Ever since brother got married to his wife(2009) we rarely hear from him.
He mentioned a few years ago that she doesn't like him contacting mum or visiting. They live in another state and she is happy for her children(my nephews) to have just one grandmother and one grandfather and his two aunts. (her two sisters) and their DHs/kids.
I have several brothers and a sister and lots of nieces and nephews but she feels as though her family is all that is needed.
Naturally, this has broken my mum's heart. She is not well and I have tried through emails to let my brother know.
I recently found out that he is overseas(visiting some of HER family).
Does this happen in families a lot, and, if so, what can be done?
I've tried to break the ice and get nearer to her by sending gifts/cards, remembering her birthday, their wedding anniversary and the kids birthdays, christmas, etc.
It doesn't work unfortunately.
I managed to skype my brother the other month which was awesome and say 'Hi'" to the kids who didnt know us(they thought we were HER family at first).
She briefly appeared, said, 'Hi'" and then left. My brother felt awkward and strained.
She has no reason to hate us or dislike us as she hasn't given us a chance to get to know her that well. And I don't hate her or dislike her..I guess I don't like what she is doing. We are really a nice bunch of family when you get to know us!
I only know, from a few years ago, (when my brother was having a conversation on the phone to mum) she got very irrate and this caused a massive argument.
So brother now wants to keep the peace.
I am sad for my mum who is elderly(and not well) and hasn't met his baby yet.
What can we do to turn the situation around?
Or is it a helpless case?
I don't doubt for a moment that her family are lovely but so are we!
This post has been edited by lindenen: 10/12/2012, 03:14 PM