[Sunnycat]

Scenario is this. I am a casual acquaintance with someone (her DH is good friends with my DH so I only know her through my DH). I mostly interact with her through FB.

The wife is pushing for another child and her DH agreed to one under strict "conditions" and has stated numerous times that he doesn't want anymore children. He has other kids to a past relationship and has told my DH that he is secretly going to get a vasectomy and not tell his wife.

Their relationship is very "different".

Would you tell he wife that:

A) the husband is planning a vasectomy or
B) if he has already had the vasectomy, that he had one and that's why she's not having any luck falling pregnant
C) say nothing and mind my own business.

I think I should mind my own business but when speaking to a third party, she thinks I should tell the wife. I don't feel like I know her well enough.

What do you think?

ETA: I also don't know the DH well enough to talk to him and my DH has told her DH that he thinks that's a sucky thing to do but that's about it.

This post has been edited by Sunnycat: 21/01/2013, 08:40 PM

[**Xena**]

D) Smack the husband upside the head.

That's such a sticky one. Horrible thing to do to the person you are supposed to love! This is going to end badly if one day she wants fertility testing to find out why they aren't getting pregnant.

No idea what you should do though, just awkward. Why would he tell you and put you in his mess too! Sheeesh!!

This post has been edited by **Xena**: 21/01/2013, 08:38 PM

[Fossy]

C mind your own business

[#B#]

I know someone that did this before I knew him. They had 7 children so he snuck off and got it done.
They are now divorced i believe after she found out

[imamumto3]

I agree with pp, what happens when she wants testing to see why they can't fall pregnant.

do you think he may have been joking?

[handsfull]

Mind your own business. Its their relationship and if he is going to be going behind her back then he can take the consequences when he finally comes clean to her.

No need for you or your DH to be involved.

[R2B2]

i'd probably ask him if his nuts are still feeling tender in front of his wife

on a serious note though, I have no idea. tricky one.

[erindiv]

I honestly don't know what I'd do. I think I'd probably do nothing, simply because I wouldn't know what to do. If anything, I'd casually message the wife one day, see if the whole babymaking thing came up and then say "Oh, DH said your DH had a vasectomy, I didn't realise you were trying."

[StudyMummy]

Sounds like a situation where there can be no winners

[SoxyMama]

E. Keep out of it and then wait and see if she gets pregnant...

(Sorry... it was what first came to my head!)

This post has been edited by Katakacpk: 21/01/2013, 08:53 PM