[michellew68]

So my DD (18) is moving out this weekend with his girlfriend. He has been away before for six months but that was at his fathers house and very different circumstances.

I never thought I would be ok with him going but he has caused us quite a bit of stress last year with job searching, cars. and other related teenager stuff. I am letting him take all of his bedroom furniture along with some towels and sheets and bits.

Would you keep your childs room as their room or turn it into something else? DH keeps bringing up that add an tv where the kid comes home and they have put a spa in his room, lol.

I am starting some study this year and want to put a desk in there for me but I feel guilty. I want my kids to know they always have a home here. WWYD?

This post has been edited by michellew68: 23/01/2013, 02:26 PM

[Old Grey Mare]

We are looking at the prospect of DD moving out sometime in the forseeable future now she is 18. I think I would keep her room the same for a while as I can see her being a bit of a boomerang. In your case can you fit a desk in without completely taking over the whole room?

[opethmum]

I would put whatever takes your fancy and if it is a desk then so be it, no guilt needed. Don't keep a shrine to your son in there otherwise he might think that he has a free pass.
Your DS has made a decision with his life and you should encourage him to keep it on track. Make it known to your kids that your place is the last resort and that yes they are welcome to come home for dinner and whatnot but they are now adults and it is up to them to keep the roof over their heads now, not you.
Your son is grown and you should bloody well celebrate and you should use your new room as a study to complete your dreams.
Good luck!!

[spellfall]

I moved out 2 years ago... My room is now an extended wardrobe for my sister / spare room / general storage room. Otherwise, it still looks the same and I have to admit I still keep a lot of stuff there.

If you are going to do something, I advise dpi g it ASAP or it may never happen!

[asdf89]

When my sisters and I moved out of home to start uni, we moved to a new town so mum kept our bedrooms as bedrooms so we'd have somewhere to stay on uni holidays.

If he's staying in the same town so won't need a bed when he comes to visit - go for it! My mum has since turned one of the bedrooms into a study, and another into a sewing room. The sewing room has got a futon in it, for guests.

[michellew68]

I shouldnt feel guilty about it I know but I think there is a sadness that your once dependent little boy doesnt really need you anymore.

The room will be empty as he will take everything. It would be silly to leave it empty.

He is so loud and difficult with the rest of the family sometimes so I wont miss that. Especially dinner time. DH works nights so just DS (15) and DD (2) and me. So peaceful.

It is that little character that I watch in old videos and that mate I had through the single parent years that is gone now. It is accepting that your kids DO grow up. Now I have tears.

[howdo]

My old room is the study all good

[kadoodle]

My mum turned my old room into a guest room with an en suite. But she left the posters on the wall. I hope her guests like students politics and cartoons.

[takingitback]

My poor children have never been able to keep there rooms because as a foster parent we always seem to need a spare bed! We always need an extra bedroom.

You could always put a day bed or sofa lounge in the room along with your desk.

[wilding]

My room (sleepout attached to the garage) was converted into storage the moment I moved out, which to be honest made me feel like crap and unwanted. My brothers a few months later after he moved. My younger brother moved to uni 2 years ago and his room wasn't converted into anything.

I'll probably leave me son's room as it is.