[epl0822]

Kind of self explanatory....what do you wish somebody had told you before you had your second child?

Is it much different having two kids as opposed to one? Having one kid was enough of a shock to my system....I want to have fair warning before embarking on #2.

[sarkazm76]

My therapist told me it's like going from 1 to 3, lol. You have your relationship with child 1 to maintain, relationship to build with child 2 and then you have to guide their relationships with each other as well (avoiding jealousy etc etc). Sigh.
I'll be lurking for others feedback

[Natttmumm]

Despite what others say for me one was the hardest. Having number 2 didn't make much difference to us. I wish someone told me that as I stressed out beforehand.
Dont stress and keep a positive mind, oh and get a capsule so you can move bub from car asleep

[epl0822]

Despite what others say for me one was the hardest. Having number 2 didn't make much difference to us. I wish someone told me that as I stressed out beforehand.
Dont stress and keep a positive mind, oh and get a capsule so you can move bub from car asleep

I had a capsule with #1 and found it totally useless...(DS would wake up anyway, he was a fatty and nearly broke my wrist every time I moved him, etc....) would you say it's more useful for a second bub?

[*mylittleprince*]

I've just gone from one to three (twins) and it's been great! I found my first the hardest whereas I feel like I know so much more this time round, especially with regards to sleep and settling.

[CherryAmes]

I've just had no. 2 and -

a) You don't get nearly as many visitors, cards or presents. People in general aren't as excited about it.

b) Equally, you won't get as much help, even from your partner, as 'you've done it all before'.

[CupOfCoffee]

That you might not be a perfect parent after all

Turns out I just had an easy first child... my second child has shown me flaws in myself that I didn't know existed.

[I*Love*Christmas]

Going from 1 child to 2 children was way easier for me then going from no children to 1. But also my eldest, DS, was a nightmare baby who wouldn't sleep or settle.

The things that are noticeably different:

1) This may sound horrible but I found the milestones and firsts of everything weren't so dramatic and surprisng. Baby 1 got first tooth and it was incredible and then when baby 2 got a first tooth it was more 'meh'. Don't get me wrong it is still special but doesn't come with the fireworks too

2) You definitely don't get as many gifts or fuss which I preferred actually. I was more or less left alone to get use to my new baby. I have bags full of cards and stuff from when DS was born but only a little envelope of cards from DD.

3) Each baby is likely to be different. Swing was a lifesaver with DS but DD screamed the whole time in it. Capsule was a lifesaver with DS as well but DD never went to sleep in the car.

[with the goo goo...]

I found 1 to 2 a lot easier. Someone could have told me that I will not have anywhere near as much time or mental capacity to fret over the little things like sleep times etc that I did with the first.

[belindarama]

That it would not be anywhere near as bad as I feared! I struggled a bit with the transition to motherhood. Going from one to two was easy in comparison.

I was terrified!

Also, that your standards slip a bit, you just don't have the ability to give number one the same attention you used to. Number 2 doesn't get the same attention number 1 did. The only place this has really mattered for me is discipline. It is just not as easy once you have two. For a start they have the ability to drive each other crazy so that causes more issues than when you just had one playing nicely alone.

Mine do entertain each other but they also argue about what to play, who had a toy first, whose turn it is to do x, y or z and so on.

Also, it is a heck of lot noisier but more fun.

I promise it won't be as bad as you think!