[riva99]

I have 2 amazing, happy, healthy, busy boys. 2 children is a good number for us. It suits our finances, our home and our lifestyle. Dh and I have decided we won't have any more children.

A part from a really strong desire to, I can't think of any reason to have another.

But I want one! (Pouting, foot stomping) I can't explain why. I'm usually a very rational person but not about this. It makes no sense.

I am hoping that once the boys get to school and I get more time to focus on other things (career, hobbies, travel) that the desire will fade. By then I will probably be too old to have any more so the decision will be made.

So does it?

[**Xena**]

It sort of does.

I have 3 and my DH and I decided that was it for us. The desire for more still comes and goes with me though. Sometimes I am glad because I can move onto a different part of my life- focussing on a career, my hobbies and enjoying my kids becoming more independent. Other times I am sad that I will never do it all again; especilly when DH and I are so damn good at making awesome kids

[CupOfCoffee]

I can't answer you. But we have two, and we have decided not to have any more. For us, it is a logical choice to stop at 2, but I just have this desire to have one more.

So I hope it goes away, because like you, there is no reason or argument for why I want more... I just do.

[Pooks*potters]

Is there ever a reason for having kids other than wanting them?

[mummabear]

I didn't think it ever would, I have been swooning over babies since I was a child.

But then it happened, and suddenly the thought of another baby just fills me with horror.

There is hope!

[CupOfCoffee]

Is there ever a reason for having kids other than wanting them?

This is true

I guess the reasons why we shouldn't have more outweigh the 'just want them' side of the argument.

[BadKitteh]

I'll be watching the replies closely. I worry I'm going to become bitter about not having another child.

I think Pooks is right though.

[Boombox]

I don't think it does for some people. I for one would love a fourth. I love being pregnant, don't mind labour, love BF, and it makes me weep my babies are all growing up.

But rational me knows it's not feasible, and I have to live with that. Same as I wanted a pony when I was growing up and would keen in a crazy person way until my dad would shout at me. I eventually (years later) accepted I was never to have a pony. Life goes on!

ETA I just noticed you asked if it becomes regret- I don't think so, it just becomes acceptance.

This post has been edited by thecleanowl: 24/01/2013, 02:46 PM

[~Sorceress~]

It went away with number 6 for me . I was worried that no matter how many children I had, I'd still have an irrational desire for more ... but once I had our last baby, I knew I was ready to move on to the next stage of life .

[Natttmumm]

For us it didn't and now im 37 weeks pregnant with number 3. It hasn't been an easy ride though looking after 2 kids and being pregnant. Still I wouldn't change it for anything. So excited to be welcoming our much wanted baby number 3 in a few weeks.
Go with your heart.