[Kabu84]

I'm upset and angry with my Dad at the moment. I'm not sure if I'm just over-tired or if I legitimately have a reason to feel like this, so please let me know what you think.

Yesterday I finished my degree (yay!). My Dad hasn't called, e-mailed or anything to say congratulations. Nothing. He knows I've finished because I told him so many times when I was finishing, and I spoke to my sister yesterday who lives with him and she told me that he knows it's my last day. So why not freaking call??? I'm not asking for praise, just a simple call to say congratulations or something. Just some acknowledgement from my Dad that I've reached this milestone. I know at 28 I shouldn't need my parents approval, but FAR OUT I just finished a 4 year degree with honours, isn't that worthy of a phone call or something??

To be honest I'm sort of not surprised by this behaviour.

On the other hand I may be over-reacting because I am tired and have PMS. I don't know.

Do you think I'm justified in being cranky about this? I know he's had time to call, because my sister said he was watching TV last night.

[Escapin]

Fantastic that you've finished your degre! I thought graduation day was when the whole celebration thing happened?

[ubermum]

Congratulations op

[JoMarch]

I can understand your disappointment, but if your Dad is anything like mine, they just don't think like that. Mine wouldn't think to call & congratulate, but would probably say something the next time I saw him. Honestly, its not something that I would really get upset or angry about, but I can understand that you DO want your parents to feel proud of you, so maybe its a little bit disappointing that he hasn't acknowledged your achievement yet. Maybe give him a little bit more time...

Congratulations on finishing your degree, it is a huge achievement! Try not to let yourself get too upset by your Dad & enjoy this time.

[malibu71]

I always get myself in trouble with my expectations - so try to water them down considerably so then it is doubly appreciated when people do the simple things.

Hard to do and I work at it all the time...

Good luck!!
Xo

[niggles]

Perhaps you could organise a celebratory dinner/ get together and give him a chance to congratulate you properly. I'm fairly sure mine wouldn't have noticed anything like that either. I'm lucky if they remember a birthday and that's got a date on the calendar that doesn't change year to year. But if I said "I'm coming to yours on Tuesday, it's my birthday" then they would fuss over me very sufficiently and cook me dinner and bake a cake.

I'm sure he's proud of you. Good job, by the way. It's a great milestone.

[Swahili]

Congratulations!

Neither of my degrees received congratulations from my Mum or Dad. It's hurtful, but all I can do is vow not to do it to my kids in turn.

[casime]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

[LittleBeansMum]

Your Dad should not only congratulate you but be ridiculously proud of you right now. What you have done deserves congratulations. My DH's family was kind of like this when he finished his degree as a mature student. I think it still hurts because he worked so hard. Nothing you can do about it but like another PP said, you now know how to act when your own kids or someone close to you accomplishes such a milestone. By the way, big congratulations, a 4 year degree with honours awesome.

[laridae]

I don't think either of my parents congratulated me on completing my degree, and that was when I was 22 and still living with them!

So was it you last day of exams?, or do you have your results? Or have you graduated?

I'm sure he will congratulate you when you actually graduate, but just finishing the last day of exams (while probably a hugely important milestone for you), probably doesn't rate very high for anyone else.