[Solitude]

Hi everyone

I am finding the end of year really stressful emotionally and financially. I have barely been getting any sleep and am feeling on edge. This morning my child broke something very important and I lost the plot. I screamed so loudly and said some very horrible things. I feel so terrible. Once I calmed down I apologised and gave my LO a big hug and cuddle. I still feel so bad that I did that and I want to know how I can put things right

TIA

[Libster]

I think the fact that you apologised and gave her a hug would be enough, we all lose our cool sometimes.

[Therese]

I think that acknowledging that you were wrong to yell like that and that you are sorry is the most important way of making it right.

Be gentle to yourself too, this time of year is really tough on lots of people.

[rainycat]

Don't hang it on yourself.
You are human, i think many of us have cracked and had a yell at least once.
You apologised so move forward and try not to let the guilt take over.

[babatjie]

I would just say sorry, explain sometimes adults are really worried about other things and then they get upset easily. Say sorry and that you love them. Just let them be until they feel happy to come back to you. Don't force your affection on them. Kids forgive and forget.

[boopyscreet]

I saw a counsellor earlier in the year (diagnosed with PND) after yelling at DD1 a lot. The counsellor told me that the important thing when you lose the plot with kids is the repair. So as long as you spend more time on the kisses and cuddles and tell them you are sorry then the yelling is not the thing that they will remember.

Hope that helps. xx

[premmie_29weeks]

I could have written your post today. Ds ripped up my 30th birthday card from Dh, hand made with photos of the family inside. I told him three times to be gentle....and then totally lost the plot. We have apologies and big kisses and cuddles. Not much more we cand o really, still I feel terrible because heis in daycare today and really it should have been put in a place he could reach...

[tle]

I agree with others. It's important for kids to see adults make mistakes too so that they can learn how to react themselves when they do the same thing. They need to know it's OK not to be perfect and you'll love them anyway - just like they will still love you even though you made a mistake.

[crankybee]

I always say sorry when it's my fault. And I acknowledge what I'm sorry for - I'm sorry I yelled at you, I'm sorry I was so angry. I really think it is so important and that's all they want, a cuddle and an apology.

[JJ]

I saw a counsellor earlier in the year (diagnosed with PND) after yelling at DD1 a lot. The counsellor told me that the important thing when you lose the plot with kids is the repair. So as long as you spend more time on the kisses and cuddles and tell them you are sorry then the yelling is not the thing that they will remember.

This - and also, once apologies have been made, move on. Tomorrow is a new day - don't keep talking about it. I'm not suggesting that you would, but I've found with my kids that it's important not to keep reminding them of the incident, even though you may still feel guilty for a while.