[Kickingitcountry]

I'm pregnant with my 1 st and I'm a pro vac. I have a friend who dosnt vaccinate her kids. She wants to come visit soon after the baby is born. When I declined she got very up set and called me all sorts of names ect

I was shocked she knows I'm pro vac and got upset that I felt that until my child was at least partially vaccinated I didn't want her non vaccinated children around my vulnerable new born baby why I know that my child will encounter non vaccinated people throught their lives but I just cant bring myself to knowingly put my new born into that situation.
Wdyt am I over reacting?

*this was posted in in a another thread

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Me:27
DH: 27
DS due: 9/3/13

[elizabethany]

you have the right to choose who visits your newborn. And she has the right to feel the repercussions of her choices.

Stick to your guns and goodluck.

[Jaffacakes]

Nope not overreacting at all

Is the mother vaccinated? Could she visit alone?

[Super Cat]

You're not over reacting and your friend is a selfish prat. If she wants to endanger her own children that's bad enough, but to get all sh*tty because you won't let her near your newborn is just about as selfish as you can get.

Stick to your guns.

[Satay chicken]

Wdyt am I over reacting?

No way!!!!! I would be exactly the same....

[Anlawich]

That's fair enough OP.

Are you checking to make sure all adults that visited are vaccinated also? Whooping cough especially.

[epl0822]

I think it's poor taste to insist on visiting newborns/new mum in general. If the new parents WANT you to visit, great...but if they don't want any company because they're tired/you're not vaccinated/you voted Labour/they don't like you in general/etc - why have a tantrum? (Did she seriously call you names...? I mean how old is she?)

My DS spent some time in special care nursery and even the parents had to scrub their hands and arms up to elbows THOROUGHLY before they were allowed to even go near the babies. Parents have a right to choose who gets to hang around their newborn baby.

You probably shouldn't invite her to see you at all, not because she's a non-vaccinator, but because she's a moron.

[AvadaKedavra]

I would no longer call such a friend a friend.

[Red nut]

She's made her choice, and if she wants you to respect that, she needs to respect your choice. Put your fragile newborn at risk of dying from a preventable illness, or put her nose out of joint? No contest.

[gettheetoanunner...]

No - not overreacting.
She called you names?
Wipe her like a dirty bum.