[citylife]

BIL,SIL and 2 kids coming from Interstate (Tassie) for Family Christmas.

Family lunch at my parents so to BIL it is SIL parents

BIL asks his brother (my DH) if two friends of his can drop in to my parents Christmas Day

BIL arrives here 16th December and leaves 3rd January

Do you find this weird? Rude?

BIL staying with his parents and sister who obviously know these friends where as no one else on the day will. Surely he can organise for friends to go visit at his parents house before lunch or in the evening or Christmas Eve. BIL parents live 15 mins from this couple

I personally was dumb founded as to why you would ask that a couple my family doesn't know can drop in to their house. It is not like this couple are going away or anything and BIL has already organised 3 specific outings with them whilst here.

Thoughts????

How/what would you say to say No????

[meggs1]

Are they Christmas "orphans" in that they have no family where you are? Or have their kids at the ex's or recently bereaved or something and will be upset/lonely. In those situations it would be nice to include them in a family Christmas.

Otherwise yes a bit odd.

[familyequalslove]

Maybe a tad weird but I think it would be ruder to say no, they can't come. We've often had random people at Christmas lunch, friends of family members who didn't have their family close by.

[MrsLexiK]

I wouldn't find it odd my grandpa will invite his neighbour to my aunts for Christmas. I think the fact you are asking BIL may feel a bit odd at your place so is asking a friend to come around. Either way it wouldn't bother me - the more the merrier an all that jazz

[cinnabubble]

It would p*ss me off, but I'm a huge grinch.

[futureself]

I agree that it is odd. All I can think is this couple, the friends, don't have family or Christmas day plans themselves so your BIL wants to bring them into your family celebrations to make their day happier?

[ajo]

It's Christmas, as long as they have somewhere nice to go that's all that matters, as we live rural and many ppl don't have family here it's not unusual for us to have extras, even ppl I didn't know have come to my place for Xmas in the past.

[Shanski]

I don't think it is odd at all. You did say he asked if they could "drop in" so to me it doesn't sound like he has invited them for the full sit down family dinner.

In our family christmas day is a celebration with friends and family and our house is always open to people "dropping in" at any time of the day.

Embrace the new couple and who knows you might even like them more than your family. Unless you are worried about how the famliy will behave?

[amabanana]

Maybe you might make some new friends? I'm in the more the merrier camp but I don't expect everyone would feel that way.
Although, on reflection the celebration is being held at your parent's home and not yours. I probably would feel a bit weird sayng to my parents that my BIL's friends were coming over, especially if they were going to be eating and drinking. I don't think they would mind but yes, a llittle odd unless as PPs say they are Christmas 'orphans.' We always have a few randoms every Christmas because that's just how we roll.

[Eirinn]

It wouldn't bother me, but then I've been in the position of the friends. A couple of years ago, DD2 was due on Christmas Day, so we couldn't travel interstate for our usual family Christmas. My lovely friend invited us to her family Christmas. We went from feeling lonely and sorry for ourselves to having a great Christmas, which we will always remember.