[belinda1976]

My girls have been fighting like cats and dogs lately and my DD1 is giving me the biggest attitude of late too... and I'm over it.

In the lead up to Xmas I keep reminding them that "Santa is watching if you're good" etc etc so I thought I might also send them a naughty letter in the post from Santa (or something along those lines) just to remind them to behave themselves.

Has anyone done anything like this? I've had a quick search on the web and can't find much.

[Pooks*potters]

Run.

[howdo]

I don't think that will solve any of the problems.

[belinda1976]

PP that's fine you are entitled to your opinion.

I just wanted something to use as a gentle reminder that they still need to behave. Believe me they are punished whenever they are naughty.

[Radical Fembo Bu...]

Replied in your double thread to say:

My father used to pretend to be Father Christmas outside and be big and gruff. It's not a pleasant memory and still makes me shudder 45 odd years later.

I wouldn't do it personally, unless you want an early kickstart to their need for therapy as an adult. Christmas should be about joy, not fear.

[howdo]

You could try focusing on when they do the right thing and rewarding those moments.

[belinda1976]

You could try focusing on when they do the right thing and rewarding those moments

I do that too.

[JJ]

I don't see what it would achieve, unless you think it's desirable for them to follow unsolicited advice from some random dude in a red suit.

I don't think behaviour and Christmas (whether you "do" Santa or not) should be linked, although the carols tell us otherwise.

[Mariamsmum]

I've used the portable north pole which sends a video message from santa and can remind them to continue to build on specific skills.
It is completely customisable and very well done (I have only done the middle one, not the naughty child one though).

http://www.portablenorthpole.com/home

[kez71]

One of my friends just told me her work collegue did that for her 4 year old. It was worded something like "I was disapointed to see your name go from the good list to the naughty list, however I wanted to let you know there is still time to get back on the good list" LOL, I thought it was a clever idea, but really it depends on how young the kids are. Apparently he isn't fighting with his brother and is generally being good. So for her it worked. Id certainly give it a try