QUOTE (lorywhol @ 20/12/2012, 12:29 PM)
Not sure if this would have worked but I saw it on a UK tv series.
She said sit on the floor with your child facing outwards (so not looking at you but looking forward)- you hold them firmly in your lap and just comfort - not too much chatting.
I think the theory is that the child is emotional they are actually beyond the point of being able to express emotion. So all you are doing as a parent is coming straight down to their level and assuring them you are there until they calm down.
The first few minutes are the hardest because that may be when they want to fight/flight. But she said persevere during that time. But don't make eye contact, as that may be seen as confrontational.
My Dd is only 21 months so it's early days but I currently do a version of this where I will lie on the couch and say "Mummy is lying down, when you are finished and ready for a hug come over". kind of like time out but not putting her anywhere or leaving her - i see it as me not engaging in the theatrics. mine had a similar one in the car yesterday. she was holding one of those bubble blowers and was out of the mixture - she wanted me to produce more mixture while driving the car! I listened to about 30 minutes of hysterical "more bubbles!" screams.