QUOTE (Luxe @ 19/08/2012, 07:00 PM)
Not a mother but have done a Neurolinguistics Programming Course where they touched on discipline for children. They actually suggested to tell your child at the start of the week that their X amount of pocket money was on the fridge and if they didn't do chores through out the week you reduce it bit by bit as a loss is perceived greater than a gain.
Change your reward mechanism from you can have 'x' at the end of the week to you'll loose 'x' by the end of the week. Loss can be a great motivator.
It might be the "right" way to do it, but the idea sends shudders down my spine. My mother's one attempt at pocket money was to put 10 x 2c pieces in a pile (yes I am that old LOL) at the start of the week and remove one for bad behaviour. Her definition of bad behaviour was pretty broad so I never got a cent and I was SO gutted because I had never got pocket money before
QUOTE (TheClampetts @ 19/08/2012, 07:05 PM)
Our currency is Minecraft..LOL
He has the ipod version but wants the proper version for the laptop.
Oh that might work for mine, they love minecraft on their iPods...although then I am adding another distraction for them to get lost in LOL.
QUOTE (mumto3princesses @ 19/08/2012, 07:18 PM)
She came into the loungeroom naked and stood in front of the heater and it took quite a few tries to get her to finish getting dressed around the same time yours was lying in front of the heater LOL.
I offer money per job and give it when its done rather than pocket money at the end of the week. I might say for example offer $1 each to clean their rooms and they get a certain amount of time to do it. Then after that its free for all and anyone can do it for the money but again only for a certain amount of time.
I have also said if you all pitch in and do this then on the weekend we will have time to go to such and such otherwise we will have to stay home so I can do it instead. That usually works quite well actually if its something they all really want to do and there is a consequence for not doing it.
Oh I was a bit mean to DD posting about the heater. I only had to ask her to put PJs on once after I'd finished posting LOL.
We were all sick a couple of weeks ago, so I didn't make them stick to their usual number of stickers for jobs for the week and just paid them per job and there was much less nagging. Something to think about.
I think I could use the "all pitch in and then we can..." idea. DD asked today if we could have a picnic for lunch in the park and all I could think about was how much I had to do and instantly said no.
QUOTE (discomonkey @ 19/08/2012, 07:19 PM)
We have a chore chart on the fridge and DD (8) gets stamps for putting away dishes, folding washing, cleaning up play area (she has a messy younger brother who doesn't know how to tidy yet), etc. This is linked to rewards and punishments for the following week.
If she gets 20 stamps, she gets something she wants (e.g. this week she is working towards a book she wants). If she gets less than 15 there is no TV next week. Some weeks she loses motivation and doesn't get there but a week without TV always boosts her work ethic the following week.
She also gets $2 pocket money each week that is not linked to this in any way.
Yes, it would be nice if she did this stuff because she wanted to contribute and support the family but the reality is she's 8. I think that stuff will come later.
We have a similar system without the punishment bit. Not enough stickers = no money.
I think maybe we have been doing the same pocket money system for too long and need to change things up a bit.
Thanks for the ideas. I know a lot of this is just about being 9, but it's sooo frustrating at times.