QUOTE (Tesseract @ 04/01/2013, 02:25 PM)
Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.
Definitely worth a read.
You probably aren't going to find many paeds or developmental paeds who will want to investigate something like potential ADHD in a 3-year- old -- because it's so hard to tell how much of that is "boyish exuberance" and how much might be something else. But there's rarely any harm in getting professional advice from someone good if you have concerns.
Likewise, although it's not unheard of for a 3-year-old to have their IQ tested for giftedness, it is typically done a little further down the line (or in instances when the three year old is clearly "off the charts" in what they can do). Still, you can check out some popular gifted child resources & see if any of this stuff resonates with you:http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/
My non-expert advice (as a fellow mother of a spirited child who also has a lot of "stuff" -- giftedness, ASD, ADHD -- going on) is this:
* Read well regarded resources like the book above & see if any of the insights and strategies work for you. Network with other parents of high octane/spirited kids to trade stories and sympathy! See if there are positive changes when he is really intellectually challenged with things that interest him. Keep an eye on his diet and his sleep levels.
Keep your antenna up! Over time, if your son's behavior gets to the point where it is really impacting his ability to function (that is, ability to cope in a school setting and/or at home) or is impacting YOUR ability to parent him well, don't hesitate to seek some professional and tailored guidance.
He might just be a spirited kid -- or you might have a gifted kid on your hands, a kid with ADHD, a kid with ADHD *and* giftedness, or something else all together.
FWIW, he sounds exhausting but very interesting!
This post has been edited by baddmammajamma: 04/01/2013, 02:53 PM