Ok hadn't intended to start a thread on it but I was writing this long reply to the rape case one, and it was a bit of a tangent anyway, and then it was removed when I pressed post, so I thought I'd post it as it's own thread. Mainly because I really want someone to convince me not to feel this way anymore!
Re the case - that's sick. And tbh I'm hearing so much these days about the way women are treated, sexually, worldwide, that it's starting to really affect me.
For ages I've wondered wtf is it about women that makes us, in every culture where there is a gender divide, the downtrodden gender. Surely if we were really 'equal' it would be 50/50? Yes we have less physical strength - but the dominant people in most countries aren't always the physically strongest. And in most physical and mental areas we outshine males - but it's not worth a thing. Sometimes I think it's something to do with reproduction - that we become emotionally and physically vulnerable once we are pregnant and even after we have children, due to our attachment to them (although I can't quite figure out why our attachment to them should be greater than a males). Sometimes I think it's just because we have a hole, that men seem to be absolutely desperate to put their bits in.
But really, I don't know. I just hate it though. I hate that I don't know why, and that I don't understand, and most of all that I can't change it. When I read about the Congo, saw the Sri Lanka killing fields video, and now the case in India, and now this... I'm just so full of disgust for these men. And then it starts to spread to men in general. And it's gotten so bad since the India thing that I'm starting to look at all the men around me suspiciously. Despite all the ones I've heard saying exactly the things I'd hope a man should say... a part of me thinks... ah, but if you'd grown up that way, you'd be one of them. You've been taught better... but for this to be in every society... it must be innate. You've glossed over it - but it's in there. When DH complains about our sex life, a side of me knows it's a legitimate problem, a side of me goes "ah see - you're just like them - it's all about the hole"
I never used to feel this way. I used to feel like I was in a world where yes, there was sexism, just as there is racism and fatism, but nobody is inferior and it's just a matter of combating it where we see it. I always felt equal - even more than equal tbh, I know there are a lot of areas where, on unbiased measurement, women outstrip males... even though it doesn't translate into an equal level of 'real world' success.
But I honestly truly wish I had some explanation for why women are treated this way, to varying extents, worldwide. Yes, crime happens everywhere, yes there are bad people, yes, bad things happen to males too. But this sexualisation - this treatment of a person as if they are just a thing for someone to masturbate into - it's so foul. And, overwhelmingly, it happens much more to women. So much so that in a lot of places in a lot of countries and a lot of male minds, sex is one of the most common first thoughts when looking at a woman. And where an attack on a man might still happen, it doesn't seem to be the case that the logical inclusion is rape - yet it seems to be so with a female.
Probably not expressing myself clearly. But I'd like to find a way to rewrite the way I'm feeling now. It even crossed my mind the other day - and I don't think it has ever crossed my mind before in my life - "what if we really are the inferior sex". And then I realised how easy it is to believe. I had the opposite drummed into me since birth... but lots of people didn't. Many - especially in those cultures - probably feel that they ARE unlucky to be female. And I'm starting to feel that way too.
Because if we aren't an inferior sex - how come there is not some massive uprising and vigilante protest or SOMETHING... that would have put a stop to this behaviour, whenever it happens, wherever it happens, so that men, all over the world, would not think that it was acceptable or that they could get away with it. WHY, if we are at all powerful, hasn't this MASSIVE problem been fixed. Maybe this first world philosophy that we are equal and the politically correct way of thinking, is just play acting at equality. If something went wrong and our country descended into anarchy and chaos... how much of our equality would we keep... how long before we started getting treated like women have been treated in every war ever. Not long - I'd put money on it.
QUOTE (BetteBoop @ 06/01/2013, 11:42 PM)
In absolute sincerity, I sometimes wish my child wasn't a girl. This world loathes females and treats them consistently as things for the amusement of men. Even so called privileged women are not worth the spit on a man's boot, when all is said and done.
Yep. I hate thinking like this, but I'm starting to.
ETA. Mods, this should probably be in WDYT but I don't know how to move it...
This post has been edited by CallMeAliG: 06/01/2013, 11:36 PM