[Rachaelxxx]

I'm turning 40 early next month and I just don't know what's wrong with me, if I was being totally honest I just wish the date would come and go, I just don't feel like celebrating my birthday this year - 40 or not

I have no problems turning 40 (not overly excited about it either mind you ) and normally I'm the first person up for a big party. I love hosting parties, especially when they are just because parties .

We've been to a few 40th in the last couple of years that are "big" events and I don't know if it's because I have a case of the can't be bothered's or if it's because money is a bit tight at the moment and I couldn't compete, but I really feel like I'm throwing this party for the sake of everyone else .

I'm turning 40, life is great for us right now, why am I feeling like this ??????

[HeartMyBoys]

My good friend who turned 40 recently went away, just her and her hubby, to celebrate it. You could do the same if you dont feel like a party.

[Rachaelxxx]

The problem is I feel like I was pushed into having a party and I know I'm a big person, but it just felt like the easiest way to keep everyone happy and not upset or exclude everyone. Yes it's my birthday, but trust me, it just feels easier this way. I just wish I could get excited about it.

[Swahili]

I'm turning 40 this year and I have no intention of having a party, big or otherwise. Dinner somewhere special with immediate family and then a week away, somewhere tropical, is what I'm hoping to do.

Maybe deep down, you're not as cool about turning 40 as you think? Or maybe the money thing is getting to you?

[noi'mnot]

Maybe because 40 is just another year. Just like 30 or 50, or 34 or 52 or 67. Maybe arbitrary numbers just don't have that much meaning to you.

It's not a big deal if you don't have a big birthday bash, if people ask just say you don't care enough to bother.

This post has been edited by noi'mnot: 07/01/2013, 12:01 PM

[Swahili]

Your birthday should be about YOU, not pleasing everyone else. Especially a 'big' one like your 40th. If you don't want a party, don't do it.

[BadCat]

Don't have a party if you don't want to. To hell with what everyone else wants.

It's YOUR birthday, do what YOU want to do. I largely ignore my birthdays.

This post has been edited by BadCat: 07/01/2013, 12:10 PM

[wildboys]

I understand what you are feeling. I'm with Swahili, I too am turning 40 this year and have decided to go on a family holiday.

My present will be a girls surf trip to Bali. So I get to celebrate twice lol!!! And the best part is no party to worry about as from previous experience it all ends up about everyone else, I am soo over drama

You should do what makes YOU happy!

[~~HappyMummy~~]

I turned 40 last year. Hubby and I had a sw**ky weekend away (kids at grandparents). Loved it.

[Old Grey Mare]

Afraid I just don't get the need to make a fuss of adult's birthdays.