[SomeAussieChick]

Hi,

I need a bit of advice in regards to my DS2 TT problem. DS2 will be 4 in June and he is able to start pre school in a couple of weeks but there is one problem. He will not no matter what do a pooh in the toilet. I started TT him just after his 3rd birthday. He has had wees under control for months now but poohs are a no go.

I was hoping he would've gotten over is holding him back by the time school started up again but no it hasn't. DS2 has speech issues which I don't think impact on his TT and is being seen by a ped for other issues but I have just recently changed over to a new ped as the old one was not being very helpful at all and that's putting it nicely. DS2 does not see the new ped till the middle of feb.

DS2 can count up to 9 and knows most colours even though he can't say them all as he has the speech problem. His day care kept telling me he should go to school and he would not benefit from being there any more even though of course he can stay. They kept saying it as all his *friends* from his room will be in preschool and not him.

Because of his speech issues and other undiagnosed issues sticker charts and all that do not work. I'm not saying his stupid...but they just don't work if you can understand?

Basically I'm just looking for tips on how I can help him without freaking him out do a pooh in the toilet. DS1 has SN probs as well but he was fully TT by 3 and a half. I'm pretty anxious and a couple of friends think I should just keep him out till the half year mark and see how he is.

Thanks.

[howdo]

He can start pre school even he's not fully TT, surely?

[~~K~~]

I guess it depends on his level of control. My son won't poo except in an absolute emergency on any toilet except our own. However, this isn't a problem because he has the control to not have an accident at Family Day Care (he just rushes straight to the loo when he gets home!).

If he can hold it for the however many hours he will be at preschool, it may not impact him at all. Maybe just get him to go before he leaves, and be aware he might be busting when he gets home.



This post has been edited by ~~K~~: 14/01/2013, 03:15 PM

[kreme]

What happens when he needs to do a poo? Does he let you know/request a nappy or does he just go in his undies?

Is he fairly consistent in the timing of his poos?

My DD was TT at 3 for wee but wouldn't poo on the toilet. She started preschool at 3.5 despite still not using the toilet for poo. But she only ever did a poo at night after her bath and would ask for the nappy to do it in.

I alerted preschool to the issue and send a pull up in her bag just in case but she never needed it. About a month or so later she finally got over the fear and all was fine. I don't think she ever did a poo at preschool though - she prefers our toilet

[SomeAussieChick]

I stopped putting nappies on him the day I started TT him. lol He never wets the bed at night, well never has. He just poohs straight in to his undies. Most of the time he freaks out at other times he might just do it and come up whispering to me about having done a pooh in his pants. I think he whispers because he thinks he is in trouble.

Nope doesn't ask for anything to do a pooh in to just does it in his pants. I just take him to the toilet and empty the pooh in to the toilet and tell him poohs are done in the toilet and say it a few times but it never sinks in. Nope no regular pooh time I'm afraid. Very random with his poohs. lol.

The principal told me that unless he is fully TT he can't start in a couple of weeks. The only way he can go is if I stay in the class room every day all day while he is there basically as his personal toilet aide..lady...till he is fully TT and then I can go home and stay there...He said we are a school not a daycare. I live in a very small town and this is the only preschool in town.

This post has been edited by ~Lady_Muck~: 14/01/2013, 03:28 PM

[howdo]

That's unusual. I have always found that pre schools and schools are quite accommodating of toileting. Is it 3yo preschool and a private preschool? I would have assumed that he could not be excluded at 4yo or in a government setting.

[SomeAussieChick]

Nope just a regular normal public school. No private schools around here. He said he will benefit from going to school and I said I know this.

[lsolaBella]

How many days a week. DS2 had 1 day preschool at 3yrs turning 4. Also speech delayed and refused to poo in toilet. Took until May for him to poo in toilet. Luckily he only had one poo accident at Kinder in that time and they were happy to deal with it.

[Peppery]

My DD is exactly the same, just goes straight in her undies. I am sorry that the school is not understanding. DD has pooed in her undies on more than one occasion at preschool but her teachers are absolutely fine with cleaning her up.

Can you start mid term possibly after seeing the paed? The paed might have things you can attempt to overcome the problem?

[howdo]

If it's public school and he is 4yo, I would challenge it. He's entitled to be there. Which state is it?