[imamumto3]

ds has been invited to a birthday party which is being held at a fun park about 3 hours drive away.

i know the mother well but have never met the father. the mother had said that they will drive ds to the party. the problem is the father will be driving. I know he has been caught for speeding several times and now drives a sports car.

I told dh that I don't feel comfortable with ds driving with the father and would rather drive him ourselves, especially because it is such a long way. dh thinks I'm crazy and should just let them drive him. WDYT, I'm I being over protective?

[R2B2]

If you don't feel comfortable with the situation, don't send your DS.
if I felt unsure, i'd politely decline and take him myself, or offer to take their child along instead

This post has been edited by R2B2: 12/12/2012, 01:13 PM

[ThatsNotMyName]

I would be very uneasy about that. It may be perfectly fine but without knowing the individual I wouldn't be able to be comfortable about it & would find a way to take him myself.

[seayork2002]

Whats is the difference between a long and short drive? the child is still in a car in a car seat

[Bel Rowley]

I can think of all sorts of people I would trust to drive my kids, but if you don't trust this guy, that's enough reason to say no.

[bearmum]

I have a very VERY limited group of people I would allow to drive my children. It is nice of that family to offer your child a lift but I would politely decline somehow and drive him myself. There is zero chance I would let my son go in someone else's car in that circumstance.

But my DH and his family think me and my family are uptight

[Sassy Girl]

The only person I will allow to take my children anything further than a short distance is my sister.

If you don't feel comfortable or trust the other father's driving ability don't send your child with him.

[zingy]

I wouldn't be OK with this.

Always listen to your gut.

[Old Grey Mare]

The deciding factor for me would be to trust your instincts. If you do not feel comfortable then, as others have said,politely decline and drive him yourself.

[jill1972]

No I'd be freaking out all day till he got safely home. Some people are quite ok about this sort of stuff, but I'm not one of them.


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