND steal all the bling.

I would totally threaten to beat you up, but you are all PT machines, and all I have is jelly arms to futilely flap at you.

I will go back and do proper replies tomorrow, but just want to say, good luck with your PT session tomorrow, C. I know what you mean about feeling good about your "better" number for the form. I was a bit the same way when I went for my booking in appointment at the hospital.

Off to bed, more tomorrow.

[ballogo]

I'm impressed by all these people who have Personal Trainers. Some of my colleagues have them and say they are great - mostly because it commits them to a regular routine. Whilst I love my swimming I would love to get back into aerobics, but I can't find a suitable class which fits into my available times. I'm just worried I might get bored with the swimming.

Cardamon - I love that you've laid out your outfit! I hope you don't mind if I compare you to my son - he slept with his school uniform under his pillow the night before his first day of school. I think that's great that you have that same type of excitement and joy!

amoral lemur and Cardamon - I laughed out loud at the comment about parents who complain about weight and then offer more food. My mum goes on and on about my weight, but in the same breath complains if I haven't tried every dish she's cooked My granny used to say, "Would you like some more?" as she plunked more food onto our plates!

Cardamon - I knew that I was getting heavier and heavier, but I would not weigh myself. It's as if not having a number meant that I couldn't possibly be unhealthy. So when I put a "number" to me, that was what horrified me and motivated me to do this. However, I haven't told anyone my weight. I can't tell my husband because I know what his rude reaction will be! I have told some friends at work what my aim is ie. how many kg I feel it would be best for me to lose - but I can't imagine mentioning that horrible number (my actual weight) out loud to anyone.

[cardamom]

Thanks AA! PT session went quite well. I was thinking of you today, actually - my psychologist told me she is pregnant, so will be taking leave soon. Nothing unusual, except that the psychologist I saw before her left the practice because she was pregnant. Must be something to do with psychs and pregnancy!

ballogo - I'm sorry that you don't think your husband would be supportive of you talking about your weight with him That must be really hard. I know what you mean about getting bored with just one form of exercise - have you considered a DVD workout? That might be easier to fit in to your schedule? Jillian Michaels ones are only 20 minutes long, and damn hard! Admittedly they can get a bit monotonous though, I probably only do a DVD once every week and a half.

How cute that your son slept with his uniform under his pillow! I probably would have done the same thing, I was pretty eager to start school. My last words to Mum as she was sniffling away and I was being led into class on the first day of school were "Don't forget to tape Captain Planet for me!"

PT session went well! Torturous, but good. Did squats with a medicine ball, step-ups, a lot of boxing, core stuff, etc. I felt pretty embarrassed by my lack of fitness, I was really out of breath after about 5 minutes, but the trainer was really lovely. I'm glad I pre-paid for 10 sessions though, in the middle of the session I thought "What have I done, I can't come back for 9 more of these!"