[monkeys mum]

So it's reached that milestone in my pregnancy, the morphology scan.... eek!

We have a divided house on whether we should find out. DP and DS want a surprise, DD and DS want to find out, I am the deciding factor. I am torn, I hate surprises, like really even as an adult I want to know what i have been bought by the kids for Christmas, or want to sneak a look at their Mothers day stall purchases. Now a surprise would be something new to me with the boys we found out. With DD I found out, ex didn't want to know, he got told when we broke up a few weeks before she was born, but this was totally different circumstances. So with every pregnancy we have had a 18/20wk surprise. This time it was DP that said how about not finding out.

My reasons for not knowing what to decide are, so we can be prepared, the usual clothes from the boys can be dug out, so can clothes from dd though there isnt many of them. We can also prepare DD if its a brother, she has wanted a sister since before DS2 came along, yes she gets its 50/50, but I know she would really love a sister. Also I can make boy or girl specific items as i crochet and sew, though obviously can do unisex. We can work out names, dp is so frustrating in this regard, girls name I have one i love, boys names dp hates all of the ones i love.

Sorry for the rambling but I just don't know what to do. Have you found out the gender in one pregnancy and not another?

Any advice for me? I really would love some to save me sitting up till dp gets home with my mind in over drive.

This post has been edited by monkeys mum: 23/01/2013, 01:19 PM

[imamumto3]

we found out with ds because it was so obvious on the scan. for dds we didn't find out. I liked not knowing and being told at birth. with ds delivery it was "it's a boy" and I almost felt like yeah, I know, so what. with the girls it felt more special and I was more emotional.

[bakesgirls]

I found out with all my pregnancies and loved knowing. So I'm in the find out camp. IMO, it's still a surprise when you find out, it's just a little earlier.

For me and my husband, it took nothing away from the birth. We were still excited to meet our daughters each and every time. To find out what they looked like, how big they were, any little quirks they may have. Just to meet the little person that you helped to create, it was no less exciting because we knew we were having girls.

EFS

This post has been edited by bakesgirls: 22/01/2013, 10:44 PM

[R2B2]

We found out with all of ours. number 3 - being our last was meant to be a surprise, but i'm weak

I honestly think the biggest surprise is seeing what they look like!

[CallMeProtart]

I could never wait to find out. Anything I can possibly know about them before they arrive just makes me feel closer to them. TBH I think that's kind of when I start bonding.

[abcd_efg]

I've done one of each, and if I go for #3, i would opt to find out.

For me, the birth was so amazing and emotional that the gender of the baby was an afterthought really. DH was all excited pre-labour to be able to annouce the gender to me, but he forgot all about it when she actually arrived. I had to check for myself.

Finding out at the scan was exciting, and meant i could prepare and shop accordingly. I much prefered this option.

[cinnabubble]

We didn't find out either time. I don't care what people say, it ruins the surprise.

[Sunny003]

Sigh.

DS1 & DS2 we didn't find out. Loved the surprise, it was nice.

DD1, we found out. BUT, we were told boy. By two technicians, at the same time :0 they were certain it was a he LOL and out popped my little princess.

So I would opt for not finding out.

[againagain]

I have had 3, and we didn't find out at the scan with any of them. We tossed up finding out with #3 but didn't again. It's kind of cool to not know and wonder about it for the rest of the pregnancy, and as a PP said I just love the moments after they are born when you find out boy or girl.

Or with my first I completely forgot and was just checking out her face and talking to her for ages and then looked at the midwife and said "OMG what is it?" She said "Didn't you find out?" and then we were all laughing that I had completely forgotten to check, she had assumed that because I didn't look or ask right away I must have already known.

[Swahili]

We didn't find out either time. I don't care what people say, it ruins the surprise.

This.

Besides, sonographers can and do get it wrong.