[TopsyTurvy]

My SIL has gone and bought DH (her brother) a book for Christmas that I know he will never read.

To be honest she always gets his gifts way off mark. He had very little time for reading and hobbies and his main passion is music. He has repeatedly stated himself to her just to buy him a JB or sanity voucher as he loves to go hunting for music to add to his collection. It's time out for him and he gets a massive kick out of finding bargains and music that fills gaps in his collection.

Her reason for not giving him a voucher is "she hates giving vouchers" so instead of giving him a gift that will give immense enjoyment she gets him something that to him makes him feel that she doesn't care about him.

Stupidly she will give vouchers for services ie; I am getting a pedicure voucher.

So would you say anything?
Gift limit is $30 and I am happy to buy DH a gift voucher myself to give to her to give to him so it doesn't cost her any more.

WDYT?

[titch482]

i would leave it be, her choice what gifts she chooses to buy people, and i think ti will cause more stress than its worth by giving her a voicher to give to him.

if he is going to get a voucher from you or other family members anyway then does it realy matter?

[jmaz86]

Personally, I would not say anything...a gift is a gift, receive it with good thanks. I also hate giving gift vouchers for christmas...unless there is really no other option. I dont really care what people do with the gifts I buy after they take them home (its the thought that counts)...just dont give it back to me on another occasion.

[lilybet]

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This post has been edited by EHB: 18/01/2013, 06:21 AM

[Allie_D]

I'd leave it. It's not a majorly expensive gift anyway. If she was about to waste hundreds of dollars on a gift he didn't like/want then I'd say something.

DH's family are shocking gift givers. DH gets sunscreen, jocks and woolworths 4c fuel vouchers from his family. He doesn't really want any of it but just smiles and says thanks. He knows they don't really 'get' him but it doesn't bother him that much

This post has been edited by Allie_D: 13/12/2012, 08:26 AM

[JustBeige]

I think you need to stay out of it.

Its stupid crap between a brother and sister and if you say something you will be seen as the interferring inlaw.

The only other avenue I would consider is their mum. I have had to do this to my SIL once when she just would not listen to me about a gift for the kids (she was doubling up on something we had already gotten and expected us to take ours back)

If their mum isnt the type of person to have influence or get involved then I would just leave it.

I would probably get him an extra JB voucher so he can go spoil himself though. If the book is completely unsuitable and only a dust collector, I would sell the book on ebay or FB and he can use that money too.

[TopsyTurvy]

Would it be rude to ask for the receipt?

[Oriental lily]

No I would not.
Thoughtful or thoughtless ultimately Christmas tradition of gift giving should not be an 'order'.

What's the point of the whole exercise if people get to choose what they receive.? Op your sil would have asked if she wanted guidance.

For whatever reason your sil thinks your DH will enjoy this book. Maybe he will?

This post has been edited by Oriental lily: 13/12/2012, 08:33 AM

[monkeys mum]

If you know where she got it from just return it after Christmas.

I hate giving vouchers too, but know dps brothers are hard to buy for so they get vouchers.

[rabbit hyde]

It's a gift, you accept them graciously and go on with your day.

If she'd asked for your input previously then sure - suggest away. But at the end of the day if your DH wants albums from JB HIFI then you or him can go buy them yourselves.

Maybe focus less on what you will be receiving, and concentrate more on what you will be giving.