[Peysmum]

Hello - I have had two miscarriages. One at about 7 weeks and one at 9 weeks. I had D & C's with both and both were sent away for testing. Would they have been able to tell the sex when I was only just pregnant. I've gone on to have a healthy daughter but I think about the miscarriages constantly. It might help to be able to name them. Thanks for listening. Tracy

Me 32
DH 32
DD Almost 5
M/C May 2002
M/C Oct 2002
DD 18 months

[Freckles]

I'm sorry to hear about your m/c.

If they tested the tissue genetically then they should be able to tell you the sex of the baby. However, it is an extra test that is required, not just the standard testing. usually it is only done privately or if you sepcifically request it. You should be able to find ouy by accessing your records at the place where you had the D&C. It's best to ask first though, as it's probably not been done and you may be able to save yourself a lot of time and effort.



Emma
DH Andrew
DS Patrick Finn 19/6/02

[white2sugars]

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[white2sugars]

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[*~Kellie~*]

Did you have an inkling one way or the other if you were carrying a boy or a girl?

If you did you could maybe name them that way.

Good luck on your healing journey.

Cheers

Kell

Me - 30
Paul - 32
Grace - 1 year old
TTC #2

[Peysmum]

I guess I've always thought they were boys. And I know this sounds silly - but having 2 girls I wondered if me and boys don't mix. Sorry I just couldn't work out how to explain this. Just writing this makes me teary ! But at the end of the day my two girls are just beautiful so I guess I should just be happy.

[georgiagirl]

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I too have lost 3 babies, 2 due to m/c's and one to a ruptured ectopic. I have been wondering the same as you. My babies were sent for testing but never heard anything back. I have given birth to 3 beautiful boys and have wondered if the ones I lost were girls. I have lost every other one so I am wondering if girls and I don't mix as well. We are still trying for another one but if I do have another one and it's another boy, that's it for me... I am happy with the ones I have but it would be nice to have a little girl.

Good Luck to you!
Kim

Mama to:
Angela (sd) 22/06/91
Matthew 16/09/98
m/c 20/3/99
Alexander 24/01/00 - 26/10/01(our angel in heaven)
M/C 26/12/01
Zachariah 12/03/03
Ectopic Pregnancy 28/06/04 @ 9weeks
TTC

[gumby]

Hi Tracy

Your doctor should have received all of the information and results from the testing, so, it might be worth contacting him/her to see if they are able to tell you from the results that came back.

I had three m/c's between DS #1 & DS #2. The second m/c was also a partial molar so there was more testing (genetic) done after that one, and, I was able to find out that the baby we had lost was in fact a little girl. As freckles said, that is not the 'norm' though, and, I would advise approaching your doctor first to find out the best way to go about finding out

Good luck in your search and I hope it brings you some closure...

[Melissa4444]

Hi, I am so sorry that you lost your babies, it doesn't really seem to get any easier with time does it? Even when we go on to have another, we don't forget the ones that we have lost.

I can't really tell you what is possible, but all I can say, is ask. If there is any way to know, then you should.

My baby was taken away for testing also, but I was never told anything. My biggest regret in life is not knowing the sex of my baby. If I could change anything, I would change that. I wish so much that I could have given that baby a name, and more of an identity, and a sex does that.

If there is a way, take it. Good luck. Let us know.

((((hugs))))

Melissa:29 Joel:29
m/c29/01/98@12weeks.
Alexander Jordan is nearly 2!

www.babiesonline.com/babies/x/xanderjordan

[Guest_mums the word_*]

When I lost my baby boy he was clearly a boy though the doctors didnt like to say as once they have been wrong. I chose a name that would suit either before I was induced as his little heart had stopped beating around the 18 weeks mark. You could do that or maybe they keep some sample of tissue they could test for you as I found at one of my blood tests they keep that blood for 6 months in case you need it to test for something else which we did for slap cheek and so maybe you will find something like this is the case. I know how you mean about having to know, it drove me crazy until I knew for sure even though looking at him you could tell for sure but your not in the correct frame of mind. I hope you choose a name like ours which is unisex. Jamie Leigh. He could have been Jaime lee if a girl. I am so sorry for your loss of your little babies.