[BeccaBoo88]

Last night over dinner I was playing with my food (yes, I still do this) and checking how straight my teeth are in the imprint they left in an apple. So DF and I talked about me getting my braces back on my lower teeth - something I've mentioned before, but am not overly keen on after having them on for 2 years as a teen.
THEN all of a sudden, DF says 'I've been thinking about your birthday present, and if you really want a nose job we can start seeing consultants'.

I have mentioned my nose to him a couple of times.. just the way I think most girls will say 'oh I hate my (insert body part here)'. Yes, it has a bump on it, nothing major, if I knew there was an easy fix I would probably do it, but I don't know if surgery is an over the top solution...

The next thing he said was, 'but noone can know I have offered to get it for you - your family would kill me if they thought it was my idea - which it isn't! I just know you've mentioned it and if you want it, I want you to know I will get it for you'... He is a great guy, I am sure he would not have offered if I hadn't mentioned my nose to him a couple of times in the past - he cares about the way we both look, but I don't think he wants to start changing me in any big way.

So, I guess my question is what do you think? Just a nice gesture? Something more to it? And would you accept the offer knowing your family disagrees with the idea of any kind of cosmetic surgery??

[snuffles]

It's up to you, who cares what your family thinks.

Plastic surgery is NMS at all but it's your nose, you can do what you like with it.

[bubzillaiscoming]

I agree with Snuffles - you obviously aren't being pressured by your DF, so if it is something you would like to do, then go for it.

I often think I would like to get a boobie lift (lift, not implants) once all my babies have stopped BFing, but I think I would be too scared to go through with it. I just like the idea!!

I wouldn't mention it to your family. 2 of my siblings have had their ears put back after YEARS of stressing and being unhappy with them. To be honest, I didn't really notice with either of them, they just looked a bit different but they both feel much better about themselves.

If you do it, make sure you get a new haircut or something, so that people can see something obviously different, but don't immediately notice it

[Especially*K*]

If you would like to get it done i dont see a problem with it. I'd take it as a nice gesture from your hubby.

[mollybot]

Unless you really hate it and its affecting your life I wouldn't.

Surgery sucks !! It hurts like hell, even with painkillers, and if you react to the general, its worse....

I mean, you may have already had surgery and are ok with it, but I've had surgery due to medical issues and its not something I would do because "I don't like my nose".

ouchy ouch ouch. My surgery was on my neck, not my face, but OUCH !!!!


PS: I am the world's worst wimp. I've had three caesers too, and that was just OK, but only cause I told my anesthetist "I'm a screamer, a fainter and a vomiter" and he was onto it from the start

[PaulineN]

If it bothers you - do it. It's your body but you must only do it for you. I've had my nose done about 14 years ago. I hated it and used to look in the mirror all the time putting my finger on the bump so it looked 'bump free'. So glad I did it and wish I had done it years earlier before my wedding (hate the wedding pics with my big snozz)

Remember, its a permanent change you have to live with and only you should decide whether to get it.

[Guest_3Keiki_*]

OP just a couple of things...
You say that you and DF started talking about you getting braces on your LOWER BACK teeth, because of the imprint they made on the apple, your not keen on it because you had them as a kid. Why in gods name would you need braces on your lower back teeth???? WHo the heck is examining your bite imprint??
Before you even got started I wondered who has got the desire for perfection...
Then the 'he cares about how we both look' right so he spends equal time in front of a mirror then.
OP IF you haven't mentioned your nose more than a couple of times to your DF then YES he is trying to change the way you look, he is actively asking you to achieve an ideal you don't fit right now, if he wasn't he wouldn't be offering a surgical prodcedure for your birthday he would be taking youto the Maldives, BUT you maybe ok with that as you are checking an apple for your teeth imprint - if you are then do what you want, yes it is surgery, yes all surgery carries risk and yes it hurts like hell - I have had my nose done after having it smashed. But in these kinds of situations I refer to a sig of a fellow EB member that I just love (the sig I mean) something about removing the signposts.....

[Toodee]

It doesn't sound like he was pressuring you at all with his offer. Just letting you know that the option is there if you want to take it. Think hard about what YOU want and make your decision for YOU. After all, you are the person who has to live with your nose and if you really hate it I don't see what is so bad about changing it.

[Gembac8019]

I've had my nose done in 2009 and all I can say is that even tho I LOVE the end result, It was pure hell to recover from. It is not a walk in the park and very painful.

[mummabubba]

Heck yeah - go for it!