I am writing this from a personal point of view and am feeling the pain of losing a friend, in a way.
I was friend's with this lady and her family for about12 years.
I thought she was blessed with a great DH and great kids...I believe she was but something went wrong in her life.
Long story short.
She woke up one day and started thinking about the past; when she met her DH and the events that followed. It wasn't the best of relationships. They broke up a few times and during that time he met someone else and so did she. But both relationships didn't last long and they were back together.
They were only young - about 19 years of age.
They eventually got married and I believe had a great marriage and three beautiful kids.
She even expressed to me how blessed she was!
20something years on and this thought started to really hurt her - the fact that both of them had left each other for someone else when they were young.
I had tried to reassure her(this was about 2 years ago) that these things happen but the main thing is they were together blessed with three beautiful children They got married after 7 years of knowing each other.
She ended up divorcing him and met someone on the internet from overseas.
She has left her family of three (grown) children and beautiful grandson; her ageing parents(her mum had a stroke a year ago), her siblings, friends and country.
While I am not friends with her on FB she is friends with someone I know and I saw her update today talking about how thankful she is to be in America and celebrating her first thanksgiving.
But I can't help think of her family back here and the pain that is left behind.
I am angry and sad. Angry that she left them, angry that she gave up on her marriage.
Now she has a new DH and three younger step-children
Her youngest daughter(in Australia) is neary 20 and she lives with her dad.
I know it must hurt her to NOT have her mum around.
What irks me is that her friends back here support her and encourage her. They think it's great(age 40plus) she has found a new love and a new life in a new country. As her friend, I can't be happy for her.
I feel sad for what she has done.
Could you leave everything behind to find new Love?
Something tells me this will all wear off and she will be looking for the next piece of excitement in her life.
I can't be happy for her because I feel she had everything and gave it all up.
Naturally, relationships change especially when children come. Romance can dwindle. I know this hurt her. She wanted to be "romanced" again and feel wanted.
But what she had was years of love and devotion....
Romance is fleeting. It doesn't make the marriage.
There is nothing I can do to change it for she has made her decision.
But I am angry that she has a hurting family here in Australia and a hurting friend.
We saw her DH coming out of a shop a few months ago. He looked pale and sad. He didn't want to talk about her.
This post has been edited by debspotatohead: 23/11/2012, 11:41 AM