So mums in hospital. it takes us 1.5 hours there and 1.5 hours back.
I used to do it twice a day (coming home to pick the kids up).
I burned out.
I got dad accom in the city so he could be there every day.
10 days, 1800 dollars later - he came home. (we are 5kms outside the PATS scheme boundary)
Now we go daily, have been leaving at noon and getting home at 930 pm.
Mum is whinging 'nobody stays long' 'nobody visits'
We are EXHAUSTED and have tried to explain but she just doesn't get it.
Maybe related to medications, maybe depression, not sure.
I have brought knitting up - she made me take it home.
We put the tele on - she made us turn it off.
Brother sent her an Ipad - she made us take it home.
Bought her a sketchbook and pencil - she complained it was wrong type.
My dad collapsed yesterday - exhausted. My sis went alone. Mum almost had my sister in tears with her complaints and negativity.
What can we do - to help mum, to allay our guilt, to get life back some sanity!
We are facing a min of 5 more weeks of this IF she has surgery and her surgery is successful.
Otherwise - how long is a piece of string.
F our Lives!