[Nofliesonme]

As the title suggest. Tell me your negatives

[Mama8]

You might want #6 after that

[podg]

Money. And busy-ness - getting people to their various destinations, activities, parties, friends, jobs and interests is going to be difficult.

A few kids ago I would have said babysitting - grandparents don't look after our whole troop any more.

[Nofliesonme]

Is it harder or do they generally slot in? Mama8 that is a huge concern lol. Is 5 really harder than 4? Is 6 harder than 5??? Lol

Oh and we don't really have anyone to babysit for us anyway. Grandad does occasionally but he would take all of them

This post has been edited by thunda: 24/01/2013, 07:35 AM

[Ianthe]

I can't help you. My fifth child is wonderful.

Except of course any child you have costs money.

I found my biggest adjustment was from 3-4.

[Cat©]

I found that after #3 (which was a nightmare IMO learning that I needed to be an octopus - three kids that all did runners and only two hands OMG).

However after that it was all good, I really didnt notice #4 and #5, they just kind of blended in no issues. I guess a lot of it depends on ages.

PP is right that when you have #5 you might want #6, I still do but Im past that age now.

[MrsLexiK]

I am not a large family but I do come from one (but due to mix marriages not all blood) I was talking to one of my relatives who just had their 5th she said she would like more but their 4th does have SN's and there is no way they would be able to afford another with SN's either the same as their 4th or even needing more time and money. So if you had 5 could you afford the 6th need medical invention? or could you afford for the 5th as it is at present to need medical intervention?

[sparassidae]

Our #5 made me content to stop and happily sent DH for the snip

Life goes through periods of chaos and slightly less chaos, most of the time though I feel very stretched thin.

If we didn't have chronic health problems and ASD in the mix it may be different.

I was actually having a cry to DH yesterday about this. I had appts with two specialists this week about two children, and feeling like I just can't do it- basically the amount of work and attention as if I had two 2 yos instead of them being 13 and almost 9. In addition to a tween 11 yo who is starting to act way too emotionally needy, a 4yo who likes to act like a baby and still tantrums when he doesn't like something, and a 6yo who I feel misses out on any attention.

As I said to DH, when we planned a big family we couldn't have predicted these extra needs and I never realised how draining it would be.

I don't regret any of them, but... Yeah. Chaos and fatigue.

[Mumma Mash]

I've just had my 5th, he's a week old now.

I am in love and am so glad we had him, however we had a exhausting pg and a difficult labour thst ended in an emergancy c/s, and the recovery is horrible. So for me this is it as sad as I am that it's over I know it's the right time. DH is getting his vasectomy t omorrow

[bec4]

As most of the other families have said - its the time factor I find hard. They all need to be in different places at different times, School, Kindy, work, sport, appointments etc etc. I sometimes feel like I am stretched a little thin.

It is also hard to attend everything with a two year old in tow - especially the older two boys sport and school things. I know this will get easier when he stops running away at every opportunity though.

I don't find the money issue a major factor, 4 kids cost alot one more doesn't really matter. I do notice more washing though.

Bec

This post has been edited by bec4: 24/01/2013, 03:18 PM