[foxy77]

A parent I've never spoken to at the kids' music class said (about DS) "he's a handful, isn't he?" It wasn't said in an,"wow, you're doing a great job with such an active child" way or even an "oh it must be challenging at times" way, her tone appeared to be critical of DS. But maybe I'm just being overly sensitive? What do you think? Would you be insulted?
I replied, "no, he's alright!" I was flabbergasted at her audacity and am plotting comeback lines for next week...

[Sif]

Out of curiosity, does she have a boy or boys? I tend to find mothers who seem disapproving of any of my mild mannered but energetic boys are usually mothers of girls, and then most young girls (preteen)...

[snortle]

No I wouldn't be offended. Maybe he looks like he'd be a handful. Maybe it was just an observation.
The fact that you are "flabbergasted" and planning "comeback lines" is a pretty good indicator that you are WAY over thinking this.

[BadCat]

I wouldn't think too much about it. She was probably just making conversation. She could probably have used a better opening line but some people are awkward. Give her the benefit of the doubt. If she turns out to actually be a judgemental cow then you can tell her off, but don't write her off on one offhand comment.

[bakesgirls]

No, I wouldn't be offended for someone saying my child was a handful. Chances are that they are a handful or were appearing like they are at that point in time. Or the parent was pointing out that they would find it hard to cope, so well done to you.

Sure, they could have just kept their mouth shut and said nothing, but not every comment parents recieve is going to be a 'wow, great job', or 'what a great child'.

Does it really matter what some random said? You know your DS, and you know all the wonderful things about him that randoms don't.



This post has been edited by bakesgirls: 29/11/2012, 11:39 AM

[Rosie R]

Possibly a little oversensitive but I think I would be offended too. I don't think I'd bother with the comeback lines although I'd probably stew on it for a couple of days

I tend to think your reaction is fairly natural coming from someone you don't know.

[amabanana]

If someone said that to me I'd probably say, 'Yes, she is. Isn't it brilliant.' DD is full on but she's also witty, intelligent and loads of fun. Who cares what some stranger thinks? Don't let it bother you.

[tres-chic]

I too think it's a 'could have kept your trap shut' situation. But then, I've heard that a fair bit with DS1 so I'm not objective.

[Kay1]

Very rude IMO. I'd also give her another chance but another comment like that and I'd write her off.

[Oriental lily]

Not at all.

I would heartily agree with her!