I have had 3 babies and have never written an actual birth plan - but I did have vague ideas of what I wanted in mind. No epidural, no c-section, favourite music playing.
DD1 - I had no idea what to expect - except pain - but I was adamant I would definitely not get an epidural. The labour was long, midwife broke my waters, baby was sideways, docs wanted to do a c-section but I told them no, episiotomy done, ventouse and forceps were used but finally a healthy baby girl was born naturally.
DD2 - I went with the flow and it went so smoothly, transitioning quickly and naturally - I sat in the bath for pain relief, when I got out my waters broke, baby born soon after.
DD3 - I wanted to have a water birth and the midwife was very happy with that idea because she said it's a great experience. I had the idea in my head that it would go quickly like my second and it was fairly quick but more intense. I was furious when I got to hospital and couldn't have a water birth because the midwife on duty (different one than the one I was seeing thru preg) was already in the delivery suite with another woman in labour and not the birth centre where the baths are. The midwife said she would check to see how far along I was and then she stretched the cervix or something which I never asked her to do and she didn't even ask me
. The birth was very intense and I always had in my mind about the water birth so that made it worse. But in the end a healthy baby was born so that's all that matters.
I am now pregnant again and will go with the flow. Won't write a "plan" but will have vague plan in my head, same as last times. I really would like a water birth so will cross my fingers for that one but I guess if it doesn't happen I'll have to get over it. I vowed last time that I would have someone other than my husband there because he was no support - he just sat there waiting for things to happen instead of helping me.
It all depends on the woman - putting things on paper helps to get ideas out there, whether it all goes to plan or not.