Hope you don't mind me joining this group, I was originally in the over 40's and trying to conceive naturally but I believe that group has closed.
Starpepper- Just like you I also have a very strong wanting for a second child.
I'm 43 and would like a second child but my DH doesn't feel the same way. We had our first attempt at IVF about 2 years ago and had a miscarriage at 12 weeks which was quite difficult to come to terms with. I believe my DH is worried about my age and risk's for the unborn child, but I'm thinking that I will have regrets when I'm fifty because we didn't try IVF again for the second time.
I've seen my Gynaecologists and I've done all the test and have now booked the FS which will be in another months time. I am getting quite depressed over it as I don't know what I'm going to do........? My DH doesn't want to go through IVF again as his quite content with only having the one child now. My DH is also worried that if we go through it again and it doesn't work how will I be too.
I already have a 10 year old DD who is my pride and joy but my DH is also worried about the age gap but that doesn't concern me. I still think it would be beautiful for my DD to have a little sister or brother.
We have tried naturally to conceive for the last 2 years but I'm thinking realistically it's not going to happen now. I've tried to stay positive but it's just getting harder and harder when you have the strong desire for a second child and you see all your friends and family having babies easily. I have a void in my life and I feel I need to complete it.
I know I should be very grateful that I have already a beautiful DD but it's just so difficult at times.
Good luck ladies and I hope your dreams are fulfilled.