[kristylee21]

So last year i feel like i missed out on ALOT. Due to finacial circimstances i took on a job working nights at a service station. I was unlucky enough to be rostered on Christmas eve, christmas day, boxing day, NYE and New years day ( jackpot i know!). We had an engagement party to attend during the day on NYE which i was lucky to be able to go to but then had to go to work at 6pm while the rest of the party continued on into a NYE party. My DP put DD to bed in the house where the party was with a few other kids then got to drink and party the night away while i was stuck at work feeling rather lonley and upset.
Now this year i get 3 weeks off work. YAY! and i want to make the most of NYE this year. I love this time of year and all the celebrations, being with friends and family and having a great time. At the moment i have three options on what to do on NYE but none of them sound any good right now so i need some help on what i should choose to do.
1) DP wants to have a quite night with a couple were friends with at their place. Will just be the 5 of us and a few drinks sitting around chatting. But i dont feel this is making the most of the night and sounds rather boring
2) We've been intived to a rooftop party near the city at my friends apartment (sounds awesome to me) But DP refuses to go anywhere near the city on NYE and wont come with me
3) One of my gf's is planning on going to the waterfront near us to watch the fireworks then continue on having a party at her house with about 15-20 ppl. Dp however doesnt get along with my friends DH so he wont want to go here either.
DP has said he doesn't mind if i go to either option 2 or 3 but he wont come with me and i dont really want to do seperate things on NYE so what do i do? What would you do given these options?

[casime]

Why not find something you can both do together? NYE doesn't mean you have to spend it getting sloshed. If you have a babysitter for the night, you could book a B&B somewhere, or go camping if you enjoy that (I'm a 5* girl personally!).

[AprilEthereal]

All things considered, I would do what I wanted to do, even if that meant not spending the evening with my partner. So, it would be a decision out of 2 & 3. Hope you have a great night, what ever you decide.

[kristylee21]

were going camping together a week after new years when DP has time off work. A nice lil family get away with just the three of us. No babysitter on the night so we will take DD wherever we end up going. And its not about getting sloshed (i will have dd so unlikely to even drink) its more about having a great night with friends

[mumofsky]

id totally smash the rooftop party. get loose.

[Holidayromp]

Bugger your DH. He had his great time last year. Cut loose and go to the rooftop party. He can stay at home with DD.

[Old Grey Mare]

Quietly remind him of last year's work hours, tell him that you would reeeeeeeeeeeally like to go to the rooftop party or friend's house and try to squeeze out a few tears as you say this.

[GreenEggJimmyJam...]

NYE such build up and generally such a let down

Work out who will be most fun to spend time with and least stressful, with or without your partner and do that.

[ekbaby]

Given the info in your OP, I'd go to the rooftop party, whilst your DP looks after DD at his mates place (sounds like it would be possible for him to take her along and put her to sleep there, and your DP still gets to hang out with friends). Sounds like your DP would be happy with this arrangement too. You don't have to do everything together, and if you both have to compromise to do something neither of you really enjoys, you wont have as good a time. Sounds like you have plenty of together time booked up for later in the month, I say enjoy yourself as a free agent that night. You could always plan a NYDay family beach trip or brunch or something if you want to do something together as well (as it sounds like you don't plan on getting that drunk that the next day is a write-off)

[AprilEthereal]

Quietly remind him of last year's work hours, tell him that you would reeeeeeeeeeeally like to go to the rooftop party or friend's house and try to squeeze out a few tears as you say this.

She doesn't need to remind him, he is not objecting and even if he were, still not necessary. Why the need for tears?