My DP is a bit grouchy about this and he's not sure if he's being petty or not. I'm inclined to think not, but... what do you think?
At his work there are two women about to leave on maternity leave (I'll call them A and B). As always, his work did a collection for the girls to buy them something. The woman who did the collection © is friendly with both A and B, though closer to B. Anyway, C collected for both women together (ie combined one collection pool for both) and then went and bought the presents.
DP wasn't super thrilled about the joint collection because he would have ordinarily contributed more for A than B, because he's friendly with her - more than that, she's a very popular person in the office, very warm and generous, always the first person to bake a cake for someone's birthday or bring flowers or whatever. Whereas B has a couple of friends in the office but is otherwise unfriendly to the point of rudeness. Anyway, it wasn't his ideal situation but he thought, whatever, it's fine.
But then my DP found out that C used the joint money to purchase both gifts, and rather than splitting the money in half and buying something for each with half, she bought unequal presents - the one for B substantially more expensive than the one for A. Now he knows there's nothing malicious about it on C's part - she likes both women and she just chose a present she thought would be useful to both. And he reckons A wouldn't care in the slightest about the disparity. But he's still stewing about it because he feels like the office has ended up subsidising a present at a level above what they would have voluntarily done for one person, and given less to a person he thinks 90% of the office would really go out of their way to be generous for.
Anyway, what do you reckon? Is he being petty being annoyed about this? He keeps saying he knows he's unreasonable, spiteful, etc... but I don't know. I think I might have been annoyed in the same circumstances. If I gave money to 2 people I'd expect that money to be split equally. Then again, if the recipient doesn't at all mind, and there's nothing malicious about it, what does it matter?