QUOTE (imamumto3 @ 02/12/2012, 07:03 PM)
we are having the family Christmas lunch at our house this year.
so far, mil has told me
- I have paid too much for the ham
- I should have bought a pre cooked turkey
- I am doing too much
she has also bought the pudding, is making the fruit cake and wants to make the trifle, even though I have every thing organised.
how can I gently get her to butt out?
Are you asking everyone to help contribute to the cost? If so, then I could understand her comment about the cost of ham. If you're paying for it all, then just ignore her.
Although you are hosting it, you have to remember that some people do like to continue some of their Christmas food traditions, otherwise it might not feel the same, IYKWIM.
For example, it might not feel like Christmas for her without the regular pudding, and the usual trifle, so I wouldn't get too upset over that.