[beck22]

I am so torn between having a third baby or not. I am 29 this year and my partner is 31 and we have a daughter who is turning 6 and a two and a half year old son. Up until a fewmonths ago I was totally against even the thought of a third child but for some reason my body is yearning for another baby but my head is still in the undecided camp. My partner is ok either way. So I guess I am after some advice from those who have had the same feelings and either went for the third or decided against it and what helped you make that decision. If I have another baby I really don't want to wait to long as I always wanted to be done having children by the time I was thirty. Any help would be appreciated.

I know it is ultimately our decision in the end and only we can decide what is best for our situation just wanted to hear others stories and experiences.

Thanks

Beck

[bubzillaiscoming]

I have a nearly 2 yo and an 8 mo. At the moment having #3 is completely off my radar!! But I don't feel "finished" even though DD has been pure hell with the sleeping.

You certainly aren't 'old' and your current bubs have years between them ... do you need to make a decision now?

I think if your partner is ok with it and you can't stop thinking about it, maybe it is inevitable ....!!!!!

Good luck and enjoy

[SCARFACE CLAW]

I have a 4yo DD and a 2yo DS, and am pregnant with number 3. We had the same issue deciding whether to have another or not; at one point we were completely against it, next minute we decided to go for it. I think for us it came down to "can we afford it?" and "Which would we regret more". Do some soul searching, you have plenty of time

[Dragonfly2]

Ive always wanted 3, but my DH was not keen on the idea (mainly because he was not a fan of the newborn/baby stage), it took some convincing but he was finally on board. DD2 arrived last july and is almost 6months old, she is a joy, she was a dream newborn and is a dream baby. She has just slotted in and totally completed our family, her big brother & sister are besotted with her. My DH lights up when he is with her.

No.3....I can say we have no regrets and I'm a big believer that in life we are only delt what we can handle, when we make sensible life choices.

I am trully blessed. Good luck with what your heart decides.

[Alina0210]

I have 3 and couldn't imagine it any other way, yes it's a bit more chaotic but it's so worth it...

[Carmen02]

i have 3, we where unsure on a 3rd or not hence the age gap between 2nd and 3rd lol DD was 8 and DS was 6 when DS2 was born. Now our family feels complete

[livvie7586]

we're still a few months off having number 3, but we had the same problem deciding whether we really wanted a third or not. in the end we just let nature take its course (gave it a year, if #3 hadn't been conceived by then we were giving up), and DS2 is due at the end of march.

You have time to make a decision, though. don't rush in to it just to regret it (it took us over a year to come to the above decision)

[Natttmumm]

I am expecting number 3 in 5 weeks. We also have a 5 and 3 year old. We did um and ahh about a third for about a yr. In fact we had a miscarriage and decided not to try again. By accident number 3 came about 3 months later. We would have tried again eventually anyway. It was a hard decision to go from 2 to 3 we thought about finances, working, juggling, tiredness, coping ability etc.
For us I think a lot of it came down to what was in our hearts. All the practical things probably pointed towards not having a third. If we only had two I was due for a promotion with a great pay rise, the kids were booked into private school (can't afford for 3), our car was good for 2 etc. for some reason we still wanted another.....
The pregnancy has been tough on me due to lots of morning sickness and juggling two young kids. I found it much tougher that I thought and it wasn't even something I took into account. It's been a really long 8 months so far. I have felt exhausted the entire time.
All I know is I had a feeling that I wasn't finished having babies before this one and I probably would have felt down about it still if we hadn't gone ahead. Now that I'm almost here I feel I am done and I couldn't do it again. That's how I know this ones the last and I'm really happy with that and happy not to be pregnant again.
It's a hard decision but one you will work out when the time is right!!!!

[sophiasmum]

I think if you take away the pressure of "I want to be done with babies by the time I am 30" rule, then you will feel a lot more relaxed about making a decision without that extra pressure. You may decide #3 is good for you, but if you give yourself the time to come to that decision, you'll feel a lot more relaxed about it.

FWIW #3 is my favourite

[Spotted Giraffe]

I have 3. I love children and always wonder if I would eVer feel done having children. Bot my surprise, I do feel done now. For the first few months after the birth we both were thinking about another, as our daughter was just so lovely. And she was probably the child I could actually enjoy, rather than constant worrying and not knowing what I was doing.

However, now it gets pretty busy and it can be harder to be involved with the older kids activities and the like because of te baby. I really want to be an involved parent, and feel like 3 is my limit to be able to do so. It feels good to feel done! And our daughter has been so enjoyable to us.