[mayahlb]

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[I*Love*Christmas]

Sorry I don't have any answers just sympathy. I also have a 3 yr old boy named Tristan who is a handful.

[Mumof1OneontheWa...]

Have you had your son seen by a chiropractor - could be worth a look. I find my son is better all round with his monthly adjustment.

[caitiri]

Sounds like mine and he's just a month or so younger then yours going by your sig.

We are having some improvement with vigorous exercise, its too early to tell yet though. His kinder teacher has noticed an improvement. Its like he is craving constant stimulation, hes got excessive energy and just needs o be constantly doing new things.

He also is getting assessed by a speech therapist so i'm hoping that with upping the activity level will improve his behaviour

[BlondieUK]

mayahib - I might get slammed for suggesting this - but it sounds to me like you need to get your child assessed for behavioural issues. I do not mean to scare you, and I am not a doctor, but the behaviour you are describing happened to us when my DS1 was just turned three.

The issues and behaviour you describe are not uncommon to children on the autism spectrum. The head banging, inconsolable tantrums and fascination with doors, combined with a speech delay (which often masks even deeper communication problems).

You need to call everyone: your GP, your pediatrician, the child health nurse, the staff at your local day car/child care, and get on a list for assessment.

I have spoken quite bluntly - but we got our concerns brushed off at 2.5 and at 3, and I wish that someone had been mor blunt with me, but no one I knew had ever seen these kind of problems. It's very isolating.

PM me if you want to chat or talk. And get into the special needs boards for any questions.

[opethmum]

Maybe the following can help

When he is getting angry remove him from the situation immediately and tell him to use his words and ask him why he is getting angry. Perhaps use the opportunity to communicate that anger is ok but acting out is not and maybe when things are calm talk about anger as a healthy and say you get angry and what you do to help yourself to not get angry e.g. counting to ten, white sandy beaches etc
If it escalates in a low firm voice tell him "We do not do x,y,z"
if he hits out, throws objects at some one, remove yourself and any other person from the situation a safe distance away and in a low firm voice "We will talk when you have calmed down". Sometimes young people thrive on an audience and attention. When he has calmed down step in and say " I know you were angry but we do not do x, no x"
no lectures and continue with your day.
It sounds like you need a second opinion in paediatric development and it does not hurt that a fresh set of eyes looks on him and his progress.
Perhaps see a speech pathologist and also it would not hurt to look into occupational therapy too to help with his speech delay. I would also consult an ENT too to rule out any physical reasons why he may not be hearing you e.g glue ear and get a hearing test done helps as well.

I hope that has helped.

I wish you nothing but peace and I hope things get better for you and your son and quickly

[caitiri]

I just wanted to ask is he doing many things with other children like kinder, playgroup or something like that

[mayahlb]

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This post has been edited by mayahlb: 09/09/2012, 08:21 PM

[TheLittleRedHen]

Would it help if you took a video of him when he's in full meltdown mode?
I've just had my twins assessed and it was really helpful to illustrate some of their behaviours/ manners by showing a short clip. (just used an iPhone)

I hope you get some answers.

B.
DD 10
DS 8
DS 6
DS 5
DS 5
DD 2
DS 1

[Ianthe]

My children's behaviour all went downhill at 3 but that really sounds extreme to me and I would be seeking some outside help.